Advising other people on their parenting...
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I've spoken to parents numerous times when their spawn litter. I can't stand it. Generally they are so shocked they'll comply and other times they'll ignore me. Likewise, I speak up when brats are running wild. I think that its right to shame people when their and their child's behavior is inappropriate.
It's not just the child littering though is it, and in that instance I'd imagine most people would just walk on by, but for a parent to actively instruct their child to litter, especially with easy access to bin, is bad parenting and frankly deserves some comment as you walk past.
imo.
But then, I'm not a parent so I'm sure I'm completely wrong, and that encouraging a young child to act like a chav is the correct way to act etc etc...
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Well, they'd think twice about charging about a restaraunt then wouldn't they?
I think he may have been joking
What makes you think that?
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No its not acceptable to 'advise' parents on there parenting skills, especially some stranger in the street! All that would happen is you would create a hostile situation.
only someone with a delusional superiority complex would feel the need to interfere, in my opinion anyway.
only someone with a delusional superiority complex would feel the need to interfere, in my opinion anyway.
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But that's the point in raising it - by creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation you draw thier attention to the fact thier (or chidlren under thier charge) behaviour is unnaceptable. It wouldn't work if a "hostile" situation wasn't created.
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Which restaurant do you work in/own? Is it one of the better known ones? If I said I used to live in the West End is it likely that I've been in your place?
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but you have no right to interfere in someones life, whether you like what they are doing or not!
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So if someone decides they want to get stabby, you can't stop them?
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Serious point though - i don't think it's unreasonable to interfere with people in certain situations, the ones i've outlined (littering and snotty picknmix) are situations where i'd totally understand if someone interfered. Those acts negatively impact the lives of others (be it in a very small or large way) and therefore i'd say someone is well within their rights to attempt to stop it whether it be for their own interests or the interests of others.
But then, that's just me.
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I absolutely do have that right especially if it's impacting on the environment I inhabit or on the quality of life I deserve.
If they do not think I have a valid point they have an equal right to ignore my objections.
Why are some people so scared of saying something about anything that is obviously wrong?
Don't despair, it's not just you - there are some decent people with high moral standards left in this world - I'm with you 100%.
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Similar happened to me, and the following then occurred.
1) Kid with his mum, throws half his icecream wrapper on the street as she is loading up her shopping. It was a cornetto, and he just ripped off the top half and dumped it on the floor whilst keeping the other half wrapped round his cornetto (if you get me).
2) I say to mum 'I'll pick this up then for him shall I?'
3) I pick up half the ice cream wrapper and have it in my hand and move towards the bin
4) Mum says 'He didn't drop it someone else did, don't make stuff up'
5) I say 'well, yes he did drop it' and start walking away
6) She says 'No he didn't I was watching him the whole time (voice raising now) who are you? who do you think you are?'
7) I say 'Listen, Yes he did. I'll put it in the bin.' I AGAIN start walking away.
8) She runs up to me and loudly says 'Listen he definately didn't - who the **** do you think you are, it's DEFINATELY not his, I was watching him the whole time, I promise you he didn't you ****. Who the **** do you think you are? Lying about my little boy? You ******* ****. You ******* **** *******!!'
9) I say 'You're mistaken, he dropped it'
10) Her 'NOT A CHANCE - He didn't, I WAS WATCHING HIM, HE DIDN'T. whats your ******* problem?'
11) Me 'You're mistaken or lying then, he did. And I can prove it'
12) Her 'What?'
13) Me 'I can prove it's his. Look, here is the half of the cornetto wrapper he chucked - match the 'tear' up against the bit he still has in his hand'
14) Her .. 'Er .. what? What? No. **** off. He did NOT drop that litter.'
15) Me 'Just match it up .. I can easily prove you're lying or mistaken. Your kid (who was protesting his innocence throughout' is DEFINATELY a liar. I can prove he dropped it .. just match up where he teared this bit off, it will match.'
16) Her 'No. You are a ******* ****, I'm not doing that - I am not lying you are lying .. I'm going to call my husband to come down here and beat you up. Don't lie mabout a 12 year old kid. What kind of sick **** are you?'
17) Me 'You're going to call your husband to duff me up? I don't believe you, as I know you lie'
18) Her 'I'm not lying, I'M NOT LYING'
19) Me 'I don't believe you, as I know you lie. You're a proven liar.'
20) Her 'I'm calling the POLICE. YOU ****. I'M CALLING THE POLICE.
21) Me 'I don't believe you, as you're a proven liar'
22) Her 'I'm 43, and I've never met a bigger ******* than you.'
23) Me 'I don't believe you, as you're a proven liar'
24) She changes into her huge landrover, for some reason really over-revving it as she skids away, as it that would 'teach me' somehow.
Think I made her day slightly worse, which is justice for her littering, and restored balance to the yin/yang of the universe!!
1) Kid with his mum, throws half his icecream wrapper on the street as she is loading up her shopping. It was a cornetto, and he just ripped off the top half and dumped it on the floor whilst keeping the other half wrapped round his cornetto (if you get me).
2) I say to mum 'I'll pick this up then for him shall I?'
3) I pick up half the ice cream wrapper and have it in my hand and move towards the bin
4) Mum says 'He didn't drop it someone else did, don't make stuff up'
5) I say 'well, yes he did drop it' and start walking away
6) She says 'No he didn't I was watching him the whole time (voice raising now) who are you? who do you think you are?'
7) I say 'Listen, Yes he did. I'll put it in the bin.' I AGAIN start walking away.
8) She runs up to me and loudly says 'Listen he definately didn't - who the **** do you think you are, it's DEFINATELY not his, I was watching him the whole time, I promise you he didn't you ****. Who the **** do you think you are? Lying about my little boy? You ******* ****. You ******* **** *******!!'
9) I say 'You're mistaken, he dropped it'
10) Her 'NOT A CHANCE - He didn't, I WAS WATCHING HIM, HE DIDN'T. whats your ******* problem?'
11) Me 'You're mistaken or lying then, he did. And I can prove it'
12) Her 'What?'
13) Me 'I can prove it's his. Look, here is the half of the cornetto wrapper he chucked - match the 'tear' up against the bit he still has in his hand'
14) Her .. 'Er .. what? What? No. **** off. He did NOT drop that litter.'
15) Me 'Just match it up .. I can easily prove you're lying or mistaken. Your kid (who was protesting his innocence throughout' is DEFINATELY a liar. I can prove he dropped it .. just match up where he teared this bit off, it will match.'
16) Her 'No. You are a ******* ****, I'm not doing that - I am not lying you are lying .. I'm going to call my husband to come down here and beat you up. Don't lie mabout a 12 year old kid. What kind of sick **** are you?'
17) Me 'You're going to call your husband to duff me up? I don't believe you, as I know you lie'
18) Her 'I'm not lying, I'M NOT LYING'
19) Me 'I don't believe you, as I know you lie. You're a proven liar.'
20) Her 'I'm calling the POLICE. YOU ****. I'M CALLING THE POLICE.
21) Me 'I don't believe you, as you're a proven liar'
22) Her 'I'm 43, and I've never met a bigger ******* than you.'
23) Me 'I don't believe you, as you're a proven liar'
24) She changes into her huge landrover, for some reason really over-revving it as she skids away, as it that would 'teach me' somehow.
Think I made her day slightly worse, which is justice for her littering, and restored balance to the yin/yang of the universe!!
i find it easier to just give a small smile to those that are struggling as much as i want to say something , only as ive been involved in 3 out of 5 of my neices and nephews growing up so sometimes you just got to leave it be.
In my case, fear of getting vagina'd in the face.
Unlike 90% of the OcUK frequenters i don't weigh 200kg, nor can i bench an elephant. I'm a home grown, true blooded keyboard warrior with a very strong acceptance of the fact that if someone wants to beat me up for saying something they don't like, they will succeed.
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Now you see, if I was that parent, I'd be mortally embarrassed and I'd have thanked the person who quite rightly drew my attention to ans aspect of my childs behaviour that needed to be addressed.
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Come on, man. You're a grown up and the best you have is this? Surprised she didn't hit you (if the story were true but it isn't but I laughed so good effort, I guess).
Having 5 kids myself. Yes it can be hard work but dam I ever saw one of my kids throwing rubbish around like that they get a clip. There is no excuse for what the child's mother done and that is just crappy/lazy parenting in my eyes.
Sadly when advising parents on there kids it can be very touchy parents tend to be aggressively protective.
As for kids running around McDonalds type restaurant I let mine all the time (tend to have a kids area just for this anyways) and the only reason I would go would be for the kids. They do know if they went to an upper class restaurant to try and sit nicely but that's no easy task when they in the 3-6 range.
I find a good way to handle this is if long wait for food take them outside and tell them to run around like a lunatic for 5 mins helps them get it out the system after all they are kids.
As for generally advising parents I learned a few years back best to keep my nose out. Saw some guy full force punch a 5 year old outside a school yet I am the one who got arrested.
Sadly when advising parents on there kids it can be very touchy parents tend to be aggressively protective.
As for kids running around McDonalds type restaurant I let mine all the time (tend to have a kids area just for this anyways) and the only reason I would go would be for the kids. They do know if they went to an upper class restaurant to try and sit nicely but that's no easy task when they in the 3-6 range.
I find a good way to handle this is if long wait for food take them outside and tell them to run around like a lunatic for 5 mins helps them get it out the system after all they are kids.
As for generally advising parents I learned a few years back best to keep my nose out. Saw some guy full force punch a 5 year old outside a school yet I am the one who got arrested.
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[FnG]magnolia;18892773 said:
Yes thats the best 'dealing with a kids child misbehaving' I have.
The story is true. If it wasn't, I'd have included Ninjas.
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wtf is a juice box
You know those cardboard cartons in the shape of a cuboid that contain fruit juice? Those
It was the easiest way i could think of naming it. Is there a correct term for the cardboard cuboids?