Woman advice

Whatever you do don't start playing mind games with her with that other woman in the class you sort of have your eye on.


Oh and man the **** up and just tell her you'll pick her up at xx time for the college party..
If she makes excuses then go on your own and smash the other one.
It's not that hard.
 
Ok, last piece of advice from me. You sound like you're bricking yourself and are far too worried about 'conventions' (which, btw, don't exist) and second-guessing what she's thinking.

I know it's not easy but just be yourself and try not to get so worked up about it. She either likes you or she doesn't. If she does, the last thing you want to do is bugger it up by coming across as, well, I think I made the point above ;) If she doesn't then there is nothing - NOTHING - you can do to change this by continuing with the behaviour you're showing.

Relax. Enjoy her company and let her enjoy yours. Stuff will or will not happen but it's more likely to happen if you lay off the creepy-vibe and go with more of an awesome one instead.

Anyway, good luck and let us know how you get on :)
 
carlazai said:
Where's that smash pasty jpg when we need it
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Playing heard to get, or
**** tease, and/or
Head****

Deffinatley should have told her face to face, even if it was at the end of the night then you haven't got to worry about getting shot down as you're going home anyway.

Much more satisfying and relieving to do it in person as you'll get an answer almost instantly as opposed to waiting for someone to check their phone. You should also get a more honnest answer too as they haven't had an hour to ask their mates what to say.

Plus if it goes well you can jump on each other then and there and smash yourselves into oblivion.

If you do REALLY like her tell her to her face, it'll mean a lot more, shows you're serious and that you're confident in telling someone how you feel.

You can also read someone like a book when you tell them how you feel. Particulary the eyes in my experience but more obviously by the body language.
 
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I think telling a girl that you like them is best said to them in Person.

See how the Party goes, have a dance, chat to her. If you really gel, ask her out to the Pub, or to Dinner :)
 
[FnG]magnolia;17961376 said:
Jesus Christ, this, a thousand times this! Stop texting her, don't even think about facebook, pick up the phone and talk to the woman! WTF is wrong with so many of the posters on GD who can't understand why relationships don't always blossom even though they "texted and facebooked and EVERYTHING?!"

Here's what you do.

1. You dial her number on a telephone (ask a grown-up if you're not familiar with 'calling')

2. "Hi, OP here. Are you keen to go to the party on {date} which we're all going to?"

3. Her : "Yeah, sounds good."
You : "Great. Want to get the [transport] over together? Oh listen, sorry for those texts earlier, I was really busy and should have called you."

OR

3. Her : "No, I'm busy washing my hair/other obvious get-out excuse."
You : "Oh ok, no problem. Enjoy [thing that she's doing]! Oh listen, sorry for those texts earlier, I was really busy and should have called you."

4. Insert [awesome thing that you're off to do that evening/next evening].

5. Ask what she's got planned.

6. End conversation on good, non-creepy terms.

7. ???

8. Profit!

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GODDAMMIT YOU MANCHILD! STOP TEXTING HER AND SPEAK TO HER!
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A thousand times this!!

As someone who suffered from the same crippling mentality as the OP from the ages 18-23, doing the exact same thing with a number of women (some of whom I am still friends with and tell me that if I was then, as I am now, they totally would have hooked up), I can only recommend changing the way you think women think.
 
Grow a pair OP!

you sound like you're desperation has made her run away from you and you definitely read all the signs wrong

epic fail
 
If people have told you she is proper into you then the has to be playing hard to get.

I say play it back, don't give her attention or act like your bothered. Certainly dont ask her out again, i wouldn't.

A girl did this to me, she gave me all the signs and everyone told me she likes me so i asked her out and she said no. She carried on playing games and stringing me along so i stopped answering her txts and ignoring her phone calls and she would phone and phone me.

I got with someone else and now she phones me saying she regrets saying no.

Not my problem, dont let a girl string you along, if she says no then dont chase her anymore.
 
you need to stop texting....

face to face ask her out.... if she says no then you will know where you stand. if she says yes its a win.... either way you have nothing to lose....

simple.

good luck.
;)
 
Camalot said:
If people have told you she is proper into you then the has to be playing hard to get.

I say play it back, don't give her attention or act like your bothered. Certainly dont ask her out again, i wouldn't.

A girl did this to me, she gave me all the signs and everyone told me she likes me so i asked her out and she said no. She carried on playing games and stringing me along so i stopped answering her txts and ignoring her phone calls and she would phone and phone me.

I got with someone else and now she phones me saying she regrets saying no.

Not my problem, dont let a girl string you along, if she says no then dont chase her anymore.
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Completely 100% right. I got strung along for a long while before I realised what was going on and just stopped paying attention.

My best advice for you OP is to be two things: cocky funny and interesting. Just have a good conversation with the bird, act like you're not bothered if she left right now or not, and flirt with her a bit! Also, alcohol doesn't harm at all and your party is a great time for this.

I invited my current girlfriend round for a few drinks but then told her to not get the wrong impression, I'm not going to put out, and that she was sleeping in the spare room. Played it off as funny and made her feel at ease 'cos there was no pressure. She came over, we had some drinks, chatted, played drinking games with cards (this is the being interesting part, teach her something new and make it seem fun) and then started watching a film on the sofa. It was blatantly obvious she was into me so I just said "come over here and give me a cuddle" and at this point she was either going to and I was quids in or she wasn't going to and I'd had a wicked evening regardless.

If you want to learn something new that will make a good conversation started or just seem interesting to her then I highly recommend learning something called "The Cube" it's pretty awesome for getting people chatting.
 
Erm the only time you should be using your mobile to contact this girl is to ‘ASK HER OUT’. You call, you get the silly little pre-requisite chit chat out the way such as hi, how you are etc… then you say ‘so when are you free, we should meet up for drinks one evening’ this will be making it perfectly clear you like her, and also asking for her time and company and setting up a date to meet and then get to know one another.

Hopefully, if she’s interested she’ll respond positively and suggest a suitable date and time etc… If she doesn’t respond positively or goes all well, I don’t know etc… Just politely end the call and leave it.

Don’t ever contact again, unless she calls or texts and then try for another date, maybe she’ll not be so flakly next time around, or if you’re in and got the date sorted leave any further communication until the day you meet. After you’ve meet and if you get on, then you could maybe move on to more frequent contact…

Simply do not waste your time feeding some girls attention needs with texts like “l like you’.
 
Ouch, from your posts you come across so desperate and needy. I'm sure you must come across this way to her too - it's such a big turn off whether you are male or female!

There are plenty of other 'hot girls' out there - if you obsess over one, not only does that pretty much guarantee you won't get her (due to the desperate needy gibbering wreck you'll become around her) but it also excludes you from success with any other!
She'd probably not be half as interesting in reality if you started dating her - stop putting it on a pedestal!

You'll kick yourself in years to come for the missed opportunities when you realise there is actually a pretty simple receipe to avoid all the pasty fail.
Don't fear rejection. If you are rejected - move on and don't look back. If you can do this, in no time you'll have far more 'luck' with the ladies.
It took me far too long to realise it myself!
 
How the human race is going to survive with such stud muffins I never know.
Prehaps you should try stamp collecting or needle work because when it comes to girls you clearly are pants.
It seems you have sold your soul to this girl and it is clear she does not want to know so move on and stop dreaming - wasting your time.
Go smash pasty have a good time.
I really don't want to sound rude but you really need a shake and wake up call with this girl.
Good luck.
 
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