Do You Have Friends?

I can't say that I really have any close friends. When I was at university that I had a social group of friends I used to hang around with, but since then I've drifted away and lost contact with most of them ... now there's really only one which I have infrequent contact with as he lives a couple of hundred miles from me.

I have a lot of work mates who I enjoy spending time with in the office but I don't tend to see them much outside the office except on, infrequent, work nights out.
 
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I've 4 or so close friends, god know how many other friends (from college etc) that I don't really keep in close contact with
plus a gf, with a baby on the way!

four years ago I had none of these things and was very depressed.
sometimes you just go though periods like that.
 
I don't have a strong need to socialise for some reason. I had a fair amount of friends when I was at high school and studying for my degree afterwards, but when I moved here from South Africa I didn't bother keeping in touch with them since I knew I was never going back there. Since I've been here I can't be bothered to go out to pubs usually. Occasionally I would get invited out by old colleagues but I just don't feel like walking all around London and drinking in loud clubs. I do go out sometimes for a drink or two with my current workmates, and I get along with them all really well, but I just have no desire to go out every Friday.

So I have no friends at all, but fortunately it doesn't bother me and I have a family who require most of my time anyway.
 
I agree with many, have a few people I would call friends but have my boyfriend of 3 years :) - we're moving away soon too so i'll have less lol x
 
Surprised to see so many people as unsociable as me. For me I had loads of `friends` in my college days and when I used to go down the pub/clubbing all the time but over the years I quit drinking, stopped going out/have a wife and three kids and I'm just not that interested in socialising anymore (now 33).

I realised that most people I met along the way I wasn't that friendly with anyway. I do have a few closer mates but I don't enjoy spending too much time with them, I prefer spending time with my missus and kids/my parents and hers. I work by myself, so I don't socialise at work much either. In terms of a `lads` night out, probablly go out twice a year with close friends to a rave/birthday bash that's about it.
 
Not many frirnds, have a gf I spend 90% of my non work time with including films, f1, clubbing etc etc, i met her on a f1 forum so we have lots in common.. She's also hot :D

I would like more friends but most of my uni mates are far away and my old local school friends like football and ****ing all their money away every Saturday night at the same club :/
 
I have a real best friend who I've known for 11 years. All through school, college and now in the same university and same student house. The other 2 guys here I also consider best friends. Have about 5-6 friends back at home who I rarely see now due to university and had a lot at college who I again rarely see after coming to university. I have a girlfriend :) There are a lot of people I speak to at university but I wouldn't call the majority of them good friends (as in I wouldn't trust them with anything serious or confide in them).
 
I was expecting this thread to have a poll that way i and others can not feel like total losers potentially.
 
robgmun said:
IMO Friends are well overrated, i prefer just being in relationships
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Castiel said:
How can people not have friends?
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I really just don't understand.

Yep, I have loads of "friends", within that general group is the "lads" who I've known all my life, play football with, go to the pub with ect ect and they include some close friends.

Have some other close female friends :)
 
Biggest question I have is, since when did senior school become high school? Were we all teleported to America or is it a southern thing? :confused:
 
Used to DJ, go clubbing and club promote so had a large social circle and probably well over 100 people i would consider 'mates' and about a dozen good friends.

Something changed in me (mainly caused by bad anxiety i had 5 or 6 years ago) and tend to avoid social events as much as possible now.
The anxiety has got better but tend to prefer my own company now i'm in my thirties.
Many of my old mates i haven't seen for years, i do really worry about the old life i left behind sometimes and tend to live in the past/good old days.

The other side of me quite likes it the way things are so haven't done anything about it.
Will have to make an effort soon to catch up as some people i haven't seen for 5 years, will probably lose them forever if i leave any longer:(


Not very good with conversational skills now and appear pretty boring compared to what i used to be!
 
I have a lot of friends who I do go out with a few times for a drink and a catch up.
However, everyweek I go out with my two "closer" friends who I can share everything with.

And then I have the gf who is an extension of me!
 
I don't get out _at all_ which is I have colleagues and "mates" but no one I'd call a close friend.

And I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 18... which is about 23 years ago :p You may have noticed I made a giant thread about it last month :p Soooo glad I didn't post pics!

I would probably find it depressing if I hadn't stopped feeling anything some time ago. Love? Meh, no idea mate. Happiness? A pipe dream. I feel nothing for you and nothing for me.
 
I have aspergers, which can make it a little difficult to make friends. However I have several really good friends at the moment, and a load of good mates for pubs, gaming etc. No girlfriend ATM, bit I have just come out of a slightly destructive relationship, so am not really interested in more of a commitment than paying for the taxi for them the next morning :)

Some people on here, however, seem to gave the completely wrong sort of attitude to make any sort of decent friends, and as such I hope for their sake that this is online only. Some other people just can't make friends. My dad, for example, is a really great guy, but he just doesn't have the knack for it :)
 
I have 5-10 I'd actually consider as my proper friends, then there are the other's I'd probably label as acquaintances rather than a friend. I don't get to see my friends much at all now because we all have jobs and one goes to university about 150 miles away. We all generally try and meet up and go to the pub when the one comes back from university to see his family every couple of months though. Definitely don't see them as much as I used to when we all went to the same college :p

No girlfriend either, it's about time I got one really :/
 
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