Girlfriend not able to drink... what do?
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More to the point, if you can't have a good time without alcohol, then you seriously need to take a look at your lives!
Not drinking isn't the end of the world.
I'd certainly offer to not drink as well (or at least, not when she is with you).
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I can only drink a couple of drinks before feeling violently ill due to medication I am on. Does it bother me? No. I chose drinks I like the flavour of, I don't drink to get drunk and act like a idiot.
I really don't get the pressure to drink just to get drunk.
I really don't get the pressure to drink just to get drunk.
Nope.
Well no, I'm not saying that she can't have a good time without alcohol. All I'm saying is that it's a big change to have forced upon you when alcohol has been part of your lifestyle.
I'm fully aware, and I'm sure she is, that it's not the end of the world, so to speak. She just needs time to adjust.
The general consensus (aside from preggers, being the sober driver and doing drugs
) is that I should support her - and I was going to do so anyway. I think not drinking around her, and doing stuff where alcohol isn't involved will be about the most helpful thing I can do for her in all honesty, so that's what I'll do.I'm off to work now, and I'll be back late, so I'll reply to any more posts then.
Cheers everyone.
Erm, what? Wrong thread?
Sorry to be blunt, but you're missing the point here. She's not drinking to get drunk. And she can't even drink a couple of drinks like you - a few sips of anything makes her ill. She can't drink for the sake of enjoying the actual drink, and it's that that's upset her.
I know a lot of you have mentioned perspective, and that it's not the end of the world, and it's not, I'm fully aware of that. But nontheless, it's still a big change to be forced upon her, and all I'm asking for is a bit of advice in helping her cope with that.
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I say you test her with the non-alcoholic alcoholic drink. Get some non-alcoholic wine. Tell her to try it. If she complains about it ditch her as she's messung you around. It will leave you free to pastie smash everything at your uni!
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i cant drink either because it gives me a nasty headache after the first pint
doesnt bother me cause i can still have a good time without it, problem is though i get left out a lot because of that.
doesnt bother me cause i can still have a good time without it, problem is though i get left out a lot because of that.
I stopped drinking when I was 20 and at uni, and I sorta didn't have a choice either so I can relate. The good news is that I have more fun and spend less money, and never get hangovers. The bad part is watching everyone turn into knobs and having to chaperone them as the night progresses. Now I keep it fun by recording the most embarrassing moments on my phone. She has all that in store as a young sober person. You, op, have a gf who will remember every stupid thing you say or agree to while drunk. Lol.
Tbh that's a right pain as when you're sober and other people are drinking they normally seem well retarded.
In time though she'll get used to it - if need be she needs to have a proper talk with her friends, explain her issue and ask them to support her. Then it'll simply be a matter of getting used to not drinking, and I suspect before long she'll find she is having a lot of fun anyway. Also make her the designated driver all the time and she can earn $$$ or alternatively always have a free night out.
In time though she'll get used to it - if need be she needs to have a proper talk with her friends, explain her issue and ask them to support her. Then it'll simply be a matter of getting used to not drinking, and I suspect before long she'll find she is having a lot of fun anyway. Also make her the designated driver all the time and she can earn $$$ or alternatively always have a free night out.
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My Auntie died from Lupus 2 years ago.
May just be an allergy, may be she has some underlying general complaint that is increasing the toxic load on her liver to the point any additional toxin, ie alcohol is causing her problems, water toxicity may not be helping either, buy some celtic sea salts and use sparingly in cooking, or just drink some in water with some fresh fruit juices.
Bit of a health kick and change in diet may improve her situation, need to get to the root cause of the problem rather than just admitting defeat and resigning to never drinking again, find out if she is allergic first.
Then if not, try some alternative treatments, she may have candida and/or low immune system contributing to her general unwellness, she could try cleanses, fasting, gluten free diet, etc etc.
Its up to her if she wants to just admit defeat and never drink again, or she can do something about it, I know I wouldnt put up with it, i love my drink i do
Bit of a health kick and change in diet may improve her situation, need to get to the root cause of the problem rather than just admitting defeat and resigning to never drinking again, find out if she is allergic first.
Then if not, try some alternative treatments, she may have candida and/or low immune system contributing to her general unwellness, she could try cleanses, fasting, gluten free diet, etc etc.
Its up to her if she wants to just admit defeat and never drink again, or she can do something about it, I know I wouldnt put up with it, i love my drink i do
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This.
If a few sips of alcohol is making her sick, then it's best not to drink at all. Since medical results were inconclusive, there is no way of knowing what could happen to her in near future.
'Prevention is better than cure'
You have a responsibility aswell of making sure she stays healthy just as she is responsible aswell.
There is a saying in eastern traditions:
Health is the greatest wealth and blessing.
