opinion on bf/gf cheating....

_dogma_ said:
+1

You did the right thing OP, the girl you're talking to is just mental. Luckily, not all women share her view!
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Ditto.

I did exactly the same thing many years ago. I was with someone, but I met someone else and realised that my feelings weren't anywhere near as strong as I thought they were and broke it off (I've found since that if I'm with the right person then I wouldn't want to cheat anyway). I broke up with them because I realised it wasn't going anywhere, not in order to go out with the other person. I didn't go out with the second person until months later.

I'm fairly sure my boyfriend at the time would have been way more upset if I had physically cheated on him as well as breaking it off. As many others have said thinking about cheating, seriously considering doing it and following through with it are completely different things.
 
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lol women are just mad sometimes.. like my gf said she felt that i was cheating on her because members of my site posted some hot girls on the forums - not even naked nothing like that lol.. so yeah.. women do get crazy
 
It's purely opinion but without contact with someone else then you can't be cheating. You can emotionally cheat on someone but that's something completely different.

It's all logical thinking as long as you haven't touched someone else.
 
Girls cheat way more than men do, they are just better at hiding it. One of the ways they are good at hiding it is by being outraged at the idea of cheating in my experience.
 
If they* get angry and vociferous when asked about their honesty, they're lying and trying to cover it up by shifting the blame and guilt to you.. classic avoidance tactic.

*people generally.
 
This thread reminds me how a lot of people are disillusioned into thinking that they cannot/will not and never will change their mind about something or someone in the future.

Which brings me on topic to say that you didn't do anything wrong, you can't possibly know you'll stay with a partner(of any level of commitment) always, it's better to end it and not cheat, that is all you can do.

You've heard it from other people, even yourselves most likely, "I'll (insert word) forever".
No, no you can't possibly know that, you can't. Stop saying it.
 
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Cheating is one of the only things in my life that I find completely and utterly reprehensible.

It's the ultimate betrayal of someones trust.
 
ChrisJSY said:
You've heard it from other people, even yourselves most likely, "I'll (insert word) forever".
No, no you can't possibly know that, you can't. Stop saying it.
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hehe, it's a difficult thing to make a reply to when you're asked
"we'll always be together, won't we?"
"er, yeah, sure we will.."
or "well, you never know what the future might hold, I could drop dead tomorrow..."

So you say a white lie to damp your loved one's insecurity (however slight) or do you respond with cold hard logic when they want a little reassurance :p Choose wisely, or choose at your peril haha.
 
jumpy said:
So you say a white lie to damp your loved one's insecurity (however slight) or do you respond with cold hard logic when they want a little reassurance :p Choose wisely, or choose at your peril haha.
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Haha, that is exactly what I mean :)

I chose cold hard logic, but that's how my mind works and that (two actually) ex knew it, I said we both cannot possibly know what the future holds, like anything; they got divorced before I(both), that's an example itself.
I don't bow to frivilous compliments and I don't make them either, it doesn't mean I'm unable to give good ones out, just not overused cheesy and incorrect ones. Same goes for small talk.
Oh and yes, insecurity was both their problems although the first time it wasn't so easy to uhm... reasonably explain without fallout.

Sorry, going off the rails a bit; it's just the OP reminded me of something else.
 
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[FnG]magnolia;21310518 said:
Eww, why do boys have to deal with themselves anyway? Any boyfriend of mine has been told he can't do this. It's disrespectful to me to show that I'm not enough for him or he has to go and watch 'those films'. And that's another thing - no BF of mine has been allowed to watch that stuff, it's disgusting and misogynistic.
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Are you really being serious? I cannot tell if you are trying to get a rise out of people or not, no pun intended there :D You are extremely disillusioned person if you are being serious and are after that fairy tale romance. I hope you do find it but personally I think you'll only ever have relationships that last the duration of the 'honeymoon period' and then you'll be out on the streets again.

Fact of life is guys are here to pro-create. If we dont get sex we find ways to get a release in other ways. You will find that the majority of guys do this, even those that say they dont do!

As for the cheating aspect, it has happened to me a few times, I've never cheated myself. One girlfriend I dumped the other I carried on seeing. It all depends on the circumstances and reasons in my opinion. Everyone has their own views on this and many would probably say I'm crazy for sticking with a girl after she has cheated on me but they aren't in my position or know all of the facts.

Life is never easy and people give up on things all too easily these days. If I think something is worth fighting for I will do just that.

As for window shopping, it cant be avoided however as much as I might look at other women the one that makes me feel the way I do is the one I love and the one I want to be with.
 
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Are you really being serious? I cannot tell if you are trying to get a rise out of people or not, no pun intended there :D You are extremely disillusioned person if you are being serious and are after that fairy tale romance. I hope you do find it but personally I think you'll only ever have relationships that last the duration of the 'honeymoon period' and then you'll be out on the streets again.

Fact of life is guys are here to pro-create. If we dont get sex we find ways to get a release in other ways. You will find that the majority of guys do this, even those that say they dont do!

As for the cheating aspect, it has happened to me a few times, I've never cheated myself. One girlfriend I dumped the other I carried on seeing. It all depends on the circumstances and reasons in my opinion. Everyone has their own views on this and many would probably say I'm crazy for sticking with a girl after she has cheated on me but they aren't in my position or know all of the facts.

Life is never easy and people give up on things all too easily these days. If I think something is worth fighting for I will do just that.

As for window shopping, it cant be avoided however as much as I might look at other women the one that makes me feel the way I do is the one I love and the one I want to be with.
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Whoosh!
 
Thought cheating as in thinking about the actual act of banging someone else, isnt cheating.

Its when you find yourself thinking about how to get to that point, THATS cheating.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21310134 said:
I'm a girl and I consider mental infidelity to be as bad if not worse than physical infidelity. When I'm with a boyfriend, I want to know that his mind is on me 100% of the time and if he's looking at other skanks then I can't be his princess anymore. If I'm not his princess then he can't be my prince and that is far more important than whether he actually puts his winkle some place he shouldn't (like he tried to with me 4 weeks ago, claiming it was a mistake and he 'just slipped').
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But you're not a girl, you're a Lady ... :p

OP, it isn't as bad and you were in the right. Seeing whoever you did caused you to re-evaluate your current relationship and decide that you did not want to continue it ... I'd hazard guess that a significant proportion of relationships split up for that reason! The fact that you decided to end the relationship properly first instead of just going off and acting on it is good no matter what the person you are talking to about it now says.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21310518 said:
Eww, why do boys have to deal with themselves anyway? Any boyfriend of mine has been told he can't do this. It's disrespectful to me to show that I'm not enough for him or he has to go and watch 'those films'. And that's another thing - no BF of mine has been allowed to watch that stuff, it's disgusting and misogynistic.
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Im sorry to dissapoint you I really am but you wont find a man that doesnt watch porn or doesnt think about another girl whilst "fapping". You either need a man that is a really good liar or turn lesbian.

If I have a girlfriend and "think" about having sex with pixie lott am I a cheat?
 
Dan Dan said:
Im sorry to dissapoint you I really am but you wont find a man that doesnt watch porn or doesnt think about another girl whilst "fapping". You either need a man that is a really good liar or turn lesbian.

If I have a girlfriend and "think" about having sex with pixie lott am I a cheat?
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Sarcasm detector failure.
 
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