No, all she had to do was come out and tell me.
Things would've been fine then and we could've been friends (without the bens of course).
Maybe I am a little hurt.... But as some of you have pointed out I shouldve done something about it earlier....
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No, all she had to do was come out and tell me.
Things would've been fine then and we could've been friends (without the bens of course).
Maybe I am a little hurt.... But as some of you have pointed out I shouldve done something about it earlier....
No you did, and in a massively cowardly way by deleting her from fb and your phone.
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You treated her like a shag buddy, but then have an emo strop when she treats you like one?
You need to grow up and grow a pair.
You need to grow up and grow a pair.
LOL
You sound like the female in this situation! Is it opposite day?
*palmface*
I mean aww yay we're **** buddies and then she wants to settle down with a man who's serious about a relationship you go WTF, controlling much, darling?
You sound like the female in this situation! Is it opposite day?
*palmface*
I mean aww yay we're **** buddies and then she wants to settle down with a man who's serious about a relationship you go WTF, controlling much, darling?
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We need pictures or this did not happen
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She is a friend with benefits. You should both be able to do whatever you want. It is a modern version of an open relationship.
Sounds to me like you liked her more than you thought.
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You were not a partner though, by your own admission.
You were a friend with benefits, you cant really blame her, your pride is hurt now and that's why you have responded in this way.
The girl did nothing wrong if you held her at arms length, if it wasnt a relationship, she owed you nothing.
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she wasnt lying
your not her partner
you were using her
she didnt run off with anybody, she found someone that wasnt an a-hole.
shes free to do what she wants
.....where are the pictures
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Haha, OP tried to be alpha, saying friends w/ benefits was ok when actually we wanted more. Stop lieing to yourself.
If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it
If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it
I’m no relationship expert – in fact many on here can vouch for my total failings when it comes to relationships… However, I do know that ‘friends with benefits’ always ends with one person or another wanting more, and someone getting hurt in the process.
She wasn’t waiting any longer for you to commit. She wanted something more serious, you weren’t providing this and I bet she was getting tired of being just a booty call..
So, naturally she ran off and found someone else. Now, as to whoever feels like they do, the fact remains, and we don’t know the full story – as we often don’t with these types of posts, she maybe didn’t talk to you about this as she ‘maybe’ and I’m not saying this is how it is, but maybe felt it was a closed subject and you’d never be anything more then a friend that wants occasional sex.
Not really relationship material now is it? Deep down ask yourself – is that really what you both wanted to be like for the rest of your lives? And besides most decent girls are eventually looking for a stable guy they can depend upon, and not just for a romp in the sack..!!
To me, its fairly clear. You weren’t there for her in the correct capacity and she’s taken matters into her own hands and done something about it, just didn’t discuss with you and you feel lied to…
Anyhow, that’s how it comes across to me.
She wasn’t waiting any longer for you to commit. She wanted something more serious, you weren’t providing this and I bet she was getting tired of being just a booty call..
So, naturally she ran off and found someone else. Now, as to whoever feels like they do, the fact remains, and we don’t know the full story – as we often don’t with these types of posts, she maybe didn’t talk to you about this as she ‘maybe’ and I’m not saying this is how it is, but maybe felt it was a closed subject and you’d never be anything more then a friend that wants occasional sex.
Not really relationship material now is it? Deep down ask yourself – is that really what you both wanted to be like for the rest of your lives? And besides most decent girls are eventually looking for a stable guy they can depend upon, and not just for a romp in the sack..!!
To me, its fairly clear. You weren’t there for her in the correct capacity and she’s taken matters into her own hands and done something about it, just didn’t discuss with you and you feel lied to…
Anyhow, that’s how it comes across to me.
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I knew that phrase would appear on the first page! So i refrained from posting it myself
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To be fair, this is how my current partner and me started out - then when she got with someone else it made me realise that I did infact want a relationship with her.
So I hung around on the periphery until the new relationship broke down, and then started a relationship with her myself.
Seven years on and still going.
I think the fact is, you need to decide what you want from it, because you don't sound too sure.
So I hung around on the periphery until the new relationship broke down, and then started a relationship with her myself.
Seven years on and still going.
I think the fact is, you need to decide what you want from it, because you don't sound too sure.
Worst "op was getting free poon, then not getting free poon, subsequently annoyed" thread ever!
In all seriousness, didn't read much of the thread but it sounds like you were the one who let it get serious if you are now upset shes gone off with someone else in a relationship and you no longer have access to free gash.
Unlucky, man up and find some new pasty OR confess your undying love to her.
In all seriousness, didn't read much of the thread but it sounds like you were the one who let it get serious if you are now upset shes gone off with someone else in a relationship and you no longer have access to free gash.
Unlucky, man up and find some new pasty OR confess your undying love to her.
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Got served dude, you wanted your cake and eat it, well she offered her cake to someone else to eat, tough.
...hmmm cake
...hmmm cake
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