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Minxy

Minxy

Minxy

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OK so we all know the thread title is far from being true but I have come home tonight from a good evening out to find that my ex has removed all the tags from any photos of us together so that they no longer appear on his profile. I am trying to establish in my head as to why someone would do this and why it suddenly seems so important.

I don't do deleting people from my past (unless it has been a particularly horrific breakup) as I think they are part of my history so I find it almost hurtful that I have been removed from someones profile. It shouldn't really matter since it's just an internet page yet strangely it does matter.

Am I the only one who has found themselves feeling this way over a Facebook incident?

Sorry for seeming like I have no life. It just seems like another twist of the knife having been dumped recently, Would I be right in thinking that this probably points to the fact that he already has another girl in tow?
 
Facebook is evil, and will mess with your head if you let it.

Maybe he has removed the tag's to help get over you. Best thing you can do it close your account down for a while, I did this and it helps.
 
My ex did exactly the same to me and soon after removed the photos of us from her profile and yes, it does hurt.

First time it had happened to me, it was a pretty horrific breakup though
 
When I got ditched, I removed everything that reminded me of my ex. Photos, contacts, items she bought (they were thrown in the box in the bottom of my wardrobe.) I also did the whole facebook/msn block too. I dont like keeping in contact with ex's even if the "break up" is smooth.
 
yeah people do that. sometimes because they want to make a 'fresh start'. but mostly because it can easily be seen as quite spiteful and as silly as it sounds...its an easy way to get at the ex. which in your case it has worked quote well it would seem!

I wouldnt worry about it, unless you two had a proper bust up then he's wasting energy on that sort of thing. At the end of the day - its facebook . do yourself a favour and just ignore it :)

for the record, i see that sort of thing as a complete waste of time. I don't see the advantage it writing off chunks of my lifetime just because things didnt quite work out. My past has made me what i am and all that.
 
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probably got a new lass and doesnt want the "omg why have you got so many pics of your ex do you still have feelings for her" speech or has recently received it and is deleting them in hopes of peace.
 
Thanks guys.....just for info, I'm the she, the ex is the he. :D That saves some confusion.

I like to stay in touch with my ex's too and I only really have one where there is bad blood but that is another story.

I think dealing with a breakup is tough enough as it is yet seeing people make physical changes to their world whether it be the real one or the online one is really difficult to watch as well.

Keep those responses coming...
 
Minxy said:
Thanks guys.....just for info, I'm the she, the ex is the he. :D That saves some confusion.

I like to stay in touch with my ex's too and I only really have one where there is bad blood but that is another story.

I think dealing with a breakup is tough enough as it is yet seeing people make physical changes to their world whether it be the real one or the online one is really difficult to watch as well.

Keep those responses coming...
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Thats why I dont keep in contact with ex's. Its hurts too much seeing them with someone else. Out of sight, out of mind I go by. I havent spoken to my ex since we broke up back in March.
 
Honestly its to do with the new partner. In my experience even mentioning an ex more than once a year (in any context other than "she was a (insert appropriate bad word)") is punishable by scrotal removal and ritual burning. Perhaps an exaggeration :p

I can understand why he'd untag himself from pics with you on that basis though.

I got with the wife before the whole facetubespace generation though so its saved some heartbreak in that regard.

Though my feelings for them depend on the ex. My first is the most evil person in the universe and so i honestly dont care, my second was nice but we broke up because she was desperate for a kid (23) and i was not (18). Not that she told me that. It was the phone call 5 months later to say she was pregnant (only 3 months gone hurrah!) that gave that away. I'm not in contact with her more because the wife would just get...odd.
 
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My long term ex is one of my best friends. We were together 5 years (18-23) and six years on I can't imagine not knowing him. Fortunately boyfriends have been very accepting of the relationship I have with the ex and so we have always managed to remain mates. We never had a bad breakup, we just drifted apart so I see no reason not to speak to someone I get on really well with.
 
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I stopped reading there, then just to see if my assumption was correct I read the rest. I think the generation of people who get so worked up over facebook need to seriously need a reality check.

Depending on the break up, I have no reason personally to speak to my ex's any longer, I haven't spoken with my last for nearly a year, yes she was on my facebook, yes I removed her. There's absolutely nothing left I want.

Reason being I want nothing to do with them, I broke up for a reason and keeping them around would be masochistic of me, they were bad for me.
I honestly couldn't care at all if someone removed me but then, I've grown up to not care what other people think, most usually when it's negative.

So take my advice, don't care what I say, but also don't care what he's done.
Clearly he's hurt, or doesn't want anything to do with you, or possibly angry? I don't know the reasons for your break up. But it's his way of dealing with it, just don't be a baby because he didn't do it they way you wanted him to.
 
I've not been entirely removed as yet. Just the photos of us together have gone as if there was no link between us at all. It seems my photos of him on his own are good enough to stay though.


It's been less than a fortnight so if he's got another girl already I'll be pretty disappointed. I just think its heartless removing someone like they never mattered.
 
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This the guy you saw for 10 weeks?
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That's the one. I knew him before we got together but only official for a few weeks. A first relationhip a year down the line after a big split. I got attached more than I'd realised and it's hit me harder than I thought. I'm not normally so hung up on this kind of stuff.:o

*slaps self for getting attached*
 
Different people deal with break up in different ways.

Personally I like to keep it civil and try and stay friends if possible, my last ex though turned into a complete arse even though our break up wasn't particularly messy, guilty concience probably and because I decided to take life by the reins and live a little, which I don't think she liked.

Anywho, I wouldn't pay it much thought if you can help it, it will only bring you down.
 
I'm close to doing the same to be honest. Removing tags containing me and my ex, and then removing her from my friends list. She's the one who broke up with me, but still wants to be friends and what not. Just can't be friends when we were so happy together, think things are going awesome, then out the blue, things go cold, and she breaks up. Then, a few weeks later, she's got a new fella(which she was blatantly seeing behind my back). Got no evidence of this, but all the signs are there.

Fortunately, I'm moving to Germany in 4 weeks time, new phone number, less time. Will be a good time for me to get her out of my life, removed of Facebook, and never see her again.

While I agree she was a big part of my life, it's a part I don't care for any more.

I'm not saying that happens with all ex's though, because my ex from several years ago I have as a friend, and I always meet up with her when I'm around, as she's a good friend still.

I know you said it's another twist of the knife, but would you prefer not to see him & eventually move on and forget, or keep getting reminders of the relationship, then only to be hurt more when he gets a new lass?
 
I don't use Facebook, thank god. As far as I can make out it is a way to mimic real human interaction in the main and have connections with people you barely know for some weird psychological reasons, that I'm sure there is a medical term for. Also it feeds some voyeuristic tendencies as people trawl through other peoples profiles and pictures. I don't think it is healthy as you may have guessed :)

You've split up, move on.
 
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