Stupid reason to break up?

Zefan · 6 Dec 2011 at 00:59

It doesn't sound like you love her, in which case yeah get rid - it's not worth feeling pants about.

Hmm that reads like I'm saying "omg you clearly don't love her so you should leave her!!", but it's not

Jimz · 6 Dec 2011 at 07:23

She talks to her ex instead of you if she has problems?

Ok thats seriously screwed up, you need to tell her straight she cant have any contact with him, thats so wierd of her to do that even if you know!

[TW]Fox · 6 Dec 2011 at 08:05

Jimz said:
She talks to her ex instead of you if she has problems?

What is it with this forum and people never bothering to read anything?

support_bae said:
Whenever my girlfriend has problems/feels sad/stress she talks to me about it but she always talks to her ex about this

Ok thats seriously screwed up

It would be, had you not just made it up.

you need to tell her straight she cant have any contact with him

Yea, stick to her, be a man! CONTROL HER!

MrMoonX · 6 Dec 2011 at 08:06

hes smashing her pasty and you know it

JBuk · 6 Dec 2011 at 08:50

If you're serious about her then talk to her about your feelings

What exactly bothers you about it? is it insecurity, lack of trust in her or do you feel she's not giving you both the chance to be closer by confiding in only you?

233 · 6 Dec 2011 at 12:46

She's munching on the exs sausage are you satisfying her needs as a woman?

oulton · 6 Dec 2011 at 12:59

She is a headcase, you will only get messed around 6 months is not a huge investment move on.

elmarko · 6 Dec 2011 at 13:15

Grow up.

Unless you have good cause to think he's smashing her back-door in then ignore it.

AberystwythLAD · 6 Dec 2011 at 13:19

Ahleckz said:
What, so she can only talk to you about any problem? You have a very naive sense of women if you think she doesn't speak to various other people about 'close things'.

Boys on this forum are so controlling, I can only assume it is because of their insecurity.

No, its because we have enough of a brain to know 2 + 2 = 4.

A woman can confide in any of her friends, but an ex? Well, thats just taking the ****.

TommyV · 6 Dec 2011 at 13:20

They're ****ing.

AberystwythLAD · 6 Dec 2011 at 13:22

MrMoonX said:
hes smashing her pasty and you know it

ROFL!

elmuzzy66. · 6 Dec 2011 at 13:28

The ex must be gay. How many men in here would listen to an ex rant about their issues with out any smashing of oven baked goods?

[TW]Fox · 6 Dec 2011 at 13:31

Because that's what you do for friends?

Why does half this forum think women are simply objects for sex?

grimm · 6 Dec 2011 at 13:37

If it were me, either the foot goes down and stays down, or she's out.

div0 · 6 Dec 2011 at 14:10

Asking for relationship advice on this forum usually brings out the most incredibly irrational and paranoid views on women. From most responses on here, you'd think that every woman was just waiting for an opportunity to cheat on you and that the only way to prevent this is to 'man-up' and tell her she either caters to your every paranoid demand, or you kick her to the kerb.

It would appear that she's chosen to be in a relationship with the OP and to be friends with her ex. Unless she has done something to make him think that she wants to be more than just friends with her ex, then the OP should have nothing to worry about.

Sure she might get back together with her ex, just like she might leave you for a random guy she meets somewhere down the line. Only you know your girlfriend well enough to know if you trust her not to do either of the above.

If you're looking to end an otherwise good relationship, simply because your girlfriend still confides in her ex, then I think you need to ask yourself if she's actually done anything to deserve this mistrust. Sure you might choose to trust someone who then lets you down, but don't let a paranoid fear, or irrational jealousy be what determines your decision. Based on some of the views, there's a lot of insecure people on these forums, who'd rather run early, than stick with something good and risk getting hurt. Only you know whether you are prepared to trust your girlfriend, whereas some people here wouldn't trust a girl who once had a conversation with another man.

Ahleckz · 6 Dec 2011 at 14:16

div0 said:
Asking for relationship advice on this forum usually brings out the most incredibly irrational and paranoid views on women. From most responses on here, you'd think that every woman was just waiting for an opportunity to cheat on you and that the only way to prevent this is to 'man-up' and tell her she either caters to your every paranoid demand, or you kick her to the kerb.

It would appear that she's chosen to be in a relationship with the OP and to be friends with her ex. Unless she has done something to make him think that she wants to be more than just friends with her ex, then the OP should have nothing to worry about.

Sure she might get back together with her ex, just like she might leave you for a random guy she meets somewhere down the line. Only you know your girlfriend well enough to know if you trust her not to do either of the above.

If you're looking to end an otherwise good relationship, simply because your girlfriend still confides in her ex, then I think you need to ask yourself if she's actually done anything to deserve this mistrust. Sure you might choose to trust someone who then lets you down, but don't let a paranoid fear, or irrational jealousy be what determines your decision. Based on some of the views, there's a lot of insecure people on these forums, who'd rather run early, than stick with something good and risk getting hurt. Only you know whether you are prepared to trust your girlfriend, whereas some people here wouldn't trust a girl who once had a conversation with another man.

People need to read this and take note of it. Great post.

[TW]Fox · 6 Dec 2011 at 14:22

div0 said:
Asking for relationship advice on this forum usually brings out the most incredibly irrational and paranoid views on women. From most responses on here, you'd think that every woman was just waiting for an opportunity to cheat on you and that the only way to prevent this is to 'man-up' and tell her she either caters to your every paranoid demand, or you kick her to the kerb.

It would appear that she's chosen to be in a relationship with the OP and to be friends with her ex. Unless she has done something to make him think that she wants to be more than just friends with her ex, then the OP should have nothing to worry about.

Sure she might get back together with her ex, just like she might leave you for a random guy she meets somewhere down the line. Only you know your girlfriend well enough to know if you trust her not to do either of the above.

If you're looking to end an otherwise good relationship, simply because your girlfriend still confides in her ex, then I think you need to ask yourself if she's actually done anything to deserve this mistrust. Sure you might choose to trust someone who then lets you down, but don't let a paranoid fear, or irrational jealousy be what determines your decision. Based on some of the views, there's a lot of insecure people on these forums, who'd rather run early, than stick with something good and risk getting hurt. Only you know whether you are prepared to trust your girlfriend, whereas some people here wouldn't trust a girl who once had a conversation with another man.

At last, some sense not involving pretending to be some sort of internet stud or posting about pasty.

Great post.

TommyV · 6 Dec 2011 at 15:46

elmuzzy66. said:
The ex must be gay. How many men in here would listen to an ex rant about their issues with out any smashing of oven baked goods?

One who wants to get in her pants. Trust me.

OP, let us know how long it is before they are back together when you two break up. I predict 2 months tops.

elmuzzy66. · 6 Dec 2011 at 16:06

I supposed it all depends on your stance on male/female friendships.

TommyV · 6 Dec 2011 at 16:14

elmuzzy66. said:
I supposed it all depends on your stance on male/female friendships.

If they are ugly, there is no need to be friends with them.