How do you handle family drama? Finding it tough.

KatanaDV20

KatanaDV20

KatanaDV20

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Hey guys,

My sister and my bro-in-law are constantly bickering with my parents. It sounds horrible but I dread goin over for family get-togethers (Im goin next weekend) cuz I know things will fire up *again* and Im left caught in the crossfire feeling like a loon. People are meant to be happy when they go visit parents & siblings etc. but I dread it cuz I find the drama v. upsetting.

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70% of the problem is caused by my dad I know who has good intentions but constantly hollers at my sister cuz shes "just" a housewive (one child) and doesnt have a job. He spoils her a lot..got her a house, a car...but then he says "youre not grateful" but shes like " I never said that" etc. He speaks to her like shes 18 or something. All this leaves my poor bro-in-law (he works very hard as an animator for PS3 games) feeling like a loser cuz as a husband HE wants to provide for her but his father-in-law gets everything for them. So this causes endless hollerin' in the house and I dunno if I can handle it anymore. It just drains you.

Im goin thru a divorce myself and this is somethin I just dont need. I tell you my family would have the entire world glued to their TVs if we went on Big Brother.

Any of u lot go thru something similar? How did u handle it?
 
You cant pick relatives only friends.

Visit the ones you like or go at times when the annoying bickering dosent happen.
 
Talk to your Dad?

Tell him that you don't like the drama, and it makes you not want to come over any more? Ask him to cut your sister some slack?

If you can't communicate with your Dad then you won't ever change the situation. In this case it boils down to either turning up and putting up with it, or just not going over. Far better to talk to him...
 
Tell your dad to stop being such a ****head, things are fine the way they are and he has no right to try and force his heavenly and saintly image on your sister and brother-in-law.
 
Dmack said:
Mediate.
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Exactly. In my experience, most arguments are caused by each party not really understanding the other party's point of view. Things get distorted in the heat of an argument and an unbiased 3rd party can often help to clarify things.
 
There seems to be a whole lotter hollerin up in dat house homeboy! Perhaps spend your time teaching yourself English and you won't even hear the arguements :p
 
I know it's hard, but I tend to keep my nose out of things.. If my Mum and Step-Dad argue.. I put my earphones in and try to go to sleep..
 
KNiVES said:
I think you'll find nobody cares.
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Obviously No1newts cares since he took the time to point it out in the first place. However you are correct that I don't care what you think :)

You appear to be on a bit of an "alpha keyboard warrior" mood so have fun with that.
 
Learn to love the family drama :) There are many unfortunate people out there who don't even have a family.

Perhaps you should organise a family outing to break the tension a bit. Lunch, dinner, sightseeing trip or something? Being outside of the house will probably mean less arguments as nobody wants to create a scene in public
 
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