Is being an alcoholic such a crime really?

iDroid84 said:
Your joking right? Are you right in the head? ofcourse alcoholism is bad. Grow up?
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Be fair, even though the OP may be trolling there are many people who have been bought up in cotton wool and never come across an alcoholic.
The OP (if not trolling) may think that alcoholism is people going out and binge drinking on a friday night so what harm does it do.

My cousin has fostered kids for many years but one girl has stayed with her for 14 years and she is now 16.
A couple of months ago my cousin was declared an alcoholic and the young girl has been removed from the only home she has ever known for 14 years.
My aunty and uncle offered to take her because she is basically their grand daughter but the authorities wouldn't allow it.
This one incident has affected my cousins mum & dad, her 3 kids who treated her as a sister, her 3 sisters who all have their own kids who treated her as a niece/cousin and of course all her school mates because she is now somewhere else.
Try telling that family that drink doesn't do anything.
 
Scuzi said:
Try living with an alcoholic. You'll soon realise how horrible alcoholishm is. It ruins lives.
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My uncle died suddenly back in 2002. Everyone took it badly, but especially my auntie (his older sister). They'd always been really close, and he'd been living with her as he and his wife had split up.

A month later my auntie's partner of 12 years left her. She came to stay at my house (my mum and dad's house), because he owned the house and sold it when he left her. I was quite pleased about it - she and my dad were close in age, and as she didn't have kids of her own she'd always been a bit of a second mum to me.

She started to drink.

Alcoholism is not fun. Having to clean vomit off your comatose auntie, having to clean her up when she wet herself as she was totally out of it, having to take bags of rum bottles to the tip, having to go through her bags every time she went shopping,

and ultimately finding her on the bathroom floor, stone cold, having to follow the ambulance to the hopsital, and stand next to her bed in intenstive care and watch her die of liver failure at the age of 47, on Boxing Day, 2007, was not fun.

Please don't be so flippant about alcholism. It ruins lives, not only of the person who drinks, but their entire family. It nearly killed my grandma, it was the second child she'd had to bury in 5 years.
She went from a perfectly healthy person, full of life, everything to live for, to dead from liver failure, in just over 5 years. She went from a size 18 (she was a big girl) to having size 8 clothes hanging off her. She lost all the sparkle she'd ever had. She wasn't my auntie anymore.

Sorry if I'm being a downer, but it's something that really gets to me.
 
Coming from a childhood where one of my parents was and still is an alcoholic it kinda makes me angry to read this sort of question.

What sort of idiotic moron really thinks this deserves its own thread.. are you for ****ing real?
 
Having read through the posts in this thread it seems like a lot of people have been in a similar situation to me..

Its real hard.. wish i could help my mother but how do you help someone who can't see they have a problem?

The law does need changed.. the fact I can't do anything is stupid.. I need her to understand she has a problem and submit herself?? Craziness.
 
Chandler_90 said:
The law does need changed.. the fact I can't do anything is stupid.. I need her to understand she has a problem and submit herself?? Craziness.
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You can't thats the problem, if someone can't admit to the problem then thats a problem on it's own. There will be a lot more people in this situation who can't help. It's sad really but it starts with going out often. Turns to every weekend, then few times a week then every day.
 
Chandler_90 said:
Having read through the posts in this thread it seems like a lot of people have been in a similar situation to me..

Its real hard.. wish i could help my mother but how do you help someone who can't see they have a problem?
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Theres nothing you can do apart from realise that there is nothing you could have done to stop it from happening, nor is it your fault, and to focus your energies on yourself rather than fight a losing battle against someone who doesn't want to change, or until they want to change they are beyond your help.

It protects yourself from a lot of heartache in the long run.
Have a *hug* its a crap place to be believe me I know. :)
 
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dmpoole said:
Just to add to the above -
Alcohol is the only drug that once an alcoholic you can't just stop overnight.
You have to be safety managed and will be given money for your habit to slowly be weened off it.
Apart from medical drugs every other illegal drug can be stopped immediately but of course you will suffer a bit but it won't kill you.
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You seem to be forgetting, benzodiazepines, barbiturates, GHB, chloral, methaqualone and every other gabaergic drug out there...
 
knip said:
Theres nothing you can do apart from realise that there is nothing you could have done to stop it from happening, nor is it your fault, and to focus your energies on yourself rather than fight a losing battle against someone who doesn't want to change, or until they want to change they are beyond your help.

It protects yourself from a lot of heartache in the long run.
Have a *hug* its a crap place to be believe me I know. :)
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I know its hard.. I'm trying to forget it as i've spent the last 18 years trying to help..

Just wish this had a happy ending.. but its clearly not gonna have one :(
 
Chandler_90 said:
I know its hard.. I'm trying to forget it as i've spent the last 18 years trying to help..

Just wish this had a happy ending.. but its clearly not gonna have one :(
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I've spent the last 15 trying to help my Dad. If he just died on one hand it would almost be easier, rather than watching him slowly die in front of me.

Worst bit is he doesn't see he has a problem. Its not like he's got a broken leg I can strap up, or give him a part of my body to make it better.

Oh and to the rest of the world he's the nicest person on the planet. He's got that act down to a fine art.
 
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