in the woods with granny

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My little boy 4 nearly 5, on Wednesdays or Thursdays is looked after the wifes mum ( granny ). She has a dog, and they go walking down what is known as the Dukes Drive in Chester. Its very very nice in the summer and winter too, there is a path that runs through the centre of woods either side for about maybe a mile. lots of people walk and jog there.
Granny and Hayden and the dog to tend to go off the path and into the wood looking for squirels and woodpeckers etc etc, they have been going there for a good while now and Hayden has named certain parts of the wood ( Happy wood, magic wood etc etc lol )
Last night I explained top the wife I didnt want them going into the woods anymore because of some strange people she has seen when she has been in there on her own with the dog.
Ive been walking down the Dukes Drive myself with my dog for the last week in the mornings and im always on the lookout, its the type of place where anyone could be hiding in a bush or behind a tree.
My own opinion is that its not safe for a 65year old woman and a 4-5 year old boy. But at the same time they love going there.
I know none of you are going to change my mind, but do you think im going the right thing asking Granny not to take him into the woods, anbd what re your views on this ?
 
Depends what you mean by strange people, if there are actually people hiding in the bushes then you should be worried, but if you mean teenagers on skateboards listening to Justin Bieber then you shouldn't worry.
 
You are well within your rights as a parent to ask your mother in law not to take your child for a walk in the woods. However I think you are being a bit on the paranoid side, it isn't like Chester is renowned for being a haven for predatory paedophiles...
 
I have to agree your actions are perhaps a little over the top. If as parents we start to be over zelous in our protection of our children doesnt that affect the way they grow up a little. I know the world is different since I was a kid but I would love nothing more than spending time in the woods and that shouldnt be any different for your children now. What are the chances of something happening? You said it was a popular part of the area and frequented by a lot of people so if anything was to happen whouldnt there be people around that could help?

I do think its an issue with people in general at the momment people seems to be very risk adverse when it comes to protecting their kids which i agree with to some extent but I firmly believe that children also learn better and faster if allowed to make their own way in life and learn from mistakes.
 
From what she has told me, a guy looking very sus with his face covered standing by a tree
Another time she has seen a guy digging around hiding cans of beer
And on Saturday ( which prompted me to stop her taking him in there ) there are 2 guys camping

I just don't want to be the one who thought about it and done nothing about it, if you know what I mean, I am being paranoid I know, but I'm just thing of both of them
 
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At first I thought you were being silly, but then you mentioned the two sickening guys camping, I totally agree with you now.
 
Two guys camping? A man standing with a tree in the way of his face? OMG why have you not phoned the police yet! :eek:















:D On a serious note even though I understand the reasoning I think if you were to pretend this thread was created by another person and read it you'd realise how silly it all sounds.
 
You're being too over-protective.

I'd be more concerned about the fact there are 1 tonne killing machines driving at 40MPH, 3ft away from him every day ;) (as someone pointed out when somebody else wanted to wrap their kids in cotton wool - we take no notice of cars as we walk our kids along the pavement, yet they are one of the most likely ways we are going to get killed / hurt )

In all probability the guys in the woods are just regular guys and if you are that concerned get them both to either carry mobiles with panic buttons, or arrange a time they should leave / arrive etc.
 
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Telling your mother in law you don't trust her to look after your son that will detriment his life far more than any perceived (and very tiny) risk of going for walks and looking at wildlife in these woods.

Post #2 sums it up best...
 
I don't have children so I can imagine mine is a pretty relaxed perspective but I too think you are being way over-protective. I'd understand if the child was going into the woods alone but he has his gran with him who I'm sure is worthy of your trust. You risk damaging your relationship with your mother in law and your son if you go through with this.

Soon your child will be old enough to go out into the woods on his own/with friends (I think I started going on my own adventures at about 7 years old), you need to get used to the idea of him being outside of your protection.
 
Check out the police crime mapping stats for Chester.

It's probably pretty safe there (browsing anything at all sporty on this work PC makes the browser crash).

Me and the missus go walking a lot around Chester and I've not seen anything particularly dodgy during daylight hours.

If you're worried about pedos I think statistically it's more likely to be a creepy uncle than a random weirdo in a bush.

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Chester in the UK or Chester in WV?

Also, did anyone else think the thread was going to be about getting a sloppy gumjob from the title?
 
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