Have you ever been accused of cheating?

[Dunks]

The second you have to start proving things to your girlfriend is when you really need to think about whether there is any point carrying on.

Exactly.

If my GF did this, I'd be having a serious rethink.

 

[Morba]

Usually only for 'public' lines, personal DDI numbers are often still geographic.

As for the OP, if she really doesn't believe you, then get some solid evidence.
There's always a question of trust in situations like these but it's not having a massive barney over.

Can't say I have worked with any that do. Companies where people have ddi on ip seem to all have ngns for their ddis (makes more sense given the ability to manage things better).
Having gn's instead give the impression that the call isn't local at all on ip, as like the op said, they aren't local numbers at all

 

[Randomface74]

The second you have to start proving things to your girlfriend is when you really need to think about whether there is any point carrying on.

+1

 

[Skillmister]

I have been accused of cheating a couple of times. The accusations were correct i had in fact been stealing money out of the monopoly 'bank'

 

[Gackt]

The second you have to start proving things to your girlfriend is when you really need to think about whether there is any point carrying on.

While I agree to an extent, I don't think as soon as there are doubts that you should cut and run, or consider it broken and leave it for dead. People falter, or make mistakes, a simple conversation could solve any issues. Obviously, that doesn't mean it isn't cause for concern, I just don't think that manning the life-rafts is really necessary at this point.

 

[The Funktopus]

If I were in the OP's position I'd question whether she trusts you at all if she's throwing such accusations at you. The kid complicates things, but if she's so suspicious of you and thinks you're so untrustworthy despite never having given her cause to be, then I'd wonder why I was in the relationship at all.

A mate of mine's 26, his girlfriend's 34 and quite how he puts up with her insecurity I don't know. She's paranoid he'll trade her in for a younger model, thus if he's on the phone she'll listen in, and she sulks with him for days when he goes out with the lads (which is seldom these days sadly). Just the other day she was eavesdropping on him on his mobile to one of the lads when he said word's to the effect of "Yeah, we'll have to get out for a beer sometime mate, it's been a while" At that point she snatches the phone off him, launches it onto the couch and starts yelling at him that he's not even asked her permission! There were a few of us there at the time having a few drinks and watching a DVD, and she did this in front of all of us. I really do feel sorry for him, he's a top bloke and would have no problem finding someone else (and no, he's never been the type to cheat) I don't know why he puts up with it, he certainly doesn't deserve that sort of treatment.

 

[G|mp]

All the time, I find the comforting bosom of my bit on the side helps.

 

[d_brennen]

Drastic action required: Go get her, drive her up north, ring her mobile right in front of her, tell her to GTFO

 

[djohn]

Although I agree with most of what's been said regarding trust, I can understand the partner feeling a bit confused especially if she does not understand these type of phone carriers. She obviously would have been expecting to see a northern code and shocked/surprised to see local code but it does need sorting out in a calm manner if you both want to remain together.

Remember it's never being let down or giving a reason not to be trusted in the first place that builds up a loving/trusting relationship. Good luck.

 

[Mason-]

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[killsta]

I have been accused of cheating a couple of times. The accusations were correct i had in fact been stealing money out of the monopoly 'bank'

I've no words for this.

Scum.

 

[fez]

Drastic action required: Go get her, drive her up north, ring her mobile right in front of her, tell her to GTFO

I actually kind of like this one. I couldnt stand going out with a girl that was like that. Women are crazy and you cant let crazy people think they are right when they are not. It leads to all sorts of issues later down the line.

I personally would make bloody sure she realised what a retard she had been and then I dont think the relationship would go any further. I can't stand cheats and have never cheated on a girlfriend. If a partner ever accused me of something like that she wouldn't have to worry about me cheating.

 

[uber soldat]

Thought this was going to be a gaming thread lol

 

[snapdragon]

The second you have to start proving things to your girlfriend is when you really need to think about whether there is any point carrying on.

I agree completely, recent event went as follows

tucked up catching Z's with the gf, she'd been feeling rough and had decided to ring work at around 4 am, this woke me up so we both sat in bed whilst she called work, during her call we both heard a vague and distant beep,

Call to work ends and she then ask's me to check my mobile, I tell her my msg tone is nothing like that but did my mobile out of jeans to check it just to appease her, checks mobile and as expected nil, nothing nada.

"can I look at it?" says she

15 minute debate ensues as to her "needing" to look at my mobile, and with typical female logic, if I won't show it her then I must have something to hide. I left the room and ended up on the sofa watching drab telemarketing programs, unable to sleep as I'm so wound up.

7am I go up and take her a drink as a peace offering ( even though I've done nothing wrong, it's a minor thing and I'm trying to promote harmony ) again it starts although with a lighter less accusatory tone.

"I'm not starting down that path, I not going to be in a position of having to prove myself to you, a relationship is built on respect, part of that respect requires you to have faith in the other person, if you don't have it there's not much point us continuing really"

so wish I'd injected at that point with the classic vaderism " I find your lack of faith disturbing "

I head off for work humming the tune to another one bites the dust, got back to her place later that day to a meek and mumbled sorry, turns out whilst she'd been making the bed that morning ( as I was around 5k away at work ) she heard the mysterious beep again, still none the wiser as to what it was or where it came from, and THEN she still had the nerve to suggest the prior night would have been much less traumatic had I simply shown her my mobile!!

women, they just don't get it do they

 

[Mr Jack]

Has she cheated on you before? Sometimes cheaters become really paranoid as they know all the "signs"

This basically. You can be pretty sure your wife is dancing on some other pole.

 

[snapdragon]

This basically. You can be pretty sure your wife is dancing on some other pole.

Cut's both ways though, it's not always that they are / have / going to cheat on you in order to know the signs, my current gf was with her former partner for ten yrs before they got married, they had a lovely home cracking little 3 yr old son all seemed rosey!

They didn't even make their first wedding anniversary, she discovered he'd been having an affair for 6 of the ten years they'd been together, he'd even been on the phone and sent his bit on the side a message telling her he loved her on the day he got married, this as you can imagine did not go down well.

I can appreciate and understand how much this must have hurt the gf, but I refuse to allow it to taint our relationship.

to the op if you really want to put this to bed so to speak, do as mentioned above, drag her up north then call her, prove beyond all doubt that you are beyond reproach, make it clear you've done nothing wrong and won't tolerate it in future.

 

[fez]

Guys, how do you let your missus get away with this sort of thing. Everyone that posts something like this always ends up barely winning the argument and the missus comes out feeling like she didnt actually do anything wrong.

 

[snapdragon]

They only get away with it because they have breast's

and that other thing

 

[loltim]

Guys, how do you let your missus get away with this sort of thing. Everyone that posts something like this always ends up barely winning the argument and the missus comes out feeling like she didnt actually do anything wrong.

man up?

 

[Muban]

Considering what you have said it does seem like rather an over reaction on her part. I can only assume she has had someone do something like that to her in the past or that is is very insecure anyway. I might have expected someone to ask about it (if they don't know about things like IP phones) but more along the lines of 'It was weird when you phoned me the other night from up North it showed as a local number' and then for the light to have dawned when you explained it. It's about all her though, not about you or your relationship. She has issues which she needs to sort out for herself so that when she is with someone trustworthy (you) she doesn't go about making wild accusations.

Just to redress the balance from all the falsely accused cheating stories. I once accused someone of cheating after a period of very suspicious beahviour. I got the 'how could you accuse me of such a thing', 'if I have to prove myself' lines. I beat myself up about it thinking I must have made them feel awful and how bad a person I was for not trusting them. Only to find out two weeks later (while the suspicious behaviour continued and I got paranoid that I had issues because I was seeing something that wasn't there) that they were sleeping with someone else and had been for quite some time.