Would you risk a friendship for a relationship?

I'm in a similar situation with a friend of over 10 years. We always had feelings for eachother but obstacles and our own issues got in the way many times. We eventually got "semi-together" recently to make a go of things. 2 or 3 weeks in and I felt she was failing to put any sort of effort in despite saying said she wanted to. She was intentionally ignoring my texts and always "too busy". When I asked to talk to her about this like we've always done about our problems, she refused to make time to meet me, claimed I was being dramatic and generally ridiculed and insulted me. Felt like she completely just disconnected, even as a friend, but not sure why. Prior to us getting "semi-together" we were happier than could be, I never would have imagined she would turn like this. I'm now on the edge of ****ing her off completely, because I know I deserve better, but foolishly still willing to give her a chance to explain...

Edit: Sorry forgot to mention the whole point of me posting this lol: Don't hold any expectations.
 
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it depends

I m in the same baot, however I got to know her for the purpose of that...but I made a mistake and went with someone else woh was a freind...so it depends on a lot of things

you can live your life going what if or you can bite the bulliet and go for it...
if it works your laughing if it don't well it depends what happens, it might not mean you lose the freindship, it depends what happenes at the end of the day.

and congratz
 
LOAM said:
Been there it lasted about 2 months, we no longer talk.

Not saying they never work but if they don't it's very hard to go back.
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Me and a boy were best mates since kids and then got to about 16/17 got all caught up on a night out and now we dont talk and avoid each other and im still gutted ive lost such a good mate
 
Doesn't this go completely against the theory that once you are in the friend zone, it's nearly impossible to take it to the next level.

I presume it must be the mutual attraction and the history between the 2 here being the difference?
 
DB_SamX said:
Doesn't this go completely against the theory that once you are in the friend zone, it's nearly impossible to take it to the next level.

I presume it must be the mutual attraction and the history between the 2 here being the difference?
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i would say so yeah.

theres definately physical attraction between us, and now were giving it a go :)
 
MiNxYyY said:
Lets say you had a really good friendship with a girl you were close to, and things started getting serious between you, would you risk that friendship to try a relationship?

Im in the situation were i can start a relationship with a really close friend and it could be awesome or it could go wrong and i would lose the freindship i have with her.

So what would you do?
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Have done this in the past and it went well for a couple of years then fizzled out. We are still friends though.

I have another friend I have known for many years who I am developing really strong feelings towards. Things have happened between us in the past, nothing serious, but we have shared beds and cuddled and stuff. Never could quite work it out if she wanted more those times.

If a girl gets into bed naked with you, is she saying she wants more? :confused:

Anyway, I have been mulling over asking her out but am really scared about it. We are both in our thirties now and share the same interests and are both single and have been for some time. She is kind of like my perfect woman. No girl I have ever been out with marks as high as I think she is as a person.

Very confusing is life sometimes. :(
 
PapaLazaru said:
Have done this in the past and it went well for a couple of years then fizzled out. We are still friends though.

I have another friend I have known for many years who I am developing really strong feelings towards. Things have happened between us in the past, nothing serious, but we have shared beds and cuddled and stuff. Never could quite work it out if she wanted more those times.

If a girl gets into bed naked with you, is she saying she wants more? :confused:

Anyway, I have been mulling over asking her out but am really scared about it. We are both in our thirties now and share the same interests and are both single and have been for some time. She is kind of like my perfect woman. No girl I have ever been out with marks as high as I think she is as a person.

Very confusing is life sometimes. :(
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Its definately a sign she wants more :) shes letting you see her intimate places ( wether shes fully naked i dont know ) so shes not hiding anything from you :)

I say go for it mate :)
 
MiNxYyY said:
Its definately a sign she wants more :) shes letting you see her intimate places ( wether shes fully naked i dont know ) so shes not hiding anything from you :)

I say go for it mate :)
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She was fully naked. Happened a few times. She has got THE most amazing tatties as well. :D

I am glad two of you have said yes as some of my other lady friends that don't know her all said he wants more.

Just need to find the right time to talk to her I have got a lot of things I want to tell her. :)
 
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