Friends with Aspergers....

[FnG]magnolia · 7 Apr 2012 at 10:45

ElvisFan said:
Is assburgers the new "naughty"?

No but it might be the new go-to for those who have have ineffective social skills.

This does not mean that the condition or spectrum is not clinically accepted because it is. It means that if you've self-diagnosed and are not clinically competent then it is possible you're not the best person to make that diagnosis.

Jay794 · 7 Apr 2012 at 10:54

shadesofgrey said:
Then 'beaten' (with or without an object) is a poor choice of word.

At the end of the day if your child does not respect you then you have done a poor job. I don't mean you personally. But this really does not have to come with regular phyisical punisment.

Respect is one thing. Being scared of being hurt is another.

Agreed.

However, back when I was a youth, it was more of a case of "wait till your dad gets home" then i'd **** myself until he arrived home and said "I'm disappointed in you"

Doesn't seem to work these days though

mehuk · 7 Apr 2012 at 10:58

I thought Autism was quite a serious thing to have? Its something ive never looked into just hear about etc, so excuse my ignorance.... its just weird to see it linked to other conditions such as OCD.

Surely these conditions are hard to fake though? Based on the suggestion that some people use it as an excuse?

Kenai · 7 Apr 2012 at 11:03

Jay794 said:
he's just weird, he's not even attempting to get better

Maybe if you stand in front of him and shout...

GET BETTER YOU LAZY OLD ****

...he might put a bit more effort in?

How inconsiderate of him to not even bother to get better, it's only a mental illness after all.

Jay794 · 7 Apr 2012 at 11:09

Kenai said:
Maybe if you stand in front of him and shout...

GET BETTER YOU LAZY OLD ****

...he might put a bit more effort in?

How inconsiderate of him to not even bother to get better, it's only a mental illness after all.

Don't make me out to be such a dick.

You'd think he'd want to get better, so he could leave a "normal" life, instead of being constantly late for everything, sitting on his arse all day watching football, instead of doing housework, my mother in law works all day, why is it wrong for her to expect to be picked up on time, come home to a clean house and not be expected to cook and clean when she gets home.

The whole family gets annoyed with how lazy he is. But like I said, it's just weird to me because I don't understand the illness

Kenai · 7 Apr 2012 at 11:14

Jay794 said:
Don't make me out to be such a dick.

Well it's hard not to when you're posting things like that.

Jay794 · 7 Apr 2012 at 11:16

Kenai said:
Well it's hard not to when you're posting things like that.

(I'm going to ignore this before we start trolling each other)

I find some illnesses like Aspergers and OCD so strange, because I don't have it, nore have anyone so close to me that I have to deal with it all the time, but it just seems so weird, not being able to socialise, I mean, I say innappropriate things for comic effect all the time, but after watching some documentaries/programs about these illness, it's just bizarre.

I know I keep coming back to it but a buy with aspergers went on a first date with a lass, didn't order any food, the proceeded help himself to hers while she was still eating, weird!

It's like the illness makes them incapable of knowing what boundries and social etiquette are

Broken Hope · 7 Apr 2012 at 11:37

Jay794 said:
It's like the illness makes them incapable of knowing what boundries and social etiquette are

That's exactly what Autism can do.

arknor · 7 Apr 2012 at 11:56

mehuk said:
Surely these conditions are hard to fake though? Based on the suggestion that some people use it as an excuse?

there was a Consultant Clinical Psychologist when i got diagnosed with autism. (pretty similar to asperges in my case)

the problem is tons of people atleast on the internet say they have asperges when they have never had anyone diagnose them.

Jay794 · 7 Apr 2012 at 12:59

I would assume it's easier to fake a disability than it is to fake a mental illness

My friend, (who is actually disabled) said he failed a disability test, I don't know how you can fail a disability test, surely when they walk for a certain distance, you just fall over and say you're in pain?

I know the way I write might come off as sarcy, but I'm trying to be serious about it

[FnG]magnolia · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:05

Jay794 said:
I would assume it's easier to fake a disability than it is to fake a mental illness

My friend, (who is actually disabled) said he failed a disability test, I don't know how you can fail a disability test, surely when they walk for a certain distance, you just fall over and say you're in pain?

I know the way I write might come off as sarcy, but I'm trying to be serious about it

There's a very good reason that whilst your opinion is valid to you because you hold it, does not make it clinically true.

Kenai · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:09

Jay794 said:
I know the way I write might come off as sarcy, but I'm trying to be serious about it

You're not coming across sarcastic, just exceedingly dim IMO.

OpenToSuggestions · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:11

Reading this:
http://www.webmd.boots.com/children/asperger-syndrome

It makes me think I have it. I was quite the loner when I was in school and even now have social problems. Every single symptom I have to the extreme.

[FnG]magnolia · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:15

Are you joking?

OpenToSuggestions · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:16

[FnG]magnolia;21633850 said:
Are you joking?

You talking to me? (Not sure if you are

).
No I am not joking.

[FnG]magnolia · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:22

Have you read the thread? You should go and see someone if you genuinely believe this is something you may have.

Sorry, yes I was talking to you

OpenToSuggestions · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:39

[FnG]magnolia;21633884 said:
Have you read the thread? You should go and see someone if you genuinely believe this is something you may have.

Sorry, yes I was talking to you

At the time of writing my last post I hadn't.

Now I have and the below quote seems to fit me perfectly too (whilst I have never been diagnosed with anything):

lowrider007 said:
I'm exactly the same, even though I know I have Aspergers it's still hard to recognise what I'm doing wrong, to me I'm being normal, I notice people treat me differently or take offence because I seem unsympathetic or unsociable but in my mind I really don't understand how I'm causing offence.

The amount of times I have offended people on these forums without intending to is quite high.

[FnG]magnolia · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:43

GP then referral is common. I don't think lowrider007 has gone this route but it is common. I'm sure he'll correct me otherwise.

KillBoY_UK · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:45

Overslop said:
This?

Lol no

This http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0953318/

Jay794 · 7 Apr 2012 at 13:59

[FnG]magnolia;21633804 said:
There's a very good reason that whilst your opinion is valid to you because you hold it, does not make it clinically true.

My opinion is never true lol, it's just an observation on a subject, usually coupled with attempted humour.

Kenai said:
You're not coming across sarcastic, just exceedingly dim IMO.

And thats the problem, how can you expect people to understand what someone is going through, living with something like Aspergers, when we ourselves (does that make sense) don't have to go through with it.

I have no problem interacting with anyone in a social situation, I may say something inappropriate or offensive but thats just me, I would never claim to have Aspergers