Facebook = life = fact
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That's an interesting way of looking at it!
I don't use Facebook, thank god. As far as I can make out it is a way to mimic real human interaction in the main and have connections with people you barely know for some weird psychological reasons, that I'm sure there is a medical term for. Also it feeds some voyeuristic tendencies as people trawl through other peoples profiles and pictures. I don't think it is healthy as you may have guessed
You've split up, move on.
In short, 90% of people use it to market themselves and for confirmation that they are liked/popular/part of a social circle and the reassurance that they get from that.
Cue the "I DONT DO THAT" and "NOWAIIII" remarks, but I would say the majority of facebook users fit into that sentence in varying degrees, young and old, whether people agree or not.
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My ex did the exact same..
Youre his ex not sure that I see the problem with this?
I wouldn't exactly want albums of us together
I would agree. My primary use for it initially was to keep in touch with my cousins and friends who I don't see much these days because I moved away. Now it's just an excuse to be nosey and my Mum, despite not wanting her own account always wants to look at mine to see my school friends wedding/baby photos etc.
It's great when your life is happy but pants if things are not going your way because the whole world knows your business and often it's not because it's you spouting it off to the world.
Robert : I just don't get why people delete parts of their lives. It wasn't a nasty split so why get rid of happy memories? I guess that's just my take on it. I don't mean to sound like I'm shooting people down, I'm just trying to explain why I think the way I do and am curious as to why he may think differently.
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**** facebook, im on it cos it makes things easier at time to organize things with mates and to sometimes see what drunken state i was in when someone uploads pics. Other than that I wouldnt bother looking around and noticing subtle differences its a website of a profile at the end of the day, people do try using it as a mind**** to other people and some people bite, just think "meh" and logout.
Protip: Dont make status msgs about how difficult your life is or to have a go at someone, it makes u look like a total goit. In fact dont update your status at all unless it is something witty and funny!
Protip: Dont make status msgs about how difficult your life is or to have a go at someone, it makes u look like a total goit. In fact dont update your status at all unless it is something witty and funny!
You need to realise the difference between the public and private. For all you know he saved all those pictures to his computer in a folder with your name on it. It's the difference between having a reminder somewhere of a good part of his life for himself and having it plastered up for everyone (including future girlfriends!) to see.
Get a future boyfriend to print off a few pictures of every ex and stick them around his bedroom. Apparently you'd have no problem with that...
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It can help to move on. When you have somone you have been so close to and spent so many good times together they can be a constant reminder of what has been. Especially with something like Facebook that is so widely and often used.
I know because I have done it recently. People cope in different ways.
I know because I have done it recently. People cope in different ways.
That makes a lot of sense. Thank you.
I look at Facebook in this way;
Good for keeping with contact with people you don't see much.
Good for annoying people, because you're behind a computer screen so feel 'safe'.
It can either be good or bad, depending on how you look at it. I see all kind of status updates, ranging from girls who are attention seeking, to guys who have to tell the whole world that they've gone clubbing and met someone then had sexy time. I mean why?
It's basically turned in to a "I HAVEZ MOAR INTETRESTING LIFES THEN YOU0" status contest.
Regarding the topic, if he has removed you, so be it. Maybe he is/or has found someone. But you shouldn't let it bother you in anyway, go about your life, because once you're dead and in your own grave, it will be your own grave. Don't let people put you down, life your life to how you want to live it, and enjoy it.
No point hitting a comeback with the whole "change status to in a relationship", it hardly works and causes more hassle.
Good for keeping with contact with people you don't see much.
Good for annoying people, because you're behind a computer screen so feel 'safe'.
It can either be good or bad, depending on how you look at it. I see all kind of status updates, ranging from girls who are attention seeking, to guys who have to tell the whole world that they've gone clubbing and met someone then had sexy time. I mean why?
It's basically turned in to a "I HAVEZ MOAR INTETRESTING LIFES THEN YOU0" status contest.
Regarding the topic, if he has removed you, so be it. Maybe he is/or has found someone. But you shouldn't let it bother you in anyway, go about your life, because once you're dead and in your own grave, it will be your own grave. Don't let people put you down, life your life to how you want to live it, and enjoy it.
No point hitting a comeback with the whole "change status to in a relationship", it hardly works and causes more hassle.
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Facebook just causes too much trouble, I don't use it no more for this very reason.
No mate, I know the feeling. My ex deleted all her profile photos of us and it made no sense. Why would she feel the need to do that? They're crazy and yes, it adds the the pain because it feels like they want to pretend you never happened.
The best thing to do is completely cut contact and hide him from your news feed. If you don't know what they're doing, they can't hurt you.
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Well unlike everyone else on my Friends list I only have 26 friends. These are people I know well in real life and family members. Unlike 90% of other people I don't add every random I meet on the bus or at the pub. However I do agree with you. Facebook is very much about self promotion and importance.
I don't really like Facebook, but can't deny it's a good way to keep in touch with other people I don't get a chance to see often. I just wish there wasn't so much crap attached to it.
As for an ex removing everything about me from their profile. Who cares? I would actually expect it. Most breaks up do not end well, and I have little need to speak to them again, especially if they are the one doing the breaking up. But then I don't have any photos in facebook either. All I would be doing is removing them as a friend. Once you've broken up do you really care what they are doing, and why do you want them to know any more about you.
But I'm married, use Facebook very little (certainly don't have my life story on their in way of posts and photos) so maybe I don't get it. But it all seems a bit insignificant in the grand scheme of things.
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I hate Facebook, and the Internet as a whole... Yet strangely I can't stop using either.
Minxy, as much as that sounds like an incredibly puerile thing to do, it doesn't necessarily spell another woman\man on the scene. I do find it bizarre that he would attempt to erase history like that.
Meh, people are weird.
Minxy, as much as that sounds like an incredibly puerile thing to do, it doesn't necessarily spell another woman\man on the scene. I do find it bizarre that he would attempt to erase history like that.
Meh, people are weird.
I know that i was never the first man in any of my girlfriends lives. I don't need to see their ex's though, see pics of them happy etc.
Would you go round a new mans place and ask him to show you pics of him with ex's?
Would you put pics of your ex's in his face?
Also, he might just want some space from you, where he doesn't see you so easily.
Of course it will hurt you it is only natural.
You have to find a way to get over him and let go of your feelings. Best way of doing this is to do things to take your mind off of him. Keep yourself busy
join the gym go out and about.
and omg you IS a lady on ocuk? Got to be a 1st or a 2nd!!!
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FBI Agent.....
Anyway, it's only natural to hurt so much. Best thing you can do is go out with other people and get on with other things. It will only hurt for awhile and then you will realise you can do better.
Thanks guys for the insight.