Anyone had an affair ?

The IPB · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:24

Calgar117 said:
Sort of related to the subject i hope,

Never have never will due out of princible,

Although had a discussion with my gf sometime back and she says she could forgive me if i ever cheated not that i would ever dream of doing so even with any form of permission i know she thinks the world of me just confused me when she said it.

She probably expects you to forgive her

Hlebio · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:29

Never cheated on someone from within a serious relationship but I've done a couple of things I'm not proud of. I've learnt from them fully.

I'd 100% never cheat on anyone now and hope to god I am never cheated on in my life. The pain that can come from this sort of thing is truly heartbreaking. I am not sure if there is anything worse.. especially when it happens to those that are truly in love with their partner, think the relationship is going well and don't have an inkling anything is wrong.

I always ask myself if I could forgive someone for cheating. I just don't think I could. Even if I brought myself to the point of trying to forgive and working things out, I just don't think it could be forgotten. How can trust be re-built after something like that?

Calgar117 · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:30

Dkore-DeX said:
She probably expects you to forgive her

that's how i took it when she said it but i more so got the impression she just didnt want to lose me she can be very strange with saying things like this at times although i made it absolutley clear that due to my princible of not cheating if she ever did it wouldnt be likely id ever forgive her for this although this was a convosation some while back.

Frapple · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:31

Cheated on my right hand once.

Felt good :cool:

.Lethal · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:32

Dkore-DeX said:
She probably expects you to forgive her

Hah, thats exactly what I thought. Execept that something may have already happend

GordyR · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:48

Dkore-DeX said:
She probably expects you to forgive her

Ouch... My girlfriend has actually said this to me on two occasions. You've got me thinking now! :eek:

Well it was actually more like the following:- "I love you so much, I couldn't bare to be without you, I don't think I could even leave you if you had cheated on me"

Do I have reason to be concerned?!?!

Note: I'm not really serious, I don't believe she has for a second. Still interested to hear what people think though.

Its_Me · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:50

You do realise Monogamy is not a natural thing

GordyR · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:51

Its_Me said:
You do realise Monogamy is not a natural thing

Calgar117 · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:51

Lol i am in the same boat Gordy i know my gf cares about me and is afraid to lose me but yeah when she said it to me i did find it a very strange thing to say :confused:

edit read your small print lol

GordyR · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:53

Calgar117 said:
Lol i am in the same boat Gordy i know my gf cares about me and is afraid to lose me but yeah when she said it to me i did find it a very strange thing to say

edit read your small print lol

Yeah i'm not really concerned... I mean, it's not exactly conclusive evidence is it lol. Plus she absolutely worships the ground I walk on , as do I for her. But still... Seems an odd thing to say to me! :confused:

The IPB · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:54

GordyR said:
Ouch... My girlfriend has actually said this to me on two occasions. You've got me thinking now!

Well it was actually more like the following:- "I love you so much, I couldn't bare to be without you, I don't think I could even leave you if you had cheated on me"

Do I have reason to be concerned?!?!

Note: I'm not really serious, I don't believe she has for a second. Still interested to hear what people think though.

I suppose it can be taken or meant either way, as long as you know how your girlfriend meant it

Its_Me · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:55

All i am saying is, we are just animals (cue Knickelback)

Its_Me · 30 Mar 2011 at 14:56

GordyR said:
Ouch... My girlfriend has actually said this to me on two occasions. You've got me thinking now!

Well it was actually more like the following:- "I love you so much, I couldn't bare to be without you, I don't think I could even leave you if you had cheated on me"

Do I have reason to be concerned?!?!

Note: I'm not really serious, I don't believe she has for a second. Still interested to hear what people think though.

The question is really this;
Would you want to know ??

snapdragon · 30 Mar 2011 at 15:04

Erm...

yes seem to be absolutely crap at being faithful

was with the ex for 5 years before an old flame turned up ( she's married ) had a "thing" for roughly twelve months during which time I split up from my partner but her hubby remained unaware.

then started seeing an old school friend, as I was on my way to our first date was arranging to meet another woman later on in the week, uhmm'd and ahh'd over both for 6 weeks then they both found out and I was rightly dropped

Started afresh with someone else and within 2 months was seeing the old flame again, that got knocked on the head, then at xmas this year went out with work and shared a taxi home with a lass from the office, erm....

Have just stopped seeing the girl from work, still have my partner who I've been with for 8 months now

am I allowed to call myself a **** ?

GordyR · 30 Mar 2011 at 15:07

Its_Me said:
The question is really this;
Would you want to know ??

Absolutely... Yes.

Its_Me · 30 Mar 2011 at 15:08

snapdragon said:
Erm...

yes seem to be absolutely crap at being faithful

was with the ex for 5 years before an old flame turned up ( she's married ) had a "thing" for roughly twelve months during which time I split up from my partner but her hubby remained unaware.

then started seeing an old school friend, as I was on my way to our first date was arranging to meet another woman later on in the week, uhmm'd and ahh'd over both for 6 weeks then they both found out and I was rightly dropped

Started afresh with someone else and within 2 months was seeing the old flame again, that got knocked on the head, then at xmas this year went out with work and shared a taxi home with a lass from the office, erm....

Have just stopped seeing the girl from work, still have my partner who I've been with for 8 months now

am I allowed to call myself a **** ?

If you don't regret any of it then you can have a Trophy !

If you do regret any of it, rolly eyes. :rolleyes:

Its_Me · 30 Mar 2011 at 15:10

GordyR said:
Absolutely... Yes.

What you don't know can't hurt you.
After all what exactly would she have done that directly affects you if you never knew ? (STD excluded ofc)

And then would you feel worse of better if she had a thing with another woman ?

GordyR · 30 Mar 2011 at 15:14

Its_Me said:
What you don't know can't hurt you.
After all what exactly would she have done that directly affects you if you never knew ? (STD excluded ofc)

And then would you feel worse of better if she had a thing with another woman ?

I'm afraid I cannot agree with that at all... Doesn't fly with me and never has. She would get the boot instantly it doesn't matter how much I love her.

The truth is... I know she hasn't so it's a moot point. (Won't go into the detail but we have been completely inseperable since meeting) She would have to be superhuman to have cheated... But regardless it's an interesting subject which throws up many insecurities which really shouldn't exist. But due to the emotive nature inevitably does.

GordyR · 30 Mar 2011 at 15:16

Its_Me said:
And then would you feel worse of better if she had a thing with another woman ?

Funnily enough she has had a previous sexual encounter with another woman. Not while with me of course. Experimentally... And decided it wasn't for her.

In fact she said she was grossed out by it afterwards and instantly regretted it.

Regardless... I would feel the same wether it was a man or a woman.

Calgar117 · 30 Mar 2011 at 15:22

GordyR said:
I'm afraid I cannot agree with that at all... Doesn't fly with me and never has. She would get the boot instantly it doesn't matter how much I love her.

The truth is... I know she hasn't so it's a moot point. (Won't go into the detail but we have been completely inseperable since meeting) She would have to be superhuman to have cheated... But regardless it's an interesting subject which throws up many insecurities which really shouldn't exist. But due to the emotive nature inevitably does.

Same sorta thing with my gal, but yeah i was just interested on what others may think about it if they were in the same position i know my gf hasnt but i just found it odd she openly say things like that and as for myself would really broach that subject incase of my other half becoming suspicous hope i am making sense