am a right idiot

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Thanks for all your input guys.
posting from a cyber cafe in La Spezia at the mo.
so greetings from La Spezia Italy.
I was gonna get the next flight back actually but then though it would be better to give her time.

I return on the 16th, this weekend.
When we get back we have a lot to talk about. I will move out. but i'd still like to make sure than financially she'll be ok. I've told her to look for someone to take the room that I was in. It is quit expensive renting your own place these days
The place is under her name as she found the flat and I was away when she did all the moving etc.
 
ChroniC said:
I have to agree with the players on here, good on you. She wants her cake blah blah. You cant stay in limbo, we all know it would hurt to see the ex with someone else, hence one of you should move away.
I would say though, that you have made her jealous. It will work in your favour, and although some people say has blown your chances, id say has strengthened them.

However, if she isnt a serial witch, and is upset then you should talk about her leaving, cause you need to get on it dude, theres plenty more fun to be had.
p.s// If the girl you took home was a not as fit as her, you lose. Never go lower.
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yup, I lose. girl was a porker. serious beer google man.
whats worse, she left her phone and purse in my room and my ex is returning it back to her this afternoon.
 
Serious fail you stayed living with her for so long and serious fail for banging a porker....go back, grow some balls and tell her you want her, end of. Explain that it happened cos you felt lonely and being around her and not having her made you feel awful (it may be bs but just do it) and tell her you want to give you both a serious go or move out and then no contact. See what she says, dont mope around feeling sorry for yourself, it isnt attractive.
 
'I will move out. but i'd still like to make sure that financially she'll be ok'

Lolwut, so now you are going to move out and keep paying her rent. Why don't you understand that the relationship is over. I know you said earlier that you wan't to be friends and all that rubbish but that never works. I will have to say it again-

MAN UP!
 
Nix said:
Look, you're either together or you're not. Less of this umming and ahhing.

If it's unfair you bringing girls back, it's just as unfair for her to keep you strung along whilst she's being a headacase.

Stand up for yourself. If you're not together, she doesn't have a damn bit of authority over your sex-life anymore. You're a grown man, not a bit of convenience for her.

/Prepares to be flamed.
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This.

Dunks said:
To be honest, you've done yourself a favor.

Living with your ex after a mutual break up is the silliest thing I've ever heard of, especially with the notion of getting back together.

Now just move out.
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This.

Mucky_Pup said:
Translation from woman into man.... Computing...

"I want to start shagging around and taste the baby gravy of the many different men from around the globe. I will turn you into a empty husk of a man, longing for my return, then I will take pity on you and take you back eventually (I mean I'm not even moving out, so the alone thing is just made up). But you're forbidden from sleeping with other women in the mean time"

...translation completed.
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This.

She's just angry that you got to the finish line before she did (bad form for the munter, remember: 'equal or greater value'). It'd be a whole different argument from her perspective if you'd caught her with some random ****... she'd be telling you it was time to move on and how dare you think you have the right to say what she can or cannot do with her own life. ;)

JRY said:
but i'd still like to make sure than financially she'll be ok
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lolwut? There's being chivalrous, and there's being a chump... and buddy, you're starting to sound like a chump. :p
 
Hi.
Your human and have emotions, upfront and subconscious. When people spilt up its for many many reasons so what you did is most likely a reaction to the situation, wanting closness with the ex as.its maybe familiar territory. Sounds to me like a 'time to properly move.on' reaction and tbh, best to go with it. Don't beat yourself up, consider this a time to convelasce and get sorted. Chin up and don't over react. Chin up.
 
JRY said:
Hi guys

This isn't another relationship thread. I just need to get it off my chest what an absolute AS$%&/e I am. Feel free to mock or poke fun at me.
I live with my ex. We had an amazing relationship and are best friends. We've only just broken up 3 months ago. It was a mutual breakup because we were constantly having stressess and not really communicating our issues, just coexisting together. We broke up wanting to give ourselves space to grow individually and she wanted to better understand herself and to learn to be alone(if this makes sense?)

I regret the breakup and do want her back. She knows this.
Here comes the story, last night an old visiting friend came to visit and we went out. I was hammered! I ended up pulling this chick and taking her back. My ex was out as well and came back and found us in bed together. She was livid! One of the rules was that I was NEVER to bring any girls back to our home. Its just plain courtesey to the other person. I mean... I would be crushed if she did the exact same to me.

I hang my head in shame. I mean, I claim to love her but how could I have done something so unimaginably cruel. Especially to someone that I hold so close. We've always mentioned the possibility of getting back together, who knows, but that has totally gone out the window. I feel so embarassed. I told her that I will be moving out. I don't want to hurt her anymore. I am also never going to touch another drink again.

Thanks for reading.
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Fail for not shutting the door to be honest. If you did and she walked in anyway fail on her.
 
Mucky_Pup said:
Can't hear you, your ex bird pressing on you with her thumb must be muffling the sound you're emitting.

Seriously, man up.
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True.

You split up, you part own the house, you can do what you want. You werent getting back together, this is a good thing. Plus, you got your man-package moistened. Good times.

Ant :cool:
 
At best, she's confused and the 'no girl' rule shows that she would get jealous - therefore she has feelings for you.

At worst, she's taking advantage as much as possible and in the meantime you're being put through the special type of prolonged mental torture that only women can dish out.

Don't bash yourself up over the meat injection, there were extenuating circumstances (e.g. drunk..it's your place..and it was inevitable eventually).
 
JRY said:
Its amazing in one night I literally destroyed my amazing relationship.
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An amazing relationship? Dude, you're deluded... You weren't even together at the time!!

Get out of there and get over her, for your own sake.
 
You are not an idiot actually you have a potential of becoming a genius. What did she expect . For heavens sake she was sexually harassing you. A beautifully ex that you have to stay with but you are not allowed to touch!.

In your apology don't start blaming the booze. Concentrate on two point. "The fresh is weak" (three months of a sudden no sex is not manly feasible) and secondly tell her at least you opted for a one night stand with a no body other than trying to rape her or sleep with a some body.

I assure you your chances of getting back together have increased after that idiotic act of yours.
In that whole set up she had nothing to miss about you although you were missing a lot from her. An ex who still has your affection, protection, presence, wooing and has denied you a chance of seeing potential competitors what else does she need from you.

What you did was a necessary evil thank the drink of giving you the balls to do it.
 
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