How often do you txt a girl you have only just meet?

Megahurtz400 said:
Got this at the moment:

Bird, known her for a while but not properly, seen her out and at a few events where we're the only people we know (Overlapping friend circles).

She gave me her number, text her saying sorry for being do drunk the night before, had a small convo, about 5 texts each, I sent the last text.

She text me randomly last night just say "How you doing?" (Which was unexpected, was going to leave it until tomorrow and ask if she's out this weekend), had a few texts again but again, sent the last text and got no reply.

Lolz women!

Not too bothered either way, would be great to get to know her properly, but i'm not going to get too bothered! :)
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Always end the conversation leaving her wanting more.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21931321 said:
Because texting and facebook have become the norm for forming and developing relationships these days.

I know, it's terrible isn't it?
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Sad really when you don't have the guts to ring or go up to them and ask for a date. Instead you hide behind a facade of namby-pamby of texts hoping for the best. What a character building experience. I bet some even have a complete relationship by text.
 
I don't think there are any rules dude, i got 2 numbers for 2 girls the other Saturday when out and there names, one started texting me in the morning and seems alright, the other who i even got a kiss off never responded to a single text and when i found her on Facebook as she came straight up, i added her and she blocked me lol. Crazy.
 
Somewhere, on a parallel forum, there will be a subforum full of threads started by girls with topics such as "Met a guy in a club. He told me that I'm the most beautiful thing he has ever seen. Does he only want one thing?", "Saw this guy on the train the other day. Why hasn't he called me?" and "I told him I think he is the one - now he won't return my calls. Why?"
 
Dj_Jestar said:
Somewhere, on a parallel forum, there will be a subforum full of threads started by girls with topics such as "Met a guy in a club. He told me that I'm the most beautiful thing he has ever seen. Does he only want one thing?", "Saw this guy on the train the other day. Why hasn't he called me?" and "I told him I think he is the one - now he won't return my calls. Why?"
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Mumsnet. We, as forums, are not as dissimilar as you may think which is both frightening and reassuring, I think.
 
simulatorman said:
Sad really when you don't have the guts to ring or go up to them and ask for a date. Instead you hide behind a facade of namby-pamby of texts hoping for the best. What a character building experience. I bet some even have a complete relationship by text.
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Took the words right out of my mouth. What's with people today? We're sold mobiles to make us believe that our lives are so much better with them.. Stay in touch and better connected etc etc .. The truth however is anything but.

Gone are the days where you'd get a number then make that call the next day.. It used to fill you with nerves but excitement at the same time. You'd always leave it late in the day too.. You'd always know if you had something going or not.
 
Surfer said:
life is not like the movies OP..... do not text her. Just get out there and try to meet as many women as possible. Its a numbers game...


Heres a question for the ladies...

Do you realize that the guy who just asked you out who you think is gorgeous/the One blah blah....has probably asked around 6-10 women before YOU but was slapped in the face/rejected etc etc.

Also, did you know that your BF (if he knows what hes doing) always has a backup should things go pear-shaped with you. To prove it, just ask him if he has any female friends...if he says yes then you know....welcome to reality.


In any case OP.... please please do not focus all your efforts on this woman. There are many women out there you do not need to be making tons of effort focusing on one.

Once you get drawn into the emotional rollcoaster from hell that is a women's nutjob mind you never escape....dont get drawn into the drama. I've met plenty of crazy women i should know....just trying to help!
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lolwut?!

If you're early in the dating, then yes I accept having a backup option is not unheard of... but if you're married or in a proper long term relationship are you really honestly saying you have a backup!? :/

If they guy is keen on her, let him focus his attention on her - what's the harm in that?
 
Admiral Huddy said:
Took the words right out of my mouth. What's with people today? We're sold mobiles to make us believe that our lives are so much better with them.. Stay in touch and better connected etc etc .. The truth however is anything but.

Gone are the days where you'd get a number then make that call the next day.. It used to fill you with nerves but excitement at the same time. You'd always leave it late in the day too.. You'd always know if you had something going or not.
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I agree, though I can't deny I like to send texts... but if I need a definite answer quickly or some contact, or if I'm away from home, I'll ring (providing she's not away or busy herself).

Ringing sort of puts the person on the spot, but at that same time initiates an immediate contact and immediate communication stream, and leads to little if no interpretation issues at all. Also it can be more fun. :)
 
Ahleckz said:
Or call her and ask if she wants to go for some drinks.

I appreciate one mustn't try to hard, but you guys are kidding yourselves when you suggest not texting. Confidence is attractive. If you want the girl, call her, have some banter and give her a bar and time to meet. She won't make the first move.
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Problem is I move to the other side of the world soon, so I almost don't want anything to happen because it will just end up going nowhere anywhere you know?

Too much of a nice guy :p

If I see her out this weekend ill ask if she wants to go to the zoo or snowboarding in MK, cause I well wanna go to the zoo :p
 
Freefaller said:
I agree, though I can't deny I like to send texts... but if I need a definite answer quickly or some contact, or if I'm away from home, I'll ring (providing she's not away or busy herself).

Ringing sort of puts the person on the spot, but at that same time initiates an immediate contact and immediate communication stream, and leads to little if no interpretation issues at all. Also it can be more fun. :)
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I kind of agree with this, I like texting because it's more relaxed, can actually work out what's going on.

With a phone call, you put the person on the spot, seems almost too desperate to me, i prefer the "Hey, fancy a drink sometime?" relaxed text, but maybe that's just me because i'm a VERY relaxed person overall :)

Learnt not to get too bothered/infactuated with one person over the past few years, only stresses you out, and theres LOADS of birds out there :)
 
Megahurtz400 said:
Problem is I move to the other side of the world soon, so I almost don't want anything to happen because it will just end up going nowhere anywhere you know?

Too much of a nice guy :p

If I see her out this weekend ill ask if she wants to go to the zoo or snowboarding in MK, cause I well wanna go to the zoo :p
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Aren't you moving next year? Just have fun, there's no point having a **** couple of months because you're moving. Rather have the time together and enjoy yourselves. It's better to be in a good relationship and have to let it end amicably because of plans than to not be in a relationship at all and wonder "what if".

Your views are foolish, and your problem does not exist. Hell she could be the love of your life and come with you!
 
Ahleckz said:
Aren't you moving next year? Just have fun, there's no point having a **** couple of months because you're moving. Rather have the time together and enjoy yourselves. It's better to be in a good relationship and have to let it end amicably because of plans than to not be in a relationship at all and wonder "what if".

Your views are foolish, and your problem does not exist. Hell she could be the love of your life and come with you!
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Fast tracked to this August/September now due to change of plans :D

True that, but also the fact i've only just split up with my Ex for this reason :)

I'm not saying I have a problem at all, and moving to Whistler with a girlfriend, your kidding right? :p

I'm just chilled eitherway and whatever happens really, which is my problem most of the time, pretty much NOTHING can make me worry lol :)
 
Give it a few days and if she does not reply just pick up the phone, call her and ask her on a date, if this does not work then the chase is over and no need to keep chasing your tail.

When i was single earlier in the year we went to see the imbetweeners movie and a woman asked for a photo with my and my friends as we 'looked like the cast'
Anyways i approached her later in the cinema, had a brief chat and she wrote down her name and told me to add her (strange world, a number would have sufficed.)
Cut a long story short, a few messages here an there, got her number and a few texts conversations were had and eventually after a few days of not hearing i called her and asked her out.
We met up (turned out she was 6 years my elder) and discussed why she agreed to the date over the phone call and not when id asked in text and she mentioned its all just confidence and shows the blokes up for making the effort if he actually calls.

hmmmm oh dear...im starting to think been single would be fun again! How i miss the chase!
 
opethdisciple said:
Met a very pretty girl on Friday who looks wise I would have thought was way out of my league.

Regardless, I got a kiss and a number out of it.

Only been two days and dont want to seem too keen etc so havent mustered the courage to call or anything like that, but have been in conversation with her via txt, but can you over do the txting?

Should I be txting her every day?

I dont want to seem uninterested or a pest....
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Depends on how much you wanna be inside her tbh.
 
opethdisciple said:
Met a very pretty girl on Friday who looks wise I would have thought was way out of my league.

Regardless, I got a kiss and a number out of it.

Only been two days and dont want to seem too keen etc so havent mustered the courage to call or anything like that, but have been in conversation with her via txt, but can you over do the txting?

Should I be txting her every day?

I dont want to seem uninterested or a pest....
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Depends if you want things to move fast or slow, if you want to get to know her then be a man and make the effort, or if your not too bothered then just text her as you get them.

:)
 
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