Do your little brother a favour and start training him in proper social etiquette (or get professional help if your family can afford it). The sooner you start dealing with his problems, the better off he will be.
Friends with Aspergers....
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That could be almost any related condition including autism, etc. people with Aspergers quite often will be extremely gifted at something specific as well as having social difficulties, etc. one of the guys I know can tell you what day of the week i.e. mon-sun any numerical date is instanatly even 100s of years ago or into the future 100% accurate every time and another I know has incredibly advanced mathematical skills.
EDIT: My cousin was like that socially at a young age - turned out he was dyslexic and was socially withdrawn because people would make fun of it without knowing he was dyslexic and he wasn't aware he was either - once that problem was tackled he became a much more outgoing person.
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Because I want to
Because back in my school days, i was a floater before settling in the reject group. Not even the reject group, more the reject-reject group. It went like this Cool people -> Rejects trying to be cool -> Us
Thanks to this opposite end of the cool spectrum upbringing, i don't reject people on the grounds of their faults. If you take somebody with the Palsy, you have a sound mind inside a Fate dealt failing body. What i'm talking about here is a sound body, but a Fate dealt malfunctioning mind. I am not going to dump either because its hard, because if i did, i would be in the Cool group of people, and thusly, a total utter ****. Sorry, I am not like that. The cool people can go **** themselves
A bit of backstory, my misses has a good friend who she met through university, who we both generally get on well with. The friend lives with her boyfriend (henceforth known as Mr T) and suckers that men are, we sometimes get lumped together while the girls go off and Zumba... or something.
Mr T is nice enough, into movies, games, normal stuff, except for the fact that he very obviously appears to have Aspergers. Its very difficult having a 'normal' relationship with him because he doesn't understand social normality. Many of his behaviours, if it were anybody else, would be considered 'rude' but are justified by 'thats just Mr T'. For example, if he is the slightest bit bored/disinterested, he pops in his headphones and starts listening to some podcast/audiobook or other, regardless of the social context he is in; at their house, at ours, at his girls parents.
Thing is, I want to 'like' him but its so damn hard. He doesn't have a great many friends, which he explains away because he works so hard (true enough) but i reckon it has more to do with his lack of social ability. Does anybody on here have experience maintaining a friendship with somebody with Aspergers? Is it rude to talk to them about it, or even ask the blunt question 'do you have Aspergers' given the diagnosis is a more of a hunch than confirmed.
Don't really know what i expect of this thread, just yeah, how to deal with people with aspergers
Are you a medical professional? Do you hold any qualification which even allows you to make such a diagnosis? You find him awkward, perhaps he does not like you and prefers to listen to his music. I think this is another case of "quick to the internets".
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BunnyKillBot,
well done mate. I see a few people have expressed some strong opinions here, but from my take on it, this guy- whatever issues he may or may not have- is very lucky to have someone like you as a friend.
All the best!
well done mate. I see a few people have expressed some strong opinions here, but from my take on it, this guy- whatever issues he may or may not have- is very lucky to have someone like you as a friend.
All the best!
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Maybe but Have been diagnosed since since I was 12 (27 now) I can say I'm not one of fashion sheeps.
Anyways peeps should watch the film BenX its a dam good movie at showing person with aspergers.
You know what's even worse than these "socially inept *****"? People like you who think it's good to slate people who have genuine problems. Just because somebody struggles socially does not make them a **** or a bad person for the matter. Grow up.
your talking about savants and even amongst people with an ASD its still rare, its just more common in peole with ASD than it is with regular people
Has to be the most ignorant and stupid comment i've heard in a while.
Who the heck would want a condition which isolates you from other people? And usually its not the one with AS that notices they have it first, its their behaviours which others see as abnormal/weird etc. To the person with AS they will think they have done nothing wrong at all...
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Not really sure how rare it is or not - I know a few people IRL that suffer from Aspergers and they all excel at something specific.
its a pitty theres not a way to make a normal perosns brain behave like someone with an ASD so they can see what its like for themselfs.
and for those who think its some condition made up
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-10929032
My son has Aspergers, he is 18 now, most of the time you'd never know, but when he is in 'the zone' I could kill him 
His life has been one thing after another ADHD, Dysbraxia etc, until they settled on Asbergers at 15.
Asbergers is part of the Autism spectrum, think of rain man etc, it isn't uncommon at all to find sufferers have exceptional skills in some fields (Maths for him), getting them to channel it is another thing entirely
His life has been one thing after another ADHD, Dysbraxia etc, until they settled on Asbergers at 15.
Asbergers is part of the Autism spectrum, think of rain man etc, it isn't uncommon at all to find sufferers have exceptional skills in some fields (Maths for him), getting them to channel it is another thing entirely
its got nothing to do with wanting a condition, stupid, but more likely wanting a special label to go with symptoms they already exhibit. Why would people want a special label - suddenly its not their fault, they have an excuse for being socially inept etc...Quite frankly you're being ignorant if you're trying to pretend that there isn't a relative popularity for self diagnosis of this condition - there are any number of introverted geeks who will identify with the more general symptoms and conclude that they suffer from it too.
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Quite frankly you're being ignorant if you're trying to pretend that there isn't a relative popularity for self diagnosis of this condition - there are any number of introverted geeks who will identify with the more general symptoms and conclude that they suffer from it too.
So what excuse do you make for your social ineptitude?
conclude that they suffer from it too.
Well yes because it's not their fault, they have a condition, would you rather it wasn't identified and people with genuine conditions are socially rejected for something beyond their control when they think their behaviour is normal? Someone diagnosed with aspergers for example is more likely to get help to overcome their problems (e.g. Valkia helping his friend)
I have a cousin with aspergers and it's certainly not a 'made up condition', like many others he is beyond brilliant at maths too and should be working at NASA in the future.