It's not rude to ignore someone who's talking to you?
Is it just me
- Thread starter hux
- Start date
It's not rude to ignore someone who's talking to you?
I think this is area dependent as much as anything. I'm from a small Lancashire town and it's normal to say good morning, have a chat etc to people you come across, who you don't know; shop keepers, people at the bus stop, people you cross on the street, whatever.
It was a massive culture shock when I first went to London (for example). Everyone just bangs into you, pushing their way down the streets etc. I spent the first three hours saying 'pardon me, excuse me, very sorry, after you'... then I realised I wasn't really getting anywhere as nobody reciprocated and I was just getting bashed around like a ping pong ball.
I think it's rude and impersonal, lacking in manners. But I also realise it's a sub-cultural thing, and that in a big city (for example) the things I consider daily common courtesies just wouldn't work out on such a big scale.
I live in a quaint little village where everyone knows everyone, but our immediate neighbours are just the most ignorant people going.
I say good-morning to them everyday, I have yet to receive a reply. They moved from a city apparently (Birmingham) and if that is indicative of what people are like in cities these days then I don't want to live in one.
Having said that, I am the sort of person who says hello to people as I'm walking down the street and I frequent London and Southampton regularly and it is interesting to see the relative reactions of people when they realise I am not some old fella with 1940's manners and that I am saying hello just to pass the day and not a precursor to asking for something.
I remember one woman who I saw regularly on the walk to work, I said hello to her, she looked at me as if I was a serial killer and ignored me as she hurriedly walked past, a few minutes later she came back up to me to apologise for being so rude.
I still talk to her and we have coffee on occasion.
It is no wonder there are so many lonely people in the world and that society is such as it is these days. Just a little time to pass the day, makes the day for some people. It costs nothing to be polite.
Didn't your Mummy ever tell you not to talk to strangers?
Didn't your Mummy ever tell you not to talk to strangers?
Some of us grew past the age of 8 and into adults who aren't afraid to talk to people.
Soldato
- Joined
- 1 Jun 2010
- Posts
- 7,058
- Location
- Bedford
Society suck-ass today.
I think it depends on individuals. Some are very open while others are very reserved. But I agree whenever I go about, I don't see warmth any where. It's just rush and hurry. But may be I am surrounded by people from different cultural backgrounds and they all like to keep among themselves including british.
Back where I come from, majority of the people are very open and love making jokes, playing outside and just having a good time.
I think in this regards I find women more disappointing than men. They were meant to be more warm and compassionate. But I don't see much in modern young women
.Castiel if you live in that village for too long, you will grow old very quickly
.
Not yours directly.
I dunno, I think we're all involved in this life thing - a small kindness, a friendly word, a nod and a smile - they don't cost anything.
Yes, in a big city it's just too much, everyone ignores everyone, that's fine. But ignoring someone directly addressing you?
Castiel if you live in that village for too long, you will grow old very quickly
Haha, I like the slow lazy life these days. I have had too much excitement for one life tbh.
I'm the same but then I'm not a massive small talker even with people I know
Its great to talk to random people sometimes, you don't have to have a massive philosophical debate but just to have a little chat is nice. I find that its easier to have a conversation with someone like that that someone you spend all day with. You just go over the same thing over and over again.
A lot of peoples relationships seems to boil down to whinging about things. Work, partners, people they don't like.
There isn't enough appreciation for the world around us today. I went for a little ride around the city today and its beautiful. There were a lot of people out and about but half of them were stuck inside a pub and half the other half still looked miserable despite the lovely weather.
A lot of peoples relationships seems to boil down to whinging about things. Work, partners, people they don't like.
There isn't enough appreciation for the world around us today. I went for a little ride around the city today and its beautiful. There were a lot of people out and about but half of them were stuck inside a pub and half the other half still looked miserable despite the lovely weather.
Some random guy decided to talk to me when I was on the train a few months ago. It made me feel uncomfortable as he was asking a lot of questions about my life and I really just wished he would stop talking. But I'm not a rude person, so I did talk back... I didn't ask him any questions in return though, I was hoping he would take a hint but he didn't and just kept coming with the questions to try and make conversation
I don't like talking to strangers, especially old men who try to hit on me
I don't like talking to strangers, especially old men who try to hit on me
