Thinking of calling your ex for no good reason? Dont. I just did and feel like a fool.

Andr3w said:
Handwritten note :p?

I hope she's just lost your number or something, otherwise thats a bit......weird :o
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I think she probably rage-deleted my number when I ended it 2 years ago. There's always a part of you that's curious with exes though. I mean ex-sex is usually pretty good, and largely guilt free for the lass involved as it doesn't add to her total ;)

To the op, rage deletion of number is the only way :)
 
To the op, rage deletion of number is the only way
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You wanna hear a funny? As much as I want to delete her number i know I will need it during the time the divorce is in progress. So a couple of months ago when I was kinda in emotional rage I renamed her on my phone to "Beeyotch".

As luck would have it it was a brand new phone I had got and the next time I saw her she noticed it and asked if she could check it out.

You know whats coming next right.. I handed it over without thinking and she was messing about with it saying "Cool phone, nice screen" etc....and then...silence and a shocked look on her face. Yup she was scrolling through my contacts list and said:

"Y..you...y..you have me down as BEEYOTCH? You..r..really hate me that much?"
 
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Dont beat yourself up over it, i did it myself when me and my now ex wife were seperated and much in the same boat as yourself
So i stopped calling her altogether, as she requested, as she wanted time to think, and then after a lengthy period, called me to ask why i hadnt called her??
Women there all barmy
 
This was your reaction after hanging up, wasn't it?
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Haha...tbh that is spot on
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I even looked at myself in the mirror and called myself ...well I cant repeat that on here or I'll get my ass banned from the forums lol.

Dont beat yourself up over it, i did it myself when me and my now ex wife were seperated and much in the same boat as yourself
So i stopped calling her altogether, as she requested, as she wanted time to think, and then after a lengthy period, called me to ask why i hadnt called her??
Women there all barmy
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Thanks man :) Dude...you said it. I will never figure them out. And while I do sometimes think it will be nice to meet someone else one day part of me wonders if its worth all the hassle. I do miss her (I wont lie) but its decreasing with every month...but also its WAY too much fun being alone and being able to do...whatever the heck you want!
 
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I was with my gf for 9 months, until we broke up for pretty ****ty reasons. We used to speak on facebook and abit of msgs for a bit, and then totally cut off for like 3 months. Now she spoke to mean again, although it was pretty awkward lol (always through fb)

Haven't seen her in 6-ish months. Don't know what I'd do if I did
 
KatanaDV20 said:
Sorry OcUk GD crew but I need to get this off my chest.

No big story here I just...ugh...

Sometimes you *have* to call the ex to talk over legal matters (in my case starting the divorce process) and thats fine. But I tell you this - forget the *casual* calls to her just to "check to see if shes ok".

Anyways tonight after a particularly long time without meeting her I thought I would call for once to "see how she was doing" <---(fail already).

Called her cell and:

Ring ring....ring ring....ring ring....ring ring....ring ring ring ring....ring ring...ring ring...ring ring...ring ring.....(by now I should have got the hint & hung up) ring ring.........ring ring.....ring ring.....ring ring.....ring ring.....ring ring.....ring ring.....ring ring......Hello? Hello?

Me: Hey its me
Her: Ok..?
Me: Didnt hear from ya in a while how you been, u @ home?
Her: No, Im out...
Me: Ok just wanted so say hi
Her: Ok....?
Me: Speak to ya sometime then..
Her: Ok biieeeeeeeeeeeee!

:::click:::::

Dont ya hate it when that happens...because *you* are the one left feeling like an idiot.

I dont blame her @ all...I blame me...Im such a dumbass :(. Now Im thinking "Shes met someone...shes on a date"...well of course thats gonna happen sometime but still..bleh.

Why do we call ex's?? Ok lesson learnt. I was on a roll and broke it :mad:

And yea...if any of you reading this are in the same boat - unless is genuinely necessary: put that phone down. Do your own thing, shes on a different path now!

OcUk..commercial breaks over now - u can go back to ur dinner/TV/Gaming lol.
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yes life is like that. One minute you know everything about each other and are very intimate the next you are the stranger and you wonder did all that happen? - was it real was it a dream?

edges of solipsism imo - Somewhat disturbing. Understanding takes a -50 hit.
 
I was almost on the receiving end of this a few times apparently. A mutual friend persuaded her not to ring me though as she knew the ex would have got the same sort of reply... Or a **** off... Not because I hated her but because she broke my heart.

I did get a random text from her a month or so ago which was odd (broke up 18 months ago), I just replied back cordially and that was it, no follow up text so I guess she got the message...
 
yes life is like that. One minute you know everything about each other and are very intimate the next you are the stranger and you wonder did all that happen? - was it real was it a dream?
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That is very true...its amazing how we can take things for granted and just bumble along fat, dumb & happy. For me it was "We will always be together" ...and then: --BAM--

Game over.

And sometimes I DO feel like the past I had with her was all some kind of dream...

I just replied back cordially and that was it, no follow up text so I guess she got the message...
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Once Im divorced that is what I will do *if* she contacts me.
 
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don't worry about it matey, we all do this stuff all the time, just try to forget about it and soon you will wonder what you even saw in her in the first place.
 
Xink said:
don't worry about it matey, we all do this stuff all the time, just try to forget about it and soon you will wonder what you even saw in her in the first place.
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:)

Thanks dude! Just got really angry with myself for calling lol and had to vent on here. OcUk crew have made me feel MUCH better :D

Yea I cant wait to be done with her and leave it all behind!
 
Ive been feeling rather **** since me and the ex split. Very long story i split with her for no reason and finally after working through my commitment issues decided i wanted to take another stab at it (both the relationship and her :p) but she had 'moved on' bla bla bla, so i cut off FB, stopped calling and just cut off contact then she sent me a message a few weeks later saying she missed me and could we keep it casual for a while, so yea muppet here agreed.
After a week of just 'holding hands' *gag* i got a random text again saying 'I dont want to be with you'.....fantastic!!
Again, i cut off contact and she again cannot make up her mind so this time i closed off any thoughts of 'us' acted as i would to a friend and still been feeling a little **** as she gives off mixed signals! !

Well this all changed last week! Id just met a woman at the cinema (apparently we looked like the inbetweeners and she wanted her pic with us) and i got talking to her and took a leap of faith and asked her out for a drink! Now bear in mind im coming 24 and she's 32 with kids (i dont see this as a problem) and as i found on the date actually stunning! We had a fantastic night, both managed to keep out of the bedroom (for now :p) and were doing it again soon!
Anyways the moral of my ramblings is this......Stop with moping over the ex, it took me going out and meeting a fantastic woman to realise sitting at home staring at a blank text with the exe's number in and thinking what to put or is she out with another guy and get on with your life!
There are fish in the see, you just need to go out and find a new place to cast of.
 
I think she'll have realised now that youre the babe she wants due to the fantastic phone skills you displayed, and so will regret losing you and come crawling back.
 
Right or wrong that you called her at all, you went about it the wrong way. It's done, I doubt she thinks any less of you for it, so just forget about it.

I've an ex with a penchant for texting proclaiming her undying love for me when wasted, usually a couple of times a year. We broke up 6 years ago and as recently as last xmas I got a message off her. This is what you should not do
 
Should have sung "unchained melody" at full pelt down the phone. If she was on a date, that would have pi**ed on her fireworks.

I split up with my ex after 4 years. Left a few parting gifts too. Made me feel a lot better!

Ex's, they are Ex's for a reason. Move on :)
 
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