Death.
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Because having someone close to you die is a massive bereavement and shock. You have to show empathy.
This is really KS1-level common sense. I'm not going to go into it. This is tantamount to trolling.
I am not trolling, I would not be offending in the slightest if someone said to me, I am sorry your father/mother has died.
I would find it strange if someone said sorry for your loss as I haven't lost anyone, can you lose a person, for me you lose objects.
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Do you not think though that we do not deal with death and tend to skirt around the issue?
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doesn't bother me either tbh - but i'm not most people
So if some one died from something really nasty, does the headstone say,
John doe, Born *******, Brutally murdered on ********
Indeed they do. The getting over part is the hard bit.
I don't. I am fascinated by death. I even have a massive collection of cemetery photographs.
And no, I don't think people tend to skirt round the issue. What do you want to do, rub it in their faces?
And does it make it easier by saying things like passed away, fell asleep and lost?
I think that just prolongs the grief.
I guess some of the phrases come from religious beliefs, for example 'passed-on' is obviously referring to the soul going to heaven/hell.
For me as an atheist and brought up in an atheist family death is an absolute, so I have always referred to people as having died and nothing else.
I've always found the 'Forever Sleeping' type of headstones to be a bit weird and almost clinging on to the idea that someone is not really gone.
For me as an atheist and brought up in an atheist family death is an absolute, so I have always referred to people as having died and nothing else.
I've always found the 'Forever Sleeping' type of headstones to be a bit weird and almost clinging on to the idea that someone is not really gone.
Hurry up with the grief is what I am getting, although what impact that would have on him personally is beyond me...
There are plenty of threads on here where people have posted about a death close to them, I have never been disrespectful to any of them.
For a lot of people, yes.
Whatever helps the family. Sorry if you don't like it.
Don't get me wrong, people have a right to grieve however they want, I was just saying that I personally always found the idea of forever sleeping to be a bit strange.
lol, Oldcoals really knows how to pick his thread topics....
For me, it is simply about phrasing an unpleasant event and the emotional turmoil that accompanies it in softer and less final language.
Saying sorry for your Loss et al, is acknowledging the sorrow that person feels at the death of their loved one, rather than merely acknowledging that someone has died.
For me, it is simply about phrasing an unpleasant event and the emotional turmoil that accompanies it in softer and less final language.
Saying sorry for your Loss et al, is acknowledging the sorrow that person feels at the death of their loved one, rather than merely acknowledging that someone has died.
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