Confused about other people

TheCenturion · 21 Sep 2010 at 13:08

To pose another question for you guys:

What if somebody does/says something(s), which are for the most part similar to the events in the op, but far different in nature, ie: they are not necessarily meant as bullying or abuse. The person then later proceeds to apologise for said incident. How would I deal with that? So far when this happens, I've accpeted the apology almost every time.

Voltar · 21 Sep 2010 at 13:11

TheCenturian said:
Btw voltar I messaged you in trust, did you receive it?

Not go it as that email address is a bit dodgy. However, I'd encourage you to add me on MSN.

mk1_salami · 21 Sep 2010 at 13:38

From personal experience you really do need to make a stand at somepoint or it will continue.

I used to get pushed around, headlocks, tripped up etc when I was at school and I'm not sure why, but one day I just got fed up of it all and snapped. It was such a silly thing that pushed me over the edge as well. Almost like the straw that broke the camels back.

One of the bullies stole a good pencil from me, you know the £3-4 fancy ones for technical drawing etc and was waving it about in a triumphant "what are you gonna do about it??" type way and proceded to smash it up on the floor. Well that was it, I headbutted him and bust his nose up. Blood everywhere, the works.

Well it never really happened again and I started to get a whole load less crap in my direction. You really need to stand up to people and don't just mouth off either. Hit them hard like you mean it and they'll think twice before crossing you again.

TheCenturion · 21 Sep 2010 at 14:01

mk1_salami said:
Hit them hard like you mean it and they'll think twice before crossing you again.

The problem with this is that they usually hit me, much much harder in return

Castiel · 21 Sep 2010 at 14:11

TheCenturian said:
The problem with this is that they usually hit me, much much harder in return

Use a cricket bat...

The IPB · 21 Sep 2010 at 14:14

Aim for the balls and hit hard, that'll learn em.

TheCenturion · 21 Sep 2010 at 17:28

Voltar said:
Not go it as that email address is a bit dodgy. However, I'd encourage you to add me on MSN.

can do that at the weekend. not now I'm afraid

Castiel said:
Use a cricket bat...

I have done in the past, didn't really work out. I didn't have enough intent so I didn't actually do any damage.

Dkore-DeX said:
Aim for the balls and hit hard, that'll learn em.

For me, that's too much of a cheap shot

The IPB · 21 Sep 2010 at 19:03

You say they are bigger than you, you say if you hit them they just hit you back harder.

But you won't do pretty much the universal man destroying move, because it's cheap?

arc@css · 21 Sep 2010 at 20:22

Do speak to someone. Talk!

TheCenturion · 21 Sep 2010 at 21:20

Dkore-DeX said:
But you won't do pretty much the universal man destroying move, because it's cheap?

Even they would not do that to me. They'd draw the line WELL before that, believe it or not.

fiveub · 22 Sep 2010 at 08:15

Sounds like when they bully you, you are alone? - Just stick with people, go out more with decent mates and I am sure that they will leave you alone? It is a whole kid thing what they are doing, in a few months or so you will notice that it will go away.

FNGsam · 22 Sep 2010 at 08:25

Steroids.

godinman · 22 Sep 2010 at 09:34

Greenlizard0 said:
Leave a turd on their pillow.

Shag their mom.

Leave a turd on their mom.

Are you American?

bloodiedathame · 22 Sep 2010 at 09:53

You'll probably never see these people again for the rest of your life, so don't worry. Be yourself.

FabienO · 22 Sep 2010 at 09:54

Kids at your age are harsh. Things get a lot better at 6th form, and especially university. Don't worry about it for now, it'll get better.

I remember your grades from an older post. In life, you'll end up the winner. Don't worry about them, for them, this is as good as it gets.

Sp00n · 22 Sep 2010 at 09:59

Crazy > Aggression

Don't aim for the nuts, you will get ridiculed.

The IPB · 22 Sep 2010 at 10:15

One of the bullied kids at my school tried the crazy approach, and started throwing chairs at the bullies one day, was madness this really quiet kid exploded and start hurling chairs.

Unfortunately this got him beaten up worse than before.

cHk4 · 22 Sep 2010 at 10:20

You're a little guy, only way to stop people picking on you is smash them up. When people realize they take the **** they get merked they soon will stop.

TheCenturion · 22 Sep 2010 at 20:36

5UB said:
It is a whole kid thing what they are doing, in a few months or so you will notice that it will go away.

It's been like this for a few years.

FabienO said:
Kids at your age are harsh. Things get a lot better at 6th form, and especially university. Don't worry about it for now, it'll get better.

Someone else told me that things would get better in the 6th form. They haven't really tbh

Nitefly · 22 Sep 2010 at 20:51

R420LA6X2/4MNA said:
One day, you will have real things to worry about, that day has yet to come.

Well, that was incredibly patronising :/

If these people are your friends, tell them individually and sincerely that you are fed up. If you aren't so concerned, wait until it's 1 on 1, sock them a good punch, then explain why you did it.