How will you deal with your children and their access to porn on the internet?

[Trifid]

Did watching porn in your teens damage or somehow emotionally scar you to the point that you feel that it is simply bad for other teenagers to be doing the same thing?

I was talking to a lass, in Amsterdam of all places, who works in stopping human trafficking and talking about the progression of porn, the sex industry and how one goes from dysfunctional relationships to prostitutes and so on down a sketchy path to get their 'fix', even if it is just more extreme pornography. It was a very interesting discussion (and not one that I expected to have in a pub in Amsterdam) but it did open my eyes to how porn can be damaging.

 

[Jay794]

So are there any internet providers that block adult content as pat of their package?

Only in China lol

I remember one of our lectures at College wanted to sign up to a Hotmail account, he accidently mispelled hotmail as hotmale......need I say more?

Talking about censorship, should I mention the Guinea Pig series?

 

[platypus]

And did you have access to it at that age?

Nope.

 

[Hatter The Mad]

I was talking to a lass, in Amsterdam of all places, who works in stopping human trafficking and talking about the progression of porn, the sex industry and how one goes from dysfunctional relationships to prostitutes and so on down a sketchy path to get their 'fix', even if it is just more extreme pornography. It was a very interesting discussion (and not one that I expected to have in a pub in Amsterdam) but it did open my eyes to how porn can be damaging.

I would be highly surprised if she could find any good research or evidence to back up what she was saying. No doubt she was going on her own experience, where the nasty people involved in human trafficking also consumed a lot of pornography. Correlation != causation, though.

Serial rapists also eat a lot of food. Men who get testicular cancer consume pornography. My own porn consumption doesn't make me a serial rapist or cancer candidate, though.

 

[mattyg]

I'd be more worried that my son finds the stash on MY computer. Some really wierd stuff.


In all seriousness I dont think you can stop it. Other than telling them you monitor it and if you find they have been looking for it then you ban them from the PC.

 

[DBT85]

Nope.

Was that due to a lack of availability or a parental lockdown or a lack of interest?

And do you think people should only have access to sexual material at the government approved age of 18?

 

[mattyg]

I would be highly surprised if she could find any good research or evidence to back up what she was saying. No doubt she was going on her own experience, where the nasty people involved in human trafficking also consumed a lot of pornography. Correlation != causation, though.

Serial rapists also eat a lot of food. Men who get testicular cancer consume pornography. My own porn consumption doesn't make me a serial rapist or cancer candidate, though.

To be Honest my OH has been over to Amsterdam during her social work studies and has said they are way way way ahead. Because they are more liberal they have a better understanding of whats going.

 

[Skully]

So are there any internet providers that block adult content as pat of their package?

You can use OpenDNS to block anything and everything you want if you need to.

I use it to block the wife's Facebook while she is at home just to wind her up

 

[theipodkid]

I wonder how many of the people in here who have kids, used to watch it when they was under 18..

 

[Hatter The Mad]

To be Honest my OH has been over to Amsterdam during her social work studies and has said they are way way way ahead. Because they are more liberal they have a better understanding of whats going.

I still haven't heard of any research that indicates what you suggested

 

[mattyg]

I still haven't heard of any research that indicates what you suggested

Woah easy I didn't suggest it. But when swmbo gets back I'll see if she has anything.

 

[Jay794]

I'm off to amsterdam in November to do some......"research" with my other half lol

 

[Hatter The Mad]

Woah easy I didn't suggest it. But when swmbo gets back I'll see if she has anything.

Woah reaction! I'm just saying... I haven't heard of any research that indicates what you suggested (sorry, wrong person!)

 

[Freefaller]

As and when I am in that situation, there will be the communal use of the computer (which will have the best I can do in terms of lock down), but until they are old enough/responsible enough to have a pc in their room they won't get that option.

Kids are resourceful and will undoubtedly work a way round it - but as long as the casual browsing is blocked then that's what would help.

Then again we didn't get internet until I was 15/16 anyway, even then it was dial up and slow. Sure, I looked for it, but at the time only a few fairly low quality/soft pictures were available.

There's so much hardcore, streaming availability out there that I don't particularly think it's sensible for young impressionable children to be subjected to. There's nothing wrong with sex at all, in fact I think we're all agree you can't get too much of it... however, having it so gratuitously available to young persons is not always going to be sensible. Of course this doesn't apply to everyone as everyone has been brought up differently and so on. Of course, if the children are brought up with the correct understanding and are sensible in their approach to it, then of course there's nothing "wrong" with it per se, and I'm about as far from a prude as you can get - I just still believe kids should retain their innocence as long as they can. Everyone is too much in a rush to grow up these days.

 

[DiCe!]

My parents found out id been looking at it when i was younger, mum was not happy, dad just said "yeah she does look nice doesnt she?" I would leave my network alone but id be able to monitor it, no kid is smart enough not to slip up.

 

[Hatter The Mad]

Kids are resourceful and will undoubtedly work a way round it - but as long as the casual browsing is blocked then that's what would help.

Help with what?

 

[mrk]

Also theres no way you will ever be able to block everysingle porn site out there, I'd rather that if a teen looked up porn, they found something safe on a non dodgy site than having to go beyond whatever you try to block only to eng up looking at the most bizarre and malware filled dodgy crap out there on the net,

You could just add keyword blocking, such as **** **** jizz **** and so on

I don't do any of that, I just block any torrent related words so my brother can't browse torrent sites. Works for me

 

[Freefaller]

Help with what?

i.e. searching for info for homework (unlike us who had to go to the library ) and not having inappropriate items come up on the searches.

As well as typing in the URL or searching for specific pornoghraphic items.

That's what I mean by causal browsing, i.e. not having to hunt around, and circumvent parental blocks etc...

 

[fire_munki]

There was a Gilfs Go Wild 17?! I'll be back later.

If I've not seen the previous films will I get the story line?

 

[[Damien]]

I'm with the 'when they can bypass my network's security then fair play to them' crowd up until a certain age. After that blanket blocking helps no one and just makes them more resentful and secretive so I'm all for the 'no pay sites and try and keep the mexican midget donkey porn to a minimum' policy.