I've recently met someone and we've been getting on well, and it's got to the point where i'm thinking of asking her out sometime, as we have a lot in common and she seems awesome. But anyway, last night she informed me that she has IBS/Chron's disease. I didn't know much about it so today I had a bit of a google but all the information is quite extreme. Does anyone have any experience of being with people with said illnesses? And how it might effect a typical relationship. Keep it serious please.
IBS/Chron's disease
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IBS is a pretty BS diagnosis (imo), both myself and my gf have been diagnosed with it and so has my mother.
The only time it will effect your relationship is when either of you are having a bad day as you won't want to be intimate, it doesn't really make that much difference day to day though.
The only time it will effect your relationship is when either of you are having a bad day as you won't want to be intimate, it doesn't really make that much difference day to day though.
If it is Crohn's disease it depends on which locality it is in as to how it will affect her.
I don't think it would stop me seeing someone if I was gettin on well with her. I don't think it hugely affects day to day life.
I don't think it would stop me seeing someone if I was gettin on well with her. I don't think it hugely affects day to day life.
It depends to what degree she has it. I have quite mild IBS which I've got under pretty good control now through diet, pills and learning how to deal with anxiety and stress.
If she suffers quite badly from be aware that something like taking a bus trip which you may think is absolutely normal for you can be really hard. When it's bad you tend to worry about where the closest toilet is, if you're going somewhere unfamiliar and being somewhere that you can't get out of quickly can bring on worry and anxiety which is a vicious circle as it makes things worse.
If she doesn't want to go out for whatever reason it's not because she is boring or whatever, she may just may just be having a bad day. Just be understanding and flexible with going out and travel plans is what I'm trying to say
If she suffers quite badly from be aware that something like taking a bus trip which you may think is absolutely normal for you can be really hard. When it's bad you tend to worry about where the closest toilet is, if you're going somewhere unfamiliar and being somewhere that you can't get out of quickly can bring on worry and anxiety which is a vicious circle as it makes things worse.
If she doesn't want to go out for whatever reason it's not because she is boring or whatever, she may just may just be having a bad day. Just be understanding and flexible with going out and travel plans is what I'm trying to say
I don't think there's much danger of her suddenly emptying the contents of her rectum over your legs whilst bouncing up and down on Mr. Biggy. More a case of she just won't feel like it at all from time to time.
I was diagnosed with Crohns the middle of last year. It is tough, as time went on i had less and less energy, felt lethargic all the time, struggled to sleep. To be honest performing in the bedroom was the last thing on my mind on a bad day, a general feeling of not been bothered about anything.
I was operated on middle of January to remove the diseased section, feel loads better and my libido i definitely on the up.
She will have up and down days, just be simpathetic and know she wont be on the boil all the time and it will work
I was operated on middle of January to remove the diseased section, feel loads better and my libido i definitely on the up.
She will have up and down days, just be simpathetic and know she wont be on the boil all the time and it will work
Spoon, it is and it isn't (BS dianosis) but I know where you are coming from.
They will get so far, and once they have knocked everything else off the list that's when it'll be 'IBS'.
Reason they don't investigate further is the imbalance could be any of the thousands of different bacteria and protenes etc
You can get it narrowed down to a specific cause - but its unlikely to make a difference. Find your way around it playing with your diet etc.
OP - Wouldn't worry about it. She will just avoid certain foods, and probably hog the toilet on the odd occasion.
Other than that don't worry, it's not like constant brown rain or anything
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Depends how bad the Chrohn's is to be honest. She'll have to take tablets for it every day and will often get stomach cramps. Most of the time it won't affect her at all and is nothing to worry about.
From a purely selfish reproduction standpoint it's a hereditary disease so if you have kids with her then expect them to have it. It's also an auto immune disease and later on she may well develop type 1 diabetes and thyroid problems which, in this context, are also hereditary.
