Dilema

[Dan Dan]

Many of you guys will have seen the adverts for the film "Dilema", well this is real.

Long story short:
One of my friends started going out with a married (seperated but to me married is married) girl who he has subsequently fallen in love with. They have been together for about a year now but I found out the other day that whilst he was out of the country she has been unfaithful to him.

He has moved into her house since returning from being away and they always argue and he has started staying at his house a couple of nights a week. I dont know whether to tell him, causing them to break up or let the relationship run its natural cause?

They are both friends and I dont want to be the reason they split up or upset any of them.

My question is really. Do I tell him?

 

[meghatronic]

Not your business/catch 22.

 

[MikeHiow]

How did you find out, is this based on 100% conclusive evidence, and there can be no doubt? If so, tell him. I'd want to know.

 

[Pestilence]

Tell him.

Oh, and it's "Dilemma".

 

[Deleted member 66701]

that whilst he was out of the country she has been unfaithful to him.

You B******! I can't believe you slept with your mates G/F whilst he was out of the country!

How did you find out, is this based on 100% conclusive evidence, and there can be no doubt?

 

[SeraphX]

Worst ' i've been a naughty boy' thread ever tbh

 

[Lummox]

She wont change, she's been unfaithful to her husband, she's been unfaithful to your mate.
Tell him.

 

[Cosimo]

Sounds like they are already on their separate ways. Just leave them to it.

 

[Burnsy2023]

She wont change, she's been unfaithful to her husband, she's been unfaithful to your mate.
Tell him.

How did you work out she was being unfaithful to her husband?

 

[Lummox]

How did you work out she was being unfaithful to her husband?

She was sleeping with his mate wasn't she?

 

[Burnsy2023]

She was sleeping with his mate wasn't she?

Whilst they were separated. That's not being unfaithful.

 

[Metalface Mark]

Its not your business to tell him.

 

[bloodline76]

Take him to the film and after wards say...what would you have done in that situation?

...well funny you say that...

Its not your business to tell him.

I think we have found the other man

 

[Dan Dan]

I have, after a little bit of deliberation decided I am going to tell him. What is the best way do you rekon?

 

[Deleted member 66701]

I have, after a little bit of deliberation decided I am going to tell him. What is the best way do you rekon?

"I slept with your G/F whilst you were abroad. She's a right goer isn't she?"

 

[Pestilence]

I have, after a little bit of deliberation decided I am going to tell him. What is the best way do you rekon?

Just tell him straight, tbh.

A HUGE rift was formed between me and some of my closest friends when an ex cheated on me. Of course, it was a case of "always the last to know", yet none of them would just come out and tell me.

I felt more betrayed by them than her, tbh.

 

[Dan Dan]

"I slept with your G/F whilst you were abroad. She's a right goer isn't she?"

I was out of the country at the time too

 

[Dan Dan]

Just tell him straight, tbh.

A HUGE rift was formed between me and some of my closest friends when an ex cheated on me. Of course, it was a case of "always the last to know", yet none of them would just come out and tell me.

I felt more betrayed by them than her, tbh.

Thanks for that! Gives me a little more confidence in telling him. Would you have preffered to have been pulled to one side or over a drink or what?

 

[Dan Dan]

Just as a quick update I have told him. I said that I heard that she did, I dont know whether it is true (it is true) ect but I thought I should let you know. He is thankful for me telling him but I dont know what is going to happen with the relationship.

For the record her best friends husband let it slip after a few beers and told me not to say anything. She even rung her best friend and said have you told anybody about rob (name is not real btw...)