Becoming more talkative

Depends if the other people are wanting to meet new people or just stick to their own circle of friends, as it's a two way thing (obviously). It doesn't help if the other person isn't making an effort.
 
Gackt said:
Haha, in a way I suppose. It's just that random encounters generally don't interest me. I have no real desire to walk up to some person and start talking about their lives. The friends I have are usually from work, or from University - being put together like that meant I guess we *had* to make friends.

Maybe I'm just a loner. Nothing wrong with that.
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Same here. I find I can socialise when I'm forced to like at the beginning on uni, however I'm now in my second year, and very rarely end up talking to new people.
 
iDroid84 said:
Yes, for educational purposes. I like these documentaries. Can't wait for the next one. I watched 1-3 so far and enjoyed it.
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I've actually been to the bar they were testing for cocaine on entry, they've never checked me before though :(

MW
 
Klo said:
I don't drink alcohol, so most parties are pretty boring, where I'm sitting alone in the corner watching drunk people shouting at each other. So, I've almost stopped going to them.
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If you can't talk to people without drinking, then I recommend you drink.
 
Jonny69 said:
You need to ask them open questions like:
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Wow! You are my god!:p

That's essentially how I end up going though after a couple of minutes...:o:D

Felix Da Housecat said:
Hi there, does this smell like chloroform to you?

No need for small talk ;)

Hahahaha
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Well one of the reasons for this thread didn't seem like she'd need that... if only I could think of something funny to say when meeting up again.:p

lucasade1 said:
Me too... Although i'm not very good at it.
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That was terrible, but I'm ashamed to say it did make me smile...:o

I do the same though, poking fun at yourself is always a good laugh and will guarentee you don't upset someone you don't realy know.

The whole thing probably isn't helped by the fact a lot of my friends are the sort that can talk for England. They seem to be able to go to a party and have half the people laughing and chatting within half an hour...
 
Just talk about whatever you want to. But make sure you talk about her. What She likes etc.

Alcohol is definitely a savior for people in these positions, but if you can do it without it then you're sorted, especially if she has been drinking haha.
 
I have always been terrible at small talk. My biggest problem is not caring about other peoples past and people generally want to talk about themselves or what they did in the past and that just does not interest me. When i am at a party of some kind people generally are in the "fun mode" which means most people do not want to have intelligent discussions. If you start talking about anything remotely interesting people just think it kills the "fun" mood. They want to talk about stupid things and pretend to be funny and to me that is just lame and not very interesting.

I always thought i was a bit mature for my age growing up because when i was at parties the conversation content was always mind numbing. But it could just be that i am boring and do not know how to talk **** and pretend to have a good time.

I think now i am at the age where i would like a more mature group of friends that when they go to parties they have interesting discussion and occasionally talk **** and have a laugh. I like to have a good laugh but when it is forced by some people that think because they are at a party of some kind they can only talk about "having a laugh" topics and nothing serious or that just kills the mood.

Might not have made sense...
 
groen said:
I have always been terrible at small talk. My biggest problem is not caring about other peoples past and people generally want to talk about themselves or what they did in the past and that just does not interest me. When i am at a party of some kind people generally are in the "fun mode" which means most people do not want to have intelligent discussions. If you start talking about anything remotely interesting people just think it kills the "fun" mood. They want to talk about stupid things and pretend to be funny and to me that is just lame and not very interesting.

I always thought i was a bit mature for my age growing up because when i was at parties the conversation content was always mind numbing. But it could just be that i am boring and do not know how to talk **** and pretend to have a good time.

I think now i am at the age where i would like a more mature group of friends that when they go to parties they have interesting discussion and occasionally talk **** and have a laugh. I like to have a good laugh but when it is forced by some people that think because they are at a party of some kind they can only talk about "having a laugh" topics and nothing serious or that just kills the mood.

Might not have made sense...
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Sounds like you need to invest some time in finding some new friends, instead of looking down at the ones you currently have.
 
I am in the same boat as you, OP, I'm terrible with people I don't really know, I would though, consider myself socially inept and socially anxious, some people are harder to talk to than others, perhaps those in the same boat as me. So thanks for the serious tips in this thread.
 
I find telling a few jokes helps things along a bit, allways handy to have a few jokes stored in memory. I not the most talkative of people but if you follow other peoples conversations your in with more of a chance of getting invlolved. I find one of the worst things you can do is sit there thinking about not having anything to say.
 
Sounds like you need to invest some time in finding some new friends, instead of looking down at the ones you currently have.
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i don't have any friends :D I have friends back in SA but none in the uk. I know people but i never contacted them and i have not been out for a long time. Works for me so far. But did not mean to hijack thread, as i said don;t like talking about myself or past.
 
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