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OP, you might find this an interesting read 
Do you ever wonder why you put yourself through it? - Relationship thread warning
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OK
Time to lower the tone.
Get your self a "Toy or 3" and plenty of batteries
Time to lower the tone.
Get your self a "Toy or 3" and plenty of batteries
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big *hugs* to Minxy. I hope the pain and sadness passes soon. I always try to think that all the bad ones are stepping stones to the one you're supposed to be with. Doesn't make it any easier, but one day you will find true happiness
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Come for a night out in Crawley
Though with the calibre of men here, it'll only make you want to stay single even more
pffft you've obviously never been down the railway and seen me in action
I have the same views, I think you're better off meeting people through a hobby. I meet lots of great people through my main hobby (although I'm not looking at the moment)
I suppose the internet does provide an instant way of filtering out those who have ideas/traits that are a "dealbreaker". Until you invest a bit of time getting to know someone quite well, it's possible that you won't have the sort of conversations that will unearth that sort of information... (asking "do you want kids" on a first date will usually make someone run a mile, for example).
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Firstly i'm sorry to hear of your split Minxy, it's never easy and you always end up asking yourself why did you bother at the end of it. I find it's best not to be bitter about these things i'm sure you must have had some great times as a result of this relationship, just try and remember it wasn't all doom and gloom and remember the good times but acknowledge it is no more, just another chapter of your life. I've never been a big fan of the forget everything, be angry and move on approach after all it is past experiences that make people who they are. Plus people never really forget anyway.
You'll feel better in time (yeah that ole cliché), it is true however, you'll look back on this with a completely different perspective and wonder what all the fuss was about. As others have said keep yourself busy, perhaps take up something new to keep your mind busy and you'll be back to your chirpy self in no time.
Don't let it put you off, you'll find someone eventually, keep looking.
ohhhh it wouldn't be a complete relationship thread reply without the typical GD response of:
Punch him in the ovaries, kill him with fire then spiderman him!!!!!! (not entirely sure how this will work
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You'll feel better in time (yeah that ole cliché), it is true however, you'll look back on this with a completely different perspective and wonder what all the fuss was about. As others have said keep yourself busy, perhaps take up something new to keep your mind busy and you'll be back to your chirpy self in no time.
Don't let it put you off, you'll find someone eventually, keep looking.
ohhhh it wouldn't be a complete relationship thread reply without the typical GD response of:
Punch him in the ovaries, kill him with fire then spiderman him!!!!!! (not entirely sure how this will work
)That guide is pretty useless. Rich_L's guide is much better.....
Don't be sad, be awesome.
Rather than be sad that you're not going to have any more good times with that person just be happy you had some in the first place and recognise you're going to have more with someone else in the future. Someone who does want to be with you.
I liked that guide. I've been trying to get over my ex for months now so going to try follow that.
It's hard to accept that someone you let close to you can be so cold at the flip of a switch.
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Go out and smash some pasty?
Go out and smash some pasty?
Pasty isn't really my thing sorry.
Skippy, some very good advice there thank you. I was off yesterday poorly but went back to work today and feel a bit better for it.
Doofski....do your worst. If you can make me laugh then feel free to act as if it's a male thread.
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No probs, glad you're feeling a bit better, you'll be fine.
Pasty isn't really my thing sorry.
Don't knock it until you've tried it, might be just what you need
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What!!!???
Where are all the postings saying, the partner has had interest from else where????
Ah, I see.... Its a girl posting, so all the lads on here are playing the "cry on my shoulder, nudge nudge, wink wink!"
Where are all the postings saying, the partner has had interest from else where????
Ah, I see.... Its a girl posting, so all the lads on here are playing the "cry on my shoulder, nudge nudge, wink wink!"
Sorry for the rant, just needed to tell someone. To everyone who has recently split up with someone whether your relationship has been 5 minutes or 20 years I hope you find happiness in the end because that's all I want.
I know the feeling.
My gf and I were long distance for the first 14 months but saw each other for at least a weekend every two weeks. We went to Vegas, San Fran & Les Ars together and then I moved down south to be closer to her. We moved in together when I moved down here and picked a bigger flat than I normally would have got on my own. Within 6 weeks of moving in together she split up with me.
The past 6 weeks have been hell trying to get over her. She immediately started flirting with another guy and never stopped texting him. For some reason we carried on living together for 2 weeks after we split up and I watched as she got closer to this guy while she told me we were giving it a 2nd shot. She carried on telling me she wanted to be friends just "needed space" so she refused to speak to me. It's obvious now she never wanted anything to do with me but didn't have the balls to tell me.
Now it's a the point she wants nothing to do with me and now I have to move on.
Edit: Wish I had the Lushka16's guide to being dumped, and taking it like a champ' at the start! I pretty much did every wrong thing in the book!
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I know the feeling.
My gf and I were long distance for the first 14 months but saw each other for at least a weekend every two weeks. We went to Vegas, San Fran & Les Ars together and then I moved down south to be closer to her. We moved in together when I moved down here and picked a bigger flat than I normally would have got on my own. Within 6 weeks of moving in together she split up with me.
The past 6 weeks have been hell trying to get over her. She immediately started flirting with another guy and never stopped texting him. For some reason we carried on living together for 2 weeks after we split up and I watched as she got closer to this guy while she told me we were giving it a 2nd shot. She carried on telling me she wanted to be friends just "needed space" so she refused to speak to me. It's obvious now she never wanted anything to do with me but didn't have the balls to tell me.
Now it's a the point she wants nothing to do with me and now I have to move on.
Edit: Wish I had the Lushka16's guide to being dumped, and taking it like a champ' at the start! I pretty much did every wrong thing in the book!
I'm really sorry to hear that. I moved for my last partner, only 70 miles but it meant a change of job, area, leaving friends and family etc so its tough going. I hope you are finding your feet now, it took me a while but I got there in the end. I'm very lucky to have amazing mates who pulled me through it.