gf broke up with me, how do i get the pain away ?

Dicehunter · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:45

*Warning quite long*

Ok so my gf rang me up on monday morning and told me to check my emails and then hung up, she wrote me a break up email * 1 year and 2 months together*and although i tried it was impossible to ring her as she just hung up, she split up with me as she said she wanted freedom to do what she wanted although i never told her what to do.

We hardly ever argued, we got along so well, everyone said we looked fantastic together and then this came out of the blue, i know for a fact that there isnt another man in the picture and i do know all her girlyfriends hated me and her being together as they couldnt have girly nights anymore and she listens to what ever her friends tell her.

Anyway does anyone know anything that i can do to lessen the pain, its like a huge hollow in my chest and my stomach, head and overall body just feels so weak, any tips from you guys would be greatly appreciated.

Tefal · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:48

Masturbate.

Marine Iguana · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:48

Tefal said:
Masturbate.

Rich_L · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:49

Post naked pics everywhere.

Then masturbate

NightSt@lk3r · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:50

Plenty more whales in the sea.

Dicehunter · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:50

Rich_L said:
Post naked pics everywhere.

Then masturbate

Dont have naked pics and just NO, thanks for the *tip* though.

Bevysters · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:51

Crisps

Greenlizard0 · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:56

Masturbate to crisps while thinking about posting pics of whales everywhere.

skippy2421 · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:56

Tefal said:
Masturbate.

hahaha! OcUK at it's finest.

OP sorry to hear of your break up buddy. First off don't dwell on it any more, it's done and dusted, you can't change it, just get on with things. It's important you realise that. You'll find yourself spending so much time thinking about her no doubt, why is this? Because all the time you used to spend with her is now spent dossing around being miserable. Solution to this problem, find something to do, get some hobbies going, go to the gym etc. keep your mind active basically, all the time your mind is focused elsewhere you can't be thinking about her.

Doing the above might help, wont make it completely go away but makes you dwell on it less.

Greenlizard0 · 6 Oct 2010 at 02:59

Rereading what you said, it sounds like the classic 'you're not just going out with her, but her friends' as well type situation. I've seen/heard plenty of stories of it being hard to win if even one friend can be a bit of a ****. Chin up and head into Liverpool (I presume you're from near there?) for a night out, bash some pasty and get it out of your system.

SHEDDER1uk · 6 Oct 2010 at 03:15

go get cosy with her mother/sister

Amnesia · 6 Oct 2010 at 03:21

DF1986 said:
We hardly ever argued

why not, what the hell is wrong with you ?

even though my advice is usually ignored (99.99999% of the time) i'l give it anyway

bang one of her mates and bitch about her to that mate, i'd say its the best way to get over her....maybe not the nicest way but she isn't exactly being nice is she.

Greenlizard0 · 6 Oct 2010 at 03:25

Post gaybook photos of her mates on here. Knowing scouse women they'll be well appreciated, and they'll be most annoyed at you.

^TANK^ · 6 Oct 2010 at 03:35

Beat one off into one of her dirty socks.

"andy" · 6 Oct 2010 at 04:06

she will either enjoy going out on girly nights and never look back or she will realise her mates are fools and come running back

could go either way if her mates are really the only reason she split

me227 · 6 Oct 2010 at 04:12

If she broke up with you like that in the first place then does she deserve your respect?

Give it time, in the mean time, go out and have fun! You're single again!

EdGey · 6 Oct 2010 at 04:28

Tefal said:
Masturbate.

5punk3monk3y · 6 Oct 2010 at 05:06

Even better masturbate over her mother whilst looking at pictures of whales singing YMCA and occasionally calling her Steve, once finished wipe on curtains (women love that)

Totality · 6 Oct 2010 at 05:06

She sounds like a coward if she just broke up with you via email. In my experience that means she'll have other plans or have an eye on someone already.

Don't rise to it, go out and pretend you're having a good time and just wait. DON'T let her know you miss her even if you do. So long as she thinks you want her back she'll feel secure and do what she likes knowing she can go back. As soon as she loses that she will panic. She'll just think WTF he's over me already and try to get you back or make contact again to try to confirm if you still like her. Tell her "Sure, come down for the weekend!" and let her drive 3 hours to your house. Then when she arrives tell her you've changed your mind so she may as well drive home again and shut the door on her leaving her to drive 3 hours back again. Worked for me with a cheating ex who moved in with the other guy and tried to get back with me whilst still living with him!! I'm sure she enjoyed 6 hours of M25 rush hour, road works traffic really.

Failing that, do what I did the second time and move half way round the world! Haven't regretted it so far!

ChrisJSY · 6 Oct 2010 at 05:18

DF1986 said:
she wanted freedom to do what she wanted although i never told her what to do.

DF1986 said:
all her girlyfriends hated me and her being together as they couldnt have girly nights anymore

Doesn't add up.

Advice? There isn't much past just dealing with it and finding the next relationship to get into and fallout of repeatedly until you meet the one of your dreams, get married and eventually divorce, to do it all over again.
It hurts, but it happens a lot. Is this your first relationship? Most people I know get over it easier the second time, to the point it's like "meh, so that happened".