Do You Have Friends?

Yeah I have a solid group of 6 best mates, 3 of them I've known for about 10 years, we hang out like 2-3 times a week at least. Then I have friends who I've met through my best mates but I don't see them that often, only when we go out to a club or sometimes at a pub, probably around 20-30 of them. Then all my old school mates who I don't really see that often but still chat to on facebook ect :p

I don't have a girlfriend though :p
 
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WrathOfAchilles said:
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Dammit! I just spent the last hour or two going through the xkcd comics! :mad:

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aaron said:
Im at 6th form 5 days a week 8-4 and working every saturday and sunday 9-5:30 so really dont have all that much time to myself where i can soicilise :(
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Sorry but, every minute of every day at 6th form was full of fun and laughter for everyone doing my course.

8-4 is a poor excuse, you still have 8+ hours left in the day. At least try to talk to your classmates. College is an ideal place to make some real friends and have some great fun.
 
Welshy said:
What the hell, so many people here have no friends? You need to get out more and meet people...
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lol, I have friends but you will realise that when you get to a certain age, post university, your friends will be all over the country and seeing them will mean a weekend away. All of the sudden this thing call life creeps up on you, people get jobs and into serious relationships that they end up with their gf/wife more. Where they neglect their buddies. I guess this is where men do the friendship thing not as well as woman as we don't chit chat as much. To put it bluntly, we don't call up our mates and chat for ours. We spend more times on the phone at work talking to clients instead or to our accountant or something. Girls do.

For example, my mate Paul...

Paul lives 5 mins away drive from me. He works Sunday to Thursdays. He recently got himself a gf from Rio 6 months ago. Since last October, I only seen him once, over the Christmas pub crawl. He used to be the lad, the one to call to go to the pub, even when he had a gf. But having a lost distance relationship now means I never see him. Why? When she is over, which was last October, he was with her every moment. When she is in Rio, he comes home and spends the entire night on MSN talking to her. He never comes to the pub anymore now, always gives the excuse of "I need to save up for my next flight".

Now, I have had a very busy April, 3 weddings and 1 holiday in the space of 3 and a half week. Which happens to be the time his gf is over again from Rio. He wanted us to go to the pub when she is over, now that when she is here, I text to ask him to go to the pub...he'll text back saying they got plans. Well, the last free night I have is tonight, which he went to the cinema with her. I am off to a wedding tomorrow, then back at work next week. She will then be back in Rio. He will be on MSN again...the boy is so under the thumb.

Frankly, I don't think I will see him out again, ever.

Oh, he only just gone and proposed to her 2 weeks ago. Good luck to him, i hope he knows what he is doing, they only met 3 times since last October!

Then there are other friends who lives all over the country.
 
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Raymond Lin said:
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Haha, I know what you mean Ray, to an extent. I have indeed effectively lost a couple of friends since University, thanks to a combination of them living far away and becoming engaged.

I moved to a new town for work after Uni and have made a great group of friends here too, but again a couple have disappeared off the map since getting into serious relationships... what is it with guys nobs overruling their brains :p

My point being, friends can be made if people are open to it.
 
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Haha, I know what you mean Ray, to an extent. I have indeed effectively lost a couple of friends since University, thanks to a combination of them living far away and becoming engaged.

I moved to a new town for work after Uni and have made a great group of friends here too, but again a couple have disappeared off the map since getting into serious relationships... what is it with guys nobs overruling their brains :p

My point being, friends can be made if people are open to it.
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Frankly, I see my work colleague a hell lot more than my friends.

There is also another friend, Ian.

Ian also met and married a girl from Rio*, they been married and has a kid now, who is 1 years old last month. Now Flavia has applied for her residency which is yet approved, but no doubt will. So in the mean time she can only stay 6 months at a time. It is really funny you know, when she is over, I do not see Ian at all, not a peep. Now she is back home, he calls me again. Now I don't know if he knows this, when i was over in his house last month for his son's 1st birthday party. I told him I got to leave at 2:30pm, if he wants photos done, which btw, Flavia just thought I would take some, didn't even ask, just because I got an invite, that I would bring thousands of pounds worth of gear to a party..... but he is one of my oldest friends so I let that go but I told him if he wanted them done, he better get his ass to his mum's house where the party is before 2:30 as I have to leave town at 3:45 (I have to get home first to drop the camera off as well).

At 2:30 he doesn't show, I called him and he says he is ready, his son is ready but Flavia isn't....it was the bloody woman wanted pictures! His mum said "It's not Ian you know, its Flavia, it was like this at Christmas. Why couldn't he married a nice English Girl Ray?" Apparently she was the reason they were late for their family Christmas dinner too.

I stayed til 3 in the end, actually pulling out of the road when he turned up and I turned the car around and went back to get a couple of shots of his boy, otherwise it would be a set of birthday photos without the birthday boy.

It will also be the last time I do a favour for her as well.

*Ian's wife is actually friend with Paul's gf, its how they met, Ian's wife (Flavia) introduced Dani to Paul over MSN 2 years ago.

Basically I am losing 2 friends to a couple of Brazilian girls, which btw, not like they are on TV!
 
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Hmmm, I have 5 proper friends,and then probably 25 people I often talk with, then 10 more I sometimes talk with, no gf... but tbh I only actually like about 9 of them, and I don't often do anything social with any of them...

A few of those 5 proper friends used to be a lot closer, but with us all in different classes at school, and living far apart I feel I've sort of drifted off, and I don't really have any really close friends atm - shame.

Also, school can be a really hard place to meet girls - I all my lessons, there is some disabled asian girl, one who's going to get marrried, and one super popular blonde. Extra curriculars aren't any good either and my school has this weird ultra segregation thing going on out of lessons... Poor me.
 
Welshy said:
Sounds like a soap!
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I have lots more material! lol

Well, shall I say, my friends provide me with lots of material.

Oh, I don't have a gf atm and god forbid I become one of them who neglect my friends (6)MONTHS+ at a time, somebody slap me.
 
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when i was in high school i had about 20 ish mates and then after i left i ended up with about 6 mates that could actually be arsed to go out and do stuff then that slowly went to 2, i left home a few months back and moved in a place with my gf. in the 4 months iv been here only one of my mates has only come over once and he doesnt live far away at all, i try to arrange things but always get a "dont have any money" so these days i just think **** em and dont even bother now. its not like i dont see anyone other than my gf though because i spend time with my gf's mates but its not the same.
 
I've got 2 real friends I can trust with absolutely anything, the rest are just people I know but don't often hang out with unless I'm with the previous two.

I'm becoming more and more regressive in terms of being social, but just like people who can't live without being around friends 24/7, the opposite must exist and that's what I am.
I prefer being alone most of the time.

Without a job and much money doesn't help, I'm sure things will change once those prospects look up; I'm just finding late nights/early mornings more enjoyable than the hustle bustle of "9 to 5".
 
I'm at uni at the moment, so I do have some friends, but I suspect when I leave I won't have any. I'm not a very social person, unfortunately I probably 'pride myself' on being able to cope without people (I've done 2 months without socialising at all during holidays), but this does mean I tend to reject company when its not forced upon me.

I also don't drink at all, which makes it considerably trickier to talk to people, so I tend to avoid parties and big social occasions. Needless to say, I'm single.
 
If you have no friends you need to get some. I can't stand being alone for too long. Sure it is nice to have a relax but what then? can't beat chatting with your mates.

I work 12 hour shifts for 4 days in a row and still manage to go round to my homies house in the evening as 4 days without mates does me in. Quite often get tea made for me. :p

Not trying to judge. I used to spend more time on the computer but even then I was constantly on Teasmspeak and playing online games. when I stopped playing MMOs I was major bored so had to start seeing my friends more. So I moved closer to them. So much better being 5 mins away from your best friends, rather than only seeing them at weekends and such.

Unless I am stoned or something I need company or it's just boring after a while.


Perhaps it will change when everyone gets married and stuff but most of us that went to uni have been out of it for a few years now and we still live close by. some have moved away but we have gained new people in our 'group' aswell.
 
I very rarely see people outside socializing at work. I love operating on my own most of the time. Really don't spend much time on the PC either so can't blame that. Luckily my personality is very easy going and friendly, so I'm always talking to people wherever I go, gym, shops, boxing club, out and about, etc. I do my socializing that way and when I'm tired of people, I go home and hang on my own.

This is actually becoming a bit of an issue with my new girlfriend as she has tons of friends that she always drags me out with to see. Half of them she bitches about behind their back while they undoubtedly do the same behind hers. But everyone suffers it cause they're all **** scared of being alone. Life's too short for all that
 
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