Are you Homophobic?

tom91x91 · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:08

tbh i have seen gay porn (someone put it on as a joke, or someone sent a link that turned out to be gay porn), and the anal part didnt bother me, but two men kissing or kissing each others private parts does.

MeEsH BaKkA · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:10

1LANCS said:
So that somehow cheapens or lessens the severity of the abuse of being gay?

No, thats not the point im making.
I think you are perhaps being a bit sensationlist

Tombstone · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:10

1LANCS said:
Because of what you just said, if you are a guy and say you have a boyfriend then you get the ridiculous crap you come out with slinged at them, if they say partner it could mean boy or girl.

I'd hope its a man and not a boy , that's a whole different kind of sexual attraction

1LANCS · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:11

MeEsH BaKkA said:
No, thats not the point im making.
I think you are perhaps being a bit sensationlist

Well it is because you just laughed it off saying that other people have it worse, so because they have it worse no one can speak about it?

1LANCS · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:12

mglover070588 said:
They use it as in excuse. The people who make the biggest deal about being gay, are gays.

Thats the point.

Id tell you to go google gay abuse or gay and killed but you seem to have an issue about gays, if people dont speak up about the abuse they are getting no one can do anything about it.

MeEsH BaKkA · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:13

1LANCS said:
Well it is because you just laughed it off saying that other people have it worse, so because they have it worse no one can speak about it?

Are you gay?

I think it is probably a fact in this day and age it is better to be gay in england than from a ethnic minority from an abuse viewpoint.
At no point have I laughed anything off other than your reaction.

1LANCS · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:15

Not that it matters but no im not gay.

mjt · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:16

MeEsH BaKkA said:
Are you gay?

I think it is probably a fact in this day and age it is better to be gay in england than from a ethnic minority from an abuse viewpoint.

What the hell sort of argument is this?!

Yeah, I'd totally rather my nan had cancer than AIDS.

MeEsH BaKkA · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:16

Where are you getting your gay bashing/murdering facts from?

I have just shown my mother (and actual real life gay) your comments and even she laughed at you.

MeEsH BaKkA · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:19

mjt said:
What the hell sort of argument is this?!

Yeah, I'd totally rather my nan had cancer than AIDS.

It was aimed at his sensationalism rather than the actual abuse.

alexakasloth · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:20

I've got no problems with people being gay, my brother is and has done work with support groups (Terrance Higgins being one of them) so it's not something that is unusual to talk about at home. I don't use the term 'gay' as an insult any more but when other people use it I don't automatically think that they are homophobic, it's just something that has become a term of insult with no actual meaning.

1LANCS · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:23

MeEsH BaKkA said:
Where are you getting your gay bashing/murdering facts from?

I have just shown my mother (and actual real life gay) your comments and even she laughed at you.

Just google it, im not saying it happens every day but it shouldnt happen at all, the Ian Baynham case is the most recent one that sticks in mind. As for the abuse i regularly hang around with my gay buddy and his partner, they arent all over each other and making lewd remarks or actions in public like some homophobes here think that all gay people do, they like to hold hands and walking down the street with them i see first hand all the remarks, dirty looks, abuse they get. While i may come across as a bit sensationalist it just annoys me how disinterested people are about the abuse towards gay people.

J86 · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:24

My girlfriend's friend is gay, I'll quite happily give him a hug!

1LANCS · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:27

Fisha said:
My girlfriend's friend is gay, I'll quite happily give him a hug!

lol at first i read that as "my girlfiends gay, ill quite happily give him a hug".

Angilion · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:28

Inaccurate labelling for political reasons annoys me, so I'm going to say this:

I'm not very scared of sameness, i.e. I'm not homophobic.

OpenToSuggestions · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:29

1LANCS said:
lol at first i read that as "my girlfiends gay, ill quite happily give him a hug".

Whilst most men like the idea of lesbians, in reality at least one of the couple looks butch as ****.

1LANCS · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:30

Angilion said:
Inaccurate labelling for political reasons annoys me, so I'm going to say this:

I'm not very scared of sameness, i.e. I'm not homophobic.

The english language morphs and changes as society progresses (or doesnt in some areas), just because it used to mean scared of something doesnt mean that it has to now.

^TANK^ · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:38

robgmun said:
As long as they're not flauting in front of me (ie snogging etc) then no problem at all.

This ^.

It also irritates me when heterosexual couples start chewing off each others face around me.

GET A ****ING ROOM!

Usher · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:39

If a hetro man finds the thought of kissing a bloke repulsive then it's only natural that watching two blokes doing it is going to have the same effect.
Why do gays feel the need to throw it in our faces with gay pride marches & all the rest, I don't ever recall seeing a hetro pride march & if there was it would probably be banned as ' antigay' :rolleyes:

Many men will feel uneasy in the presence of gay men because of the feeling they are 'eying you up' . It's natural for hetro men to eye up all the attractive women they meet & a gay man will obviously do the same to what they deem as attractive men. My wife worked in the theatre & TV for many years & had several close friends who were gay men & at one time shared a flat with two of them so there's not a lot she doesn't know of the life they lead

Am I homophobic? only a little bit but not as bad as I was when I was younger

dirtybeatfreak · 17 Jul 2011 at 12:47

Panzerbjorn said:
I'm not homophobic, my housemate at uni was gay and he's a top bloke.

What I would say is I'm probably 'campaphobic'. There's something about camp blokes (heterosexual or homosexual) that winds me up.

E.g. I don't mind Graham Norton but I can't watch Alan Carr.

I really can't stand the Arts and Culture correspondent on Channel 4 news.

this really, I also have nothing against normal gays, but can't stand the camp, in your face kind. Bit like football fans who put on that stupid voice when watching/supporting a match, you don't normally talk like that, sort it out!