Going to lose my Dad soon

Sorry to say this, my dad died this morning at 6.15 am
It went from, he had 6 to 12 months, to he had a leak in his gut, which killed him.
Numb is the word, kind of just lost my best mate.
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Very sorry to read about this Brucey. I lost my father about 1 and a half years ago to cancer. I highlighted that extract of your post earlier as that's exactly how I felt. Everyone else in my family was crying and overwhelmed with grief. For me personally the experience had been so gruelling and I had so many other things going on in my life at that time that my emotions had just switched off entirely. I recovered from that state and it was only later I began to feel grief too. Once that set in I was able to deal with the situation and move on. Now whenever I think of my father it's always the happy memories and the pride he filled me with. Obviously there are times where I feel sad to think about it but and I miss him greatly but that's only natural. At the end of the day, it's the natural order of things and something which we must all face in the end.

Anyways, I was just posting to share my experience and hopefully let you know that although you are in a terrible situation right now, things will improve. Without meaning to sound like a cliche, because it is true, time is a great healer.
 
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Overslop said:
Very sorry to read about this Brucey. I lost my father about 1 and a half years ago to cancer. I quoted that extract of your post earlier as that's exactly how I felt. Everyone else in my family was crying and overwhelmed with grief. For me personally the experience had been so gruelling and I had so many other things going on in my life at that time that my emotions had just switched off entirely. I recovered from that state and it was only later I began to feel grief too. Once that set in I was able to deal with the situation and move on. Now whenever I think of my father it's always the happy memories and the pride he filled me with. Obviously there are times where I feel sad to think about it but and I miss him greatly but that's only natural. At the end of the day, it's the natural order of things and something which we must all face in the end.

Anyways, I was just posting to share my experience and hopefully let you know that although you are in a terrible situation right now, things will improve. Without meaning to sound like a cliche, because it is true, time is a great healer.
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sorry for your loss mate, it is hard, too hard sometimes.
I do think the mind kind of deals with what it takes in.
I'm finding one minute im fine the next im a mess, time is a great healer I found that with my mum.
 
Haly said:
Truly sorry to hear about your Dad :(

It's just coming up to 3 years since my Dad died suddenly but I'm fortunate that at least I've still got my Mum. It's still awful though as I was so close to him and he was a great friend as well as a parent.

Hope your brother loses the obsession with material objects thing. Hopefully it's just a way of dealing with things, although I know my Mum lost out a lot due to one of her sisters doing similar when their Mum died. :/



Try not to feel too bad. From things I've heard from people in similar situations, this is quite common. I know my Grandad died shortly after everyone had left the hospital for the night.
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The main thing is you were there when he knew you were and you kept supporting him :) Very easy to blame yourself but do try not


Thank you

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Just read through this thread.

I'm very sorry for your loss brucey

I am lucky enough at 42 to still have both of my parents although there have been scares so I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through.

All I can say is chin up, be strong and you will make it though.
 
Larkspeed said:
Just read through this thread.

I'm very sorry for your loss brucey

I am lucky enough at 42 to still have both of my parents although there have been scares so I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through.

All I can say is chin up, be strong and you will make it though.
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Thank you.
 
brucey034 said:
sorry for your loss mate, it is hard, too hard sometimes.
I do think the mind kind of deals with what it takes in.
I'm finding one minute im fine the next im a mess, time is a great healer I found that with my mum.
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Didn't realise you had lost your mum also dude. I did read your thread when it was originally posted, really should have re-read before posting. :(

You know all too well what the experience is like then. I'm sure it doesn't make it the slightest bit easier though, I will be devastated again when my mum passes away, no doubt.
 
Really sorry to hear of your loss brucy, I wish I could give you some helpful advise, but I'm grieving myself and find some times I forget my mum has left this world as mad as that may sound. I will say this though you'll find yourself remembering special moments that only you and your dad shared which will bring you comfort. Take care of yourself mate.
 
Thinking of you, brucey. Numb is the word I found applicable when I lost my Dad, just over two years ago now. My best wishes, and remember...you are not alone.
 
brucey034 said:
Guess he hasn't backed off after all.
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Put your brother on ignore and forget about your fathers possessions. Any time he tries to raise the issue tell him you don't wish to discuss the issue at this moment. If I was you I would tell my bother to take the lot and never cross my path again, thats one family connection that needs cutting.

You wife did the right thing saying about him trying to sell your father's car.
 
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