Theatening to lock the door on me.

Neodite · 2 Sep 2011 at 10:14

Gilly said:
I understood your stance from your first post, I was simply saying there's two sides to every story.

It isn't as black and white as some are making it out.

Oh i know. It's just you always see the OP's side as they never go into detail about the other party.

And we will probably only ever know the OP's side. But if it is a case where his mum is ill, i just hope he is not a **** about it and helps her.

Vonhelmet · 2 Sep 2011 at 10:31

Neodite said:
Oh i know. It's just you always see the OP's side as they never go into detail about the other party.

And we will probably only ever know the OP's side. But if it is a case where his mum is ill, i just hope he is not a **** about it and helps her.

And if she is not amenable to being helped?

Neodite · 2 Sep 2011 at 10:33

Vonhelmet said:
And if she is not amenable to being helped?

Then is she is just the devils spawn then atleast he can say he did his best and no regret from just leaving her ill.

FARGO · 2 Sep 2011 at 10:45

Not enough context to provide useful advice.

Davepen · 2 Sep 2011 at 10:48

Vonhelmet said:
It's not quite as black and white as that, though, is it?

Well no, but in the eyes of the law, she has every right to kick him out.

BennyC · 2 Sep 2011 at 10:54

OldCoals said:
So your mum has locked you out and you are threatening to knock her back door in.

Made me lol.

I think this is beyond GD.

Go and see her doctor and get her the help she needs.

Vonhelmet · 2 Sep 2011 at 11:31

Davepen said:
Well no, but in the eyes of the law, she has every right to kick him out.

She does, but that doesn't mean she's at all right to do so, but we can't judge without more background.

Kanpai · 2 Sep 2011 at 11:43

I smell troll

MeEsH BaKkA · 2 Sep 2011 at 11:53

OP you are 18, you are a man legally therefore your mum is well within her right to refuse you entry into her house. If she is mental or you are a *** it makes no difference, if she does not want you there she can have you removed.

If you and your mum have a bad relationship then it's probably best you find somewhere else to stay, do you have a job? If so rent a room failing that see if you can stay with a friend, if that us not possible the council should be able to put a roof over your head so give them a call or go and speak to someone face to face or the CAB.

You would have to move out at some point in your life and it's not as if you are a child, swallow it and get on with finding housing, perhaps once you have moved out your relationship with you mother will improve. Mine did.

Deluxe1 · 2 Sep 2011 at 12:04

My take on it without reading the whole thread is that the OP has been a total brat his mother is at the end of her tether and had enough and has kicked him out.

LordSplodge · 2 Sep 2011 at 12:06

FARGO said:
Not enough context to provide useful advice.

ZombieFan · 2 Sep 2011 at 12:21

I can't believe I'm having to explain this, but this is the things to do in order.

1. Sort out the issue with your mum and get back in the house, or...
2. Collect stuff. Stay with family, or...
3. Collect stuff. Stay with friends, or...
4. Store stuff in a local storage company (http://www.storage.co.uk) and get a B&B, or...
5. Stored stuff in local storage and get a hotel.

Please note that breaking into your mum's house isn't on the list.

Gilly · 2 Sep 2011 at 12:23

I'll just say that at that age I wasn't the calm, resourceful and tactful being I am now. I wouldn't have paused to post on the internet, I would've been through the door without asking advice

Davepen · 2 Sep 2011 at 12:39

Vonhelmet said:
She does, but that doesn't mean she's at all right to do so, but we can't judge without more background.

Granted.

But judging by the original post asking if kicking the door down was an option, I'd say the OP is probably at fault here.

stephen-roberts · 2 Sep 2011 at 12:45

How old is she..

really i would try and sit down with her

after all she is your mother
but it depends on what you did to get youre self in the postion in the first place
whats the history

can you shed some light

eddie_slovik · 2 Sep 2011 at 13:22

My interest in this thread was in the OP's reaction to being kicked out.
There will be no pics of my daughter.
I have three kids, two boys and a girl. My boys have never been any trouble, unlike my daughter.
She was fine until secondary school when the hormones kicked in. By the time she was 13 I realised I'd lost her. School was a waste of time for her. Very poor choice of friends. Series of deadend jobs before she fell on her feet. Only person in family with criminal record. Has lied, stolen, will crap on anyone, rude, abusive, slovenly, spits, smokes allsorts ........... need I go on ?
There are positives but they are far outweighed by the negatives.
Don't care if anyone feels I am bad parent, I'm old enough to know that you can't win a coconut everytime and with both my boys doing well in life I think two out of three is fair enough.

Sry for hijack OP.

gambitt · 2 Sep 2011 at 13:26

Is she allowed to simply deny him access with no reasonable notice just because it's her house? I would've thought she'd have to go through the correct legal process for eviction, much like landlords have to when they want to get rid of a non-paying or troublesome tenant.

Vonhelmet · 2 Sep 2011 at 13:34

gambitt said:
Is she allowed to simply deny him access with no reasonable notice just because it's her house? I would've thought she'd have to go through the correct legal process for eviction, much like landlords have to when they want to get rid of a non-paying or troublesome tenant.

He probably falls into a bit of a black hole to be honest, as he's neither a child nor a paying tenant.

SexyGreyFox · 2 Sep 2011 at 16:30

fullmetaltony said:
Wow, I find it incredible that anyone comes onto GD with these problems.......
Far more useful to spend that time trawling google for answers, they aren't here.

Maybe he trawled Google and coming here to ask advice was the answer.
Why can't the advice be from here?
There are 100s of very experienced people on here who have probably gone through the same thing.

eddie_slovik said:
I have three kids, two boys and a girl. My boys have never been any trouble, unlike my daughter.

I can't wait for the kids on here to completely change this around to it being your fault.

LordSplodge · 2 Sep 2011 at 16:41

dmpoole said:
I can't wait for the kids on here to completely change this around to it being your fault.

Well maybe there are two sides to his story?

/runs