We're on a break

bloodiedathame said:
That's what it was for me. Turns out I'm awesome. :D ;)
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Again, nice to hear a positive reply.

I'll stick with the rules, not contact her unless she contacts me but cool myself down and prepare for the worst.

However, prior to this she couldn't live without me, so hopefully some time to reflect will re-ignite that or she'll work out what's affecting her so much.
 
Well, neither of us truely know the rules because we've never been in this situation before, but I'll play by the 'assumed' rules that if she needs space that means me leaving her be for a week.
 
Bleek said:
Well, neither of us truely know the rules because we've never been in this situation before, but I'll play by the 'assumed' rules that if she needs space that means me leaving her be for a week.
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dude.
move on.
 
zootfloot said:
It worked for my wife and I.

I felt that after 7 years together the relationship had stagnated a bit and wanted to try different things (Code for i wanted to bang anything that i could).

We took a break of about 6 months where we both went our seperate ways and did what we had to do and to be perfectly honest it drove me crazy...it was nice "doing other things" but all i wanted after about 3 months was to get back with the ex.

Anyways long story short....we got back together after 6 months, and another 7 years down the line we are still happily married with 2 amazing kids.

I would agree that for the majority of people the need to "Have a break" is a distinct indicator as to the end of said relationship....it just wasnt with ours.
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Similar to zoo (although no kids yet) but my missus wanted a break and hung out with new friends and I had to let her go. I went out with a girl briefly inbetween but just wan't the person I wanted.

Anyway, nearly a year later she calls me up for a chat (we saw eachother regularly at social events) so long story short she wanted to get back together.

1 Year after that we were engaged. Year after that we were married. 8 years later and we're more than happily married!

Each circumstance is different but you just need to follow your gut and stick with it. If she's worth waiting for then give her space and see what happens but she can't expect you to hang around forever.

Hope it works out
 
Castiel said:
No, it is simply a way for someone to dump you without having the courage to tell you.

The only time things like trial separations work (albeit not often) is when a couple have been married for years and on occasion the time apart simply reminds them that they are better together and reminds them of what they took for granted.
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This +1
 
bloodiedathame said:
My current gf and I have been together for 7 years, with a couple of 4 month breaks in between... I feel that we've found ourselves now and we're stronger for it, though things that happened in those months we both regret.
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You mean "The grass is NOT always greener on the other side" ?
 
A break after only 6 months together?

If that happened to me I'd want out just because it complicates things further down the line and I'm not ever happy with complications.

On the other hand you admit there was a trigger for her asking for a period of separation, suggesting that boredom or a wandering eye might not be the root cause. Maybe give it 2-3 weeks. That should be enough time for someone to get their head around whether they want in to a relationship or not.
 
I wonder if **** like this would happen so often if the TV prog Friends never existed.

Sounds like an excuse to dump you slowly or just shag around for a bit - solution either way is to tap as many girls as you can whilst on the 'break' - if she dumps you at the end then who cares, if she wants to get back together then you'll be safe in the knowledge that although she might had done the dirty with the bloke from work she always talks about you've been tapping a fair few girls yourself and quite frankly might well have found a more appealing one during that time too.
 
I've always found a break to be something that gives the other person so explore another opportunity that has presented itself. E.g. someone at work, someone that gave them their number on a night out etc.

By being on a break, its a guilt free way of doing it.

I've not known a break to be any difference in my own personal experience or indeed from listening to stories from my friends.

I had also never even heard of a break before bloody Friends....
 
Well she's never been like that in the past so I'm not sure why all of a sudden she'd be like that now, she is (or was) self assured enough to end it if she didn't want it... she told me as much, but also reassured me that's not what she wants.

As for the Friends comments, raised a smile. :)

I guess there's no black and white, there's little point trying to analyse everything because sometimes there simply is no answer.
 
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