Women that expect us to pay.

I was using the term 'classy' ironically of course.

Vic has really said what I would expect to be normal for most relationships. Splitting things most of the time but treating each other once in a while.
 
Tute said:
Going 50/50 doesn't work either. I know a married couple who split everything 50/50, having to stand there at a restaurant watching them squabble over who pays what is just plain embarassing. Then there's the whole "well I paid £x extra last time" etc. etc.
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Agreed, for example the other week I tool my girlfriend for a day out in London, she paid for our train/tube/aquarium tickets, I paid for London eye tickets and lunch. Less fuss, everyone's happy!

I think taking it in turns to pay for things is better.
 
I'm always prepared to pay for a first date if I suggested it, but anyone worthwhile will at least offer to split the bill. Whether I accept the offer depends on the circumstances, but this is the 21st century and almost everyone is working a full time job. Paying equal shares won't kill anyone.

I think Americans have a much better attitude towards dating. The first few times are casual and about figuring out how much you like each other. The effort is mutual and no-one expects to be treated to anything.

Steameh said:
Story 2. Lucky me, I went out Friday night and got talking to someone else. We've been texting a couple of times since and I asked if she wants to meet up sometime. She says yes, I ask what would she like to do.... 'Whatever you can afford to pay for'. WTF!
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She's probably just being cheeky. Suggest something free (like a museum) and see how she reacts.
 
Never understand married people arguing about costs, in law, its all intermixed anyway. Married couples arguing about who pays is just plain silly imo.
 
Mason- said:
Women want equality when it suits them.
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Hah, that xkcd comic always amuses me. It is funny how one woman's actions can sometimes be taken to be true of all women.

The 'first date' with my bloke wasn't really a date, it just had many date-like qualities. We paid for our own food. (Mind you, I had 3 pints in the pub after, so he might have paid one more round. Can't remember.)

Since then we've taken it in turns.
 
Me and the fiancée, tend to pick up various things. She might pay for the bus to go out, I might pay for both cinema tickets etc...

I think it probably works out about 50:50, but it's not like it matters too much, eventually the money'll be half ours each anyway...

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Well boys that's what we get for centuries of second class citizen attitude towards women.

By the by I take out my friend for a meal, I pay for them. When we decide to go somewhere together we pay for each other. As for women, it a tricky subject but if they pay for themselves you know they think for themselves and its a good sign. If they expect to be paid for everything(if you take her out, then it implies you are paying though) then it's better to run away from such relationship...unless of course she is very hot.
 
Steameh said:
She says yes, I ask what would she like to do.... 'Whatever you can afford to pay for'. WTF!
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That does seem a bit off, perhaps it was an attempt at humour or there was some context missing here. While a thank you would certainly be appreciated it might have been intended to be implicit and she deemed it unnecessary to be explicitly stated.

I think it is a mistake to attribute this example of probable poor behaviour as typical of all women though, some might expect to have everything paid for but equally there will be a significant number who expect to pay their fair share. There's at least three ladies in this thread who have stated as much.
 
If people think they can get away with something, they will milk it. Some girls may do it for drinks etc, but many guys think if they buy girls a few drinks, they automatically get to sleep with them afterwards. Horses for courses.

It sounds like the OP picked the wrong girls to begin with, very few girls in my experience don't offer to pay at somepoint, many will even demand to contribute.

OP, if you felt that strongly about it, why didn't you turn her down for sex afterwards? Think we know the answer...
 
Tute said:
Going 50/50 doesn't work either. I know a married couple who split everything 50/50, having to stand there at a restaurant watching them squabble over who pays what is just plain embarassing. Then there's the whole "well I paid £x extra last time" etc. etc.
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surely if your going 50/50 you pay half of the bill no matter what it comes to or who had what?
 
Back in my single days I got dumped by some lass so she could start seeing someone else because he earned more than me :p

Lovely girl! :p
 
naefeart said:
OP, if you felt that strongly about it, why didn't you turn her down for sex afterwards? Think we know the answer...
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Well she wasn't offering any cash payment so I figured I'd seek payment via sex. Plus I was drunk and had no way of getting home so I needed to stay in her bed.
 
as a girl Ive always kinda believed the "you invite you pay" kind of rule so if a man asked me out for a meal then he'd pay but I'd offer to buy drinks because I would feel uncomfortable if I didn't at least try to contribute, but if the date went really well and I wanted to see him again I'd say for example ask if he fancied catching a movie at some point then I'd fully expect to pay myself because I'd asked him. I think if the man is always setting the dates and the woman isn't then is she really interested? If the man demanded to pay then I'd say thank you very much, try to contribute in some way but I wouldn't feel compelled to sleep with them because of it.

I think the OP should just forget the woman in question because of the "whatever you can pay for" comment. dates don't have to cost a lot of money to be enjoyable.
 
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