University - Home Sickness and other problems..

I don't particularly like the company of other people, I find it easier to talk over the internet. Hense the reason I'm asking you guys instead of my friends!
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If you get an iPhone 4S you could do all your communication through Siri

'Siri, please tell this person they are an ass of the highest order"

"Siri, please telll this young lady she is mighty fine looking and I would like a piece of it"

Sound like a plan?
 
Do it. Don't be trapped at home. Push yourself. :) Your parents will want you to have the best education, don't feel guilty about it!
 
Number_25 said:
I'm a pretty outgoing person when I get used to a place, sometimes a bit too outgoing and I get wound up a bit.

I don't particularly like the company of other people, I find it easier to talk over the internet. Hense the reason I'm asking you guys instead of my friends!
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Have you told the uni about your Aspergers? Accommodation wise Penbryn has like ~20 to a floor and because it's catered you'll probably be eating together and stuff, that's not to say all 20 odd of you will get along or what ever so probably have your own groups you'll hang out in. Some rooms in there and also PJM are bunk bed rooms now, so you might want to get onto them and ask them if they could put with with a few people who'd be on your course and not in a bunk bed room! I'm sure they'd be more than willing to help you out.
 
Azza said:
Have you told the uni about your Aspergers? Accommodation wise Penbryn has like ~20 to a floor and because it's catered you'll probably be eating together and stuff, that's not to say all 20 odd of you will get along or what ever so probably have your own groups you'll hang out in. Some rooms in there and also PJM are bunk bed rooms now, so you might want to get onto them and ask them if they could put with with a few people who'd be on your course and not in a bunk bed room! I'm sure they'd be more than willing to help you out.
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Didn't even think of that.

Thanks, I'll contact them in the morning.

Seriously, thanks.
 
"I'm also feeling quite guilty as well as I don't particularly want to leave my parents too far behind because of the help and support they've given me in the past 18 and a bit years of my life."

There's a reason they supported you throughout your life, and that's because they want wants best for you, they will be so proud of you gaining that scholarship and making the most of the oppurtunity given to you. You won't want to look back in the future on something that might have been. Surely the extra little bit of a journey is worth studying the better course, is the 4 hours by train or car? How close are the other 3 Unis compared to Aber?

Make sure you are in contact with the student support at the University, as they can be of great benefit and reduce any stresses that may be on yourself in terms of academic stuff.

The first couple of weeks or so will definitely be very hard it terms of home sickness, but you are only 4 hours away, which isn't really that far. At any time pretty much you can just get on a train and before you know it you'll be home and comfortable. There will be moments of down-ness, and also moments where you'll realise this is what you have needed to do and be happy. Try not to let the brief home sickness moments get the better of you and soldier on.
 
I am really close to my family but seriously after a few days you won't really notice. You are going to have to do this at one stage in the future so you might as well do it now. I think there are many people in here that don't like some social situations, I absolutely hate being around a lot of people. I am fine meeting new people but for some reason I have always hated being around a lot of people.
The one thing in October that I am going to miss is Space, in halls you don't generally have this luxury but I think once I get a shared house in the other years it will be fine.
 
May I suggest doing it in stages? Go on holiday with friends or visit family a few hundred miles away. Then when you start Uni move in as soon as you can and go home for the weekend. You need to stay for fresher's week. After that, go home again for the weekend.
 
Number_25 said:
I just don't want my parents to feel like I'm disowning them in any way.
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If your mum is anything like most mums just simply phoning her a couple of times a week will make all the difference... as for your dad not really sure what to suggest there my relationship with my dad is kinda pickup and go and I'm never really sure what he thinks but we can just put it down and pick it up again anytime and it doesn't seem to phase him.
 
Some good things said in here. This community will be available to you in Aber too so any time you need to you can hop on and get some love :D
 
You'll probably die in a puddle of your own vomit within the week,
so if you could drop off all your stuff at my house first then it'll save me the trip to Wales.

Thanks :)
 
Basically this could be any opportunity in the world, and you would still come up with the same "excuses" to stay in your comfort zone.

Think about it this way. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life living in the same town, mixing with the same people, going to the same pubs, getting your food from the same worn out old co-op and deny your parents the satisfaction of seeing their child gain some independence? Do you? If the answer is no then you're going to need to leave at some point. Do it now, while someone else is willing to pay the £9000 fees that you would otherwise be being scorched with.

Uni is great, it'll become your new home and you will wonder what you were ever worrying about. It's "scary" for about 2 hours when you get there, then you man up and realise you're now an independent cookie and not a boy anymore.

Sorry if I've come across kinda harsh, just seems like the sort of thing that's obvious :p


Azza said:
Some rooms in there and also PJM are bunk bed rooms now, so you might want to get onto them and ask them if they could put with with a few people who'd be on your course and not in a bunk bed room! I'm sure they'd be more than willing to help you out.
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Erm, WHAT? BUNKBEDS? You see I read that as you're saying uni students live in the same room in bunkbeds, but that can't be right so I must be reading it wrong. Care to rephrase?
 
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Zefan said:
Erm, WHAT? BUNKBEDS? You see I read that as you're saying uni students live in the same room in bunkbeds, but that can't be right so I must be reading it wrong. Care to rephrase?
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There's no need to rephrase it. :(


 
Asperger's covers a wide range of severities, but I'd mention that I do know several people with Asperger's who successful completed university degrees some distance from home.

I think you'd be passing up a great opportunity because of your fears, and that it would be of great benefit to you to learn to live away from home and become more independent. However, only you can really know. Seek advice from suitable charities and contact the university's disability support.
 
Are you planning to live at home forever then?

You're moving to Uni to get an education, you're hardly moving to the other side of the world forever.
 
Azza this is perhaps the worst moment to post that video. Seriously that room is in Wales where land is cheap, it's not in flipping London. It's criminal to treat students like that, one desk, one wardrobe and for two people? What the..
 
Azza said:
There's no need to rephrase it. :(


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I'm just really confused. How does that actually work? Surely it means being either really good mates with your "roomy" or annoying the hell out of each other ALLLLLLLLLLL the time.

I shared accomodation for over a year when I was in the military and that was ok, but it's the military ffs... not Uni!
 
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I shared in my first year, didn't see a problem myself.

It was the scummy chav who never changed the stinking lard he cooked his sausages in, that got up people's noses (literally)
 
Nut up and get on with it.

Hate to think what will happen when you're challenged with a real problem if you're getting tripped up by this kind of trivial crap.
 
RomanNose said:
Azza this is perhaps the worst moment to post that video. Seriously that room is in Wales where land is cheap, it's not in flipping London. It's criminal to treat students like that, one desk, one wardrobe and for two people? What the..
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That's why I've told him to contact the uni to avoid a possible situation like that.


Zefan said:
I'm just really confused. How does that actually work? Surely it means being either really good mates with your "roomy" or annoying the hell out of each other ALLLLLLLLLLL the time.

I shared accomodation for over a year when I was in the military and that was ok, but it's the military ffs... not Uni!
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I've got no idea at all, and there really is just one desk, one wardrobe etc. Housing situation in Aber is shocking, not just the private sector but uni accommodation is beyond a mess.

In my first year I suppose I got lucky and ended up in a building that the uni was having to rent from a company who were renovating it, it was pretty much half done and had to share a room but at least it was massive and there was two of everything. Slowly people moved away and what not so everyone ended up with their own room in the end but some people were actually put in mobile caravans just outside of the town because the uni didn't have enough space for new undergraduates. They have a policy of guaranteeing all 1st and even 3rd years accommodation, the latter because there is so little private accommodation and every year it's become worse because of more people going there.

Keep telling my parents to buy houses there to rent to students because you would make a fortune and I really mean it. Houses in Aber are quite big so most have plenty of rooms, 6 students ~£90 a week each for the Uni term you're looking at just over £3k off each student, could easily get £20k a year out of students from one house alone and that's with them paying their own utility bills!



Any way back on topic, other than that Aberystwyth is an awesome place, not only to live but to also study at! :)
 
I'm sure you'll be fine after a few days, the worst thing you can do is turn down the offer and then a year or two later think what if I went there.

I would go for it, when you get there nobody knows each other so you won't be alone.

Also why should you feel guilty? You should thank your parents for the opportunity and make them proud by going and showing what you can do :)
 
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