Cancer situation, what would you do?

I'd stay with your mum.

It's time memories and conversations you can't have again. Not that it'll all be plain sailing mind you..

I am really saddened to hear your predicament however. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Chin up.

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You say at the moment time remaining is unknown, but they can normally give you some kind of estimate. Will this be forthcoming at a future consultation?

If she takes a turn for the worse you should have time to fly back to the UK.
 
I would talk to your mum, I would put money on that she would want what is best for you. She is your creator, gave you life and I am only taking a shot in the dark at this. But I would assume she is proud of you for getting this far in life and being successful... So My assumption would it would make her very happy to know you followed your dreams and asked her for that motherly go ahead before doing so.

Trust me :)
 
Go to the US. Don't burden your mum with the thought she's stopping you taking your dream job.

See if you can negotiate with the company for some extra unpaid leave to get back to the UK regularly.
 
Without wanting to sound too harsh but this is how I would look at it:

You have been offered a fantastic job, in turn gives you a much better future for YOUR life.

The day will come when all parents will be gone, some will find the time will come sooner than others.

Whenever anyone hears the big C word they think the worst. There is still chance that she will be well (really really hope that she does).

This is a very very hard situation you have found yourself in. You need to think about your future, if you do not go how much would this change this?
 
Wrote a really long response but then wondered how appropriate it was. At the end of the day, everyone's situation is different regardless of the scenario you have described. Ask yourself what you will look back on and likely regret the most of the 2 possible consequences of your decision.

Wish your mother all the best mate.
 
Mr Jack said:
Go to the US. Don't burden your mum with the thought she's stopping you taking your dream job.

See if you can negotiate with the company for some extra unpaid leave to get back to the UK regularly.
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The OP knows his Mum. I would suggest that he considers the above very carefully. Parents want the best for their children and some mothers would be more than devastated if they thought they had interfered with their child's dream.

What I'm saying is that the OP should not just do what's right for him but also consider what's right for his mother. The two are not always the same.
 
Talk to your mum about it. I know if I was her, i would tell you to go for the job, but see what she thinks of it. And sorry to hear about her illness.
 
Surely there will be other oportunities to do the same thing? Maybe you'll have to wait but I would say staying with your mother would be the best option, my opinion. Obviously if you ask her she is going to say go get your job as we don't like feeling asif we are hindering people. I think only you can decide as her thoughts may be bias in a way.
 
ubern00b said:
I have lived in the UK for the last 10 years while my parents were back in South Africa. My mother was diagnosed with brain cancer and 6 months later she was dead. I managed to get home twice to see her in that time (the 6 month period, not the 10 years) and was home when she passed but I would give anything to have spent more time with her in the 10 years I was away. I left it too late, you have a choice.
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Ek is baie jammer my vriend :( I've been living in the UK for nearly 6 years now. good to see another SA person :)
 
I’m trying to put myself in your shoes as much as possible, and i’ve got to say i think i would probably say hell to the job and stay with my mum every minute that i could. I know that i would regret it for the rest of my life if i left her for a job and she died without me being there to help her and be with her right until the end.


Your mum will obviously be scared witless and you being around is the only thing that can alleviate this to a degree. If you did stay, I know you’d be sacrificing a lot for it, but if it was me, i know how much my mum has sacrificed for me over the years and i think it'd be time for me to reciprocate.
 
I know what my Mother would say. I would offer to turn it down and stay, and she would then tell me off, and then demand I go.

I expect I would still stay though!
 
I'd move, I know it sounds harsh but I know my parents/family would understand.

KaHn
 
Gaygle said:
Your mum will obviously be scared witless and you being around is the only thing that can alleviate this to a degree. If you did stay, I know you’d be sacrificing a lot for it, but if it was me, i know how much my mum has sacrificed for me over the years and i think it'd be time for me to reciprocate.
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Captain Planet, speak to your OC and see if they are able to get the post deferred for 6-12months? Should give you enough time to find out whats going to happen.

Sorry to hear about your mum :(


I know you will want to go to US (as I know the job and it will be amazing) and I know your mum will want to go, but I also know you would feel guilty for going, but then if you stay your mum is going to tell you off for staying!
 
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