Walk past her on the way to work. Wanna ask her out. Anyone done this, suggestions!?
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So... she moved after she noticed a creepy stalker following her to work then?
Don't delay is my advice. It might already be too late. What happens if she has a new job and doesn't walk that way anymore?
I have twice blown it with girls in the past by waiting too long when I was much younger.
First one started at my work and she was drop dead gorgeous and way out of my league but we hit it off straight away and had a great laugh at work. By the time I finally convinced myself that she actually liked/fancied me and I had a shot of asking her out, she actually said yes but then I discovered that I only had time for one date with her on the coming Saturday as her and her family were moving away from the area on the Sunday. But she did have a surprise for me that Saturday in so far as she was wearing a basque and suspenders and made it a memorable night. Just a shame that I missed out on weeks of pasty smashing if I had asked her earlier.
2nd time was a few years later with yet another drop dead gorgeous woman out of my league. I was working in a massive call centre and we had regular eye contact, smiles and said hello to each other at the drinks machine etc. I waited weeks to pluck up the courage to ask her out and then one day she didn't come into work. Later I found out she had left. I was even more gutted later when a female work friend of hers told me that it was a shame she had left cause she fancied me but I had never got round to doing anything about it
I have twice blown it with girls in the past by waiting too long when I was much younger.
First one started at my work and she was drop dead gorgeous and way out of my league but we hit it off straight away and had a great laugh at work. By the time I finally convinced myself that she actually liked/fancied me and I had a shot of asking her out, she actually said yes but then I discovered that I only had time for one date with her on the coming Saturday as her and her family were moving away from the area on the Sunday. But she did have a surprise for me that Saturday in so far as she was wearing a basque and suspenders and made it a memorable night. Just a shame that I missed out on weeks of pasty smashing if I had asked her earlier.
2nd time was a few years later with yet another drop dead gorgeous woman out of my league. I was working in a massive call centre and we had regular eye contact, smiles and said hello to each other at the drinks machine etc. I waited weeks to pluck up the courage to ask her out and then one day she didn't come into work. Later I found out she had left. I was even more gutted later when a female work friend of hers told me that it was a shame she had left cause she fancied me but I had never got round to doing anything about it
Well if you put it like that, yes.
Funny how blokes reckon all women find "confidence" attractive, when a lot of my (fit, I add) female friends usually mutter "what a ****" after some wide boy has tried chatting them up in the pub.
It's all subjective - different horses etc. You just have to go with an approach and hope that it's the right one for that person.
You're wrong, confidence is king and works for me.
You can't flirt (successfully) without confidence in who you are and what you're doing.
Just because someone is confident it doesn't make them a wide-boy. You can be funny with it, charming, charismatic... confidence doesn't have to equate to ego.
....although a little can help of course. You need to work out what type of prey you're hunting, be gregarious, be spontaneous and if that fails you, ramp up the speed of liquor intake.
The really annoying ones are where you pluck up a bit of courage, saunter over, chat for a while, have a few laughs, get a few drinks in, then find out they have a boyfriend.... FFFUUUUUUUUUU
Have to get that question in straight away, some girls think nothing of leading someone on for free booze (getting nowhere after 1 drink = bye bye for me)!
I've either got an eye 'for it' or I've been incredibly lucky in that they're single, or good liars. Avoid overtly sexy and confident women, 9 times out of 10 they're harbouring deep routed insecuritites.
Leave those nutjobs to me. Thanks.
Leave those nutjobs to me. Thanks.
Taking one for the team, hero!
If only you knew the half of it, makes me soune like I'm preying on the weak...
I'm obviously some form of cat, but I'm fast running out of lives!
I say don't bother, the fact that you have question yourself and had to think up several ridiculous plans just to talk to someone, means your lack of confidence will show through, and women can smell this like dogs can smell fear.
It would be a better idea to make this as quick and as painless as possible (if you stop caring so much it wont build you up for a huge fall)
Just go do it, fail and then work out why you lack confidence? Possibly hit the gym, become strong and that will build confidence, so much so that women will come to you in the street. Also if your young, then practice makes perfect. You should just do this quick and easy like pulling a plaster, cause the first ones are never anything special, but they always build confidence too.
Plus learn to smile, women love guys with nice smiles.
It would be a better idea to make this as quick and as painless as possible (if you stop caring so much it wont build you up for a huge fall)
Just go do it, fail and then work out why you lack confidence? Possibly hit the gym, become strong and that will build confidence, so much so that women will come to you in the street. Also if your young, then practice makes perfect. You should just do this quick and easy like pulling a plaster, cause the first ones are never anything special, but they always build confidence too.
Plus learn to smile, women love guys with nice smiles.
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Dont bother? if he doesnt bother now when should he?
I mean yes chances are he will get shot down this time for over thinking, being nervous etc.
However its the best way to learn not to do it again, get burned so to speak, and there is the devils chance he gets the girl
Dont bother? if he doesnt bother now when should he?
I mean yes chances are he will get shot down this time for over thinking, being nervous etc.
However its the best way to learn not to do it again, get burned so to speak, and there is the devils chance he gets the girl
What can you learn from getting it wrong and feeling crap about it. Its better to let it come naturally from working on the things that have caused the lack of confidence in the first place.
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Its a bit like putting your fingers in the fire when your a child after someone has told you not to, to get burned is to learn quickly and learn it well
You go girlfriend!
Funny how blokes reckon all women find "confidence" attractive, when a lot of my (fit, I add) female friends usually mutter "what a ****" after some wide boy has tried chatting them up in the pub.
It's all subjective - different horses etc. You just have to go with an approach and hope that it's the right one for that person.
Confidence and arrogance are different though. The wide boys probably come across as arrogant, confidence is attractive, arrogance generally isn't.
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