I'd say just stay at the head end - I've never had a feeling like I did when I heard my baby's first cry, no way would I stay in the waiting room if/when we have another. It will be another c-section now though.
Dads - has the birth changed how you see your partner?
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I'd say just stay at the head end - I've never had a feeling like I did when I heard my baby's first cry, no way would I stay in the waiting room if/when we have another. It will be another c-section now though.
My wife didn't pee or poo herself when she gave birth..
And it didn't create any intimacy issues either, quite the opposite.
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My wife didn't pee or poo herself when she gave birth..
And it didn't create any intimacy issues either, quite the opposite.
Yeah, not sure where he's coming from or going with this
I find the below comment terribly sad.
No, no it's not. I'm sorry it is for you, though.
My wife didn't pee or poo herself when she gave birth..
And it didn't create any intimacy issues either, quite the opposite.
It's a very common issue, you were lucky.
And the opposite? You got turned on by her giving birth rather than being put off sexually by it?
You'll also never hear the term "cluster feeding" when midwives etc talk to your wife about breast feeding, it's where the baby feeds 5-10mins each hour, every hour for weeks on end!
Although tbh Deadbeat everything you mentioned happened and I couldn't care less! I got to see my daughter the instant she came into this world - before even her mother, cut the cord and held her for the first 2 hours of her life. You cannot get that in the waiting room
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My wife's had four kids, I was there for all of them and I wouldn't have missed it for the world. Frankly I'm more concerned with keeping an eye on the care. Can't say she ever made that kind of mess, although it can get a bit gory. To be honest there's far more disturbing images that'll stick in the mind than a bit of poo. Wait till you see a face appear from your partners vagina.
And the opposite? You got turned on by her giving birth rather than being put off sexually by it?
I'd imagine that the intimacy comes from the division of sex from a physical act and more toward spiritual bonding (or however you're comfortable couching it), which I'll freely admit I envy. As to the excretion & tearing points, they're common features in the majority of births, particularly for slimmer women.
When the time comes, I'll certainly be close enough to get in there the moment everything's covered up, but in my experience certain shared events that a girl has considered normal for intimate couples have essentially killed my desire for her, and at that stage in a relationship sex is still very important. Childbirth is far outside of my realm of experience, but I'm not going to let assumption take either of us by surprise - such matters would be discussed ahead of time, and I'll make my wishes known.
This suddenly makes your sig look very disturbing.
LOL.
The midwives are very good at quickly wipping away any special presents your girl might leave on the bed while giving birth. With all that pushing it's almost inevitable something's gonna pop out!
To be frank, if you're scared of a whiff of doo-doo how the Hell are you going to change any nappies?
Cigar smokers in the waiting room is a euphamism for running away from the real work and hiding. Man up for God's sake; you're going to be a dad!
To be frank, if you're scared of a whiff of doo-doo how the Hell are you going to change any nappies?
Cigar smokers in the waiting room is a euphamism for running away from the real work and hiding. Man up for God's sake; you're going to be a dad!
Since mine was born of May this year I think you do need to be bonded to the Missus, since my Missus goes periodically nuts now, not sure if its hormones, lack of sleep, not working and seeing her normal work surroundings...
But she often has days where she can not make simple decisions and other days she just runs straight in to the deep end.
On the plus side she is sewn up tighter
But she often has days where she can not make simple decisions and other days she just runs straight in to the deep end.
On the plus side she is sewn up tighter
The midwives are very good at quickly wipping away any special presents your girl might leave on the bed while giving birth. With all that pushing it's almost inevitable something's gonna pop out!
To be frank, if you're scared of a whiff of doo-doo how the Hell are you going to change any nappies?
Cigar smokers in the waiting room is a euphamism for running away from the real work and hiding. Man up for God's sake; you're going to be a dad!
I have baby cousins and friends with babies, so I'm not averse to getting in up to the elbows should the situation require it. I also work in a hospital lab, and pouring out 24hr urines with the consistency of egg whites spells out just how far your tolerance for such things goes. It's a very specific distaste regarding sex & excretion.
Fair enough.
Why? Just sit up near your wifes head so you can't see it happening.
My son was born on Wednesday 29th and yes having seen what my wife went through in hospital, with attempted induced labour and then an emergency C-section, I view how she took it all as pretty heroic frankly. Post "birth" I watched them stitch her up and that was real hardcore viewing.
Am very proud of her.
Am very proud of her.
Indeed. I had no idea!!!
And the opposite? You got turned on by her giving birth rather than being put off sexually by it?
Well. lets not confuse intimacy with only being about sex.
Being part of the birth brought us closer together, and as for the sex part, I never considered it that way to be honest. It neither put me off or turned me on, I simply didn't equate it with a sexual experience.
And oddly enough their infant mortality rate is over four times higher...
Indeed, I just sat well away from the business end, holding her hand and being reassuring.