Job offer of my dreams, or is it?
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That is because we have seen how easily women come and go. Careers do not easily come.
Job first then girlfriend? It's not as simple as that. If she's the one you intend on spending the rest of your life with then she comes before the job. For example, could you potentially have a family with this woman in the future? If the answer to that is yes, then I wouldn't even consider the job. Your call.
It could also be said that the girl of your dreams does not easily come.
err no I didn't mean it like that
*this is in no way saying the ops missus is the girl of his dreams
It could also be said that the girl of your dreams does not easily come.
err no I didn't mean it like that
*this is in no way saying the ops missus is the girl of his dreams
Well that's the conundrum. If she is, don't take the job. If she isn't...go for it.
Even better, she comes with.
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well i just id ask from an impartial group of guys to see what they thought.
the girl i wouldnt say is the girl of my dreams, but i do enjoy spending time with her and she does make me happy, i suppose like a lot of people say its all a big change and ive never done anything like this before and if it all goes wrong ill be left with nothing.
Suppose luck and fortune favour the bold!!
Its going to be an interesting conversation with her next weekend!
the girl i wouldnt say is the girl of my dreams, but i do enjoy spending time with her and she does make me happy, i suppose like a lot of people say its all a big change and ive never done anything like this before and if it all goes wrong ill be left with nothing.
Suppose luck and fortune favour the bold!!
Its going to be an interesting conversation with her next weekend!
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You mean how easily SOME women come and go.
For some, a job comes and goes easily yet the person you spend your life with is a tad more special.
The OP has been offered the sort of job your average 17 year old is normally offered - it's a minimum wage apprenticeship not a seat at the board of an FTSE100 company.
It really isnt as simple as just 'dump the girl LOLOLOL they come and go'.
Only read the OP:
I'd say go for it and try to see the GF as often as you can...after a while, you may find a place that would suit you both and things would work out ... who knows.
If you don't, you'll regret it and blame her for ever .... think about it and go with your heart (either way).
I wish you the best and hope it works out for you; best wishes. singist.
I'd say go for it and try to see the GF as often as you can...after a while, you may find a place that would suit you both and things would work out ... who knows.
If you don't, you'll regret it and blame her for ever .... think about it and go with your heart (either way).
I wish you the best and hope it works out for you; best wishes. singist.
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[TW]Fox;18127799 said:
This man speaks more and more sense in every post he makes!
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[TW]Fox;18127799 said:
while i appreciate what your saying how else do you think im gonna get the chance to do these things, work on race cars etc....if they were around the corner i wouldnt have any second thoughts.
Who realistically would take me on at my age to do this type of stuff without previous garage experience(ignoring personal experience)
money isnt everything in life and i dont want to work in a call centre forever and being honest thats all my CV will ever get me around here
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I'd say go for the job. It's an amazing opportunity in a field you're clearly passionate about. It will almost certainly open doors - you'll meet other people in the field and make contacts while learning a bunch of useful stuff. While the short term financial benefits may not be great, in the long term it will be worth it, I'm sure.
As for your girlfriend........see how it goes. 150 miles isn't that far really and if you want to be together you'll work it out one way or another.
Good luck!
As for your girlfriend........see how it goes. 150 miles isn't that far really and if you want to be together you'll work it out one way or another.
Good luck!
Bit of perspective here.
People struggle to live on Minimum wage thats a fact and you want to go and dump everything for this?
have you not thought about how you are going to live on such a low wage? Want to make friends in this new area? Go out and socialize.... oh wait no money need to pay rent.
This company just sounds like any other local indie in the world the fact they do parts for RX7's is not exactly a good thing. Relaisticly a company like this would not be earning much money. People are spending less and less money on luxuries like a fun car. If this business takes a down turn your going to get cut as simple as that.
Im not even taking into consideration your GF even if you were single i still wouldnt up sticks to a job that most people walk into when they leave high school. I mean realisticly will this company even be able to offer promitions and pay rises?
Id talk to the man again and try to get a signgicaly better pay packet before id move across the country to earn minimal wage.
Honestly if this was a job with prospects and a decent pay packet id be more then willing to wish you luck and go for it. I cant help but feel concerned for you pal.
Sorry to be a negative nancy
People struggle to live on Minimum wage thats a fact and you want to go and dump everything for this?
have you not thought about how you are going to live on such a low wage? Want to make friends in this new area? Go out and socialize.... oh wait no money need to pay rent.
This company just sounds like any other local indie in the world the fact they do parts for RX7's is not exactly a good thing. Relaisticly a company like this would not be earning much money. People are spending less and less money on luxuries like a fun car. If this business takes a down turn your going to get cut as simple as that.
Im not even taking into consideration your GF even if you were single i still wouldnt up sticks to a job that most people walk into when they leave high school. I mean realisticly will this company even be able to offer promitions and pay rises?
Id talk to the man again and try to get a signgicaly better pay packet before id move across the country to earn minimal wage.
Honestly if this was a job with prospects and a decent pay packet id be more then willing to wish you luck and go for it. I cant help but feel concerned for you pal.
Sorry to be a negative nancy
So basically, what's just happened is you've disregarded the whole thread and come up with an answer for yourself.
You want the job, more than you want the girlfriend, therefore up and off and if you can be arsed see if it works with the bird.
Fox's posts were all dead on prior to this post, but after reading this it's hard to apply any of them to what you've just said.
Is it worthwhile to move 150miles away for a minimum wage job? It doesn't take long to start hating a job when you're being paid so little, regardless of your interest in the field. The fact they want to start you on so little is perhaps indicative of how they regard their employees.
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If it's the training you're after, why not look for it locally now you've got it in your head you want to do it.
Like some have said, even if that job is your dream job, it won't feel like much of a dream when you come home to a crappy flat or bedsit, living on minimum wage with no friends in a weird new place. Sounds like hell to me.
Maybe if you were able to do things on the side, like buying and selling cars (I am guessing with your knowledge of working with cars you could buy damaged cars and do them up etc), or something to that effect, to get some extra money rolling in.
All this just sounds like hell for me though. It's not like a genuine once in a lifetime job, its just some garage that works on some type of car in some place. You see plenty of those around everywhere.
I'd pick to stay with the girlfriend, and perhaps now you're thinking about it, look for jobs in the local area which are more appealing to you.
Just my 2 cents.
Like some have said, even if that job is your dream job, it won't feel like much of a dream when you come home to a crappy flat or bedsit, living on minimum wage with no friends in a weird new place. Sounds like hell to me.
Maybe if you were able to do things on the side, like buying and selling cars (I am guessing with your knowledge of working with cars you could buy damaged cars and do them up etc), or something to that effect, to get some extra money rolling in.
All this just sounds like hell for me though. It's not like a genuine once in a lifetime job, its just some garage that works on some type of car in some place. You see plenty of those around everywhere.
I'd pick to stay with the girlfriend, and perhaps now you're thinking about it, look for jobs in the local area which are more appealing to you.
Just my 2 cents.
Try it for a while and see. It's not a given that you'll have to break up. After a month you can see how you like the job, how things are going with the girlfriend, and how your doing financially. If you don't like it you can go back home. It's not like you're entering a binding contract. But you never know, you might enjoy the job and you might also be able to maintain a healthy relationship even if it's long-distance. Don't worry if the company goes bust in a few years. Any skills and experience you aquire could come in handy later on.