death benefits from work.,..

edscdk said:
it is possible that her close friends have sorted everything and she jsut wants ot be left alone...
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IME having friends express their condolences is always appreciated, sometimes they feel as though the world has already moved on without them.
People always feel awkward and often just decide to leave alone, when sometimes a cup of tea is a good time to have a moan.

Good man btw,
Boys from men, sorted.
 
You knew her husband very well, it is likely that she will know who you are and if not just explain that you are a good friend and ask her if there is anything she needs.

No doubt she will have family and friends who will rally around and help her also, and her mortgage will also have life insurance attached to it.

As for other bills, I would expect any company would give a significant amount of leeway under the circumstances, and I suspect his employer will have everything in hand regarding his life insurance.

My advice is simply pay your respects, ask if there is anything you can do and does she have enough money etc......and then just keep aware of the situation through a mutual friend and then, if it is clear she is struggling then just give her money, telling her the truth, that it is what her Husband would have done in your position.
 
vonhelmet said:
That's a bit of a leap.

If that's the concern, then just stick "Sorry for your loss" on the envelope.
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It was an extreme circumstance. However just giving her money may make it worse as she may feel bad that ppl are giving her stuff just because her husband died. Im saying dont treat her differently but be sensitive and empathise aswell
 
Gackt said:
There is hope for this world after all. Go over to express your condolences or whatever, and just offer her the cash, as has been said, as something you want to do for your friend's family in a time of need. If need be, make it clear that you aren't trying to engender any special favour and that you are simply trying to help.

If she accepts, great. If she doesn't, that is her right and I'd simply leave her saying that you are there if they need them. Possibly talk about your friendship.
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This.

Good on you OP :).
 
Castiel said:
You knew her husband very well, it is likely that she will know who you are and if not just explain that you are a good friend and ask her if there is anything she needs.

No doubt she will have family and friends who will rally around and help her also, and her mortgage will also have life insurance attached to it.

As for other bills, I would expect any company would give a significant amount of leeway under the circumstances, and I suspect his employer will have everything in hand regarding his life insurance.

My advice is simply pay your respects, ask if there is anything you can do and does she have enough money etc......and then just keep aware of the situation through a mutual friend and then, if it is clear she is struggling then just give her money, telling her the truth, that it is what her Husband would have done in your position.
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do this:)

like he says im sure she has family/friends who are also there for her but it wont do any harm to know that someone else is there too. im sure t she would love to have a chat with you anyway knowing that you where a good friend of his. i know i would.
 
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Castiel said:
You knew her husband very well, it is likely that she will know who you are and if not just explain that you are a good friend and ask her if there is anything she needs.
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this

@OP - I'd think that you could very easily offend someone by simply offering them money ... Best to pop round and check up on her, have a chat and then establish if she actually will be struggling with bills etc.. perhpas then would be the time to offer to help.
 
dowie said:
@OP - I'd think that you could very easily offend someone by simply offering them money ... Best to pop round and check up on her, have a chat and then establish if she actually will be struggling with bills etc.. perhaps then would be the time to offer to help.
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This, my father died when I was 13 and it can be very uncomfortable accepting aid from people you may not have met before.
 
the mortgage will be covered from insurance surely?

at my work the union gives the family £3k in cash within days to help out, plus the work pension etc. pay out
 
First off, big credit to you for even thinking of such a noble act.

One thing I would say is that banks are under a remit to be as sensitive and understanding to people who are going through mourning as is possible. I certainly wouldnt worry about the mortgage, an explanation to the bank and the bank will wait. As for the other bills I can't really say as I have never worked in the electricity, gas, or water industries, but I assume that they have a similar remit. Nobody wants to come off as the company hassling a widow for £25.
 
Rids said:
Nobody wants to come off as the company hassling a widow for £25.
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That's an interesting point.

Recently my Granddad died (Mum had to sort out the Estate) and my Auntie died (my Uncle had to sort out the Estate).

My Auntie was about three months in to an 18 month phone contract with O2, and hadn't got round to paying the previous months bill. When they were informed that she'd died O2 just said to leave it. Sod the unpaid bill, sod the handset, and sod the 18 month contract.

My Granddad had been having his Milk delivered as normal by Dairy Crest until when he went into hospital (it was then put on hold until he was going to come out). When they were informed that he'd died Dairy Crest sent out an invoice for the £3 worth of milk he'd had that month.


As such I now have one opinion of O2 and a different opinion of Dairy Crest!
 
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