Problems at work...what do I do now?
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I have a feeling you may have a red target on your back now after sending that email, see what the outcome of the meeting is.
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You work 'passed'? You sound like a little child throwing a tantrum mate, sorry.
Yes I agree with the above dude, might as well start looking the letter was badly written as if your having a conversation. Any information in it is badly structured so it's confusing and unclear what your point it.
Here's a life lesson. Work 9-5, live 5-9: keep it separate.
Also don't contract if this is your attitude to work
Here's a life lesson. Work 9-5, live 5-9: keep it separate.
Also don't contract if this is your attitude to work
Did you seriously send that email? Really?
I know how you feel, as I had to work around/with/beneath a very, very annoying person for over 5 years, so much so that I'd say your situation sounds massively favourable if all you have said describes the 'issues' you have. You've probably thrown any perception of professionalism HR have of you out the window with that email, I don't really know what you should expect when you return to work. Sometimes it's just better to grin and bear it, and whilst doing so, better yourself and try to move on.
Best of luck and all that though.
I know how you feel, as I had to work around/with/beneath a very, very annoying person for over 5 years, so much so that I'd say your situation sounds massively favourable if all you have said describes the 'issues' you have. You've probably thrown any perception of professionalism HR have of you out the window with that email, I don't really know what you should expect when you return to work. Sometimes it's just better to grin and bear it, and whilst doing so, better yourself and try to move on.
Best of luck and all that though.
oh dear lol!! if i had any say at that company id want to fire you for all that you've said and done.
yes, you have some gripes that need addressing. yet you have done everything the wrong way by being petty, over emotional and unwilling to discuss your problems directly to the other person involved. he tried to get you to talk with him and sort it out and you asked him to leave!!!!
get searching for another job, you have ruined that one.
yes, you have some gripes that need addressing. yet you have done everything the wrong way by being petty, over emotional and unwilling to discuss your problems directly to the other person involved. he tried to get you to talk with him and sort it out and you asked him to leave!!!!
get searching for another job, you have ruined that one.
Is this your first job and how old are you? Sorry to say, I wouldn't have sent that email. It just isn't constructive (especially when you digress regarding pay and then go back to the issue at hand) nor is it conducive to your position.
From his / their perspective having HR in the meeting was the best plan.
From his / their perspective having HR in the meeting was the best plan.
Honestly, it sounds like you're acting like a little ***** and don't have the skills to be in a professional environment to be able to get along with colleagues you don't like.
Instead you bash your toys around in the pram and make yourself look like a complete unprofessional fool.
You need to learn to adapt in a work environment so you don't get into this type of situations otherwise you will end up miserable and looking for a job.
Rather blunt but had to be said.
When an employer looks for a person to hire, they're not looking for someone to just do the job, they're looking for someone whos brings something more to the table and does not create unnecessary tensions in the office!
If I was in that place, I would be looking for ways to ditch you so people could relax.
Instead you bash your toys around in the pram and make yourself look like a complete unprofessional fool.
You need to learn to adapt in a work environment so you don't get into this type of situations otherwise you will end up miserable and looking for a job.
Rather blunt but had to be said.
When an employer looks for a person to hire, they're not looking for someone to just do the job, they're looking for someone whos brings something more to the table and does not create unnecessary tensions in the office!
If I was in that place, I would be looking for ways to ditch you so people could relax.
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As soon as I read "... I sent the following email to HR", I said "oh dear" out loud.
Seems I was correct to have done so.
Seems I was correct to have done so.
Well IME you can gain insight into what your superiors are doing by actually trying to get along with them and talking to them/looking over their shoulder/asking them once in a while. It's not difficult. It does help to know by being told, but not all managers are created equal, so helping them to help you by asking them is common sense.
I don't understand this at all, you talk about maintaining professionalism and yet you've kicked up a big stink about not liking your boss on a personal basis?
Are you sure you're not just suffering from depression or something like that and this Jim guy is on the receiving end of your discontent? he doesn't seem to have done anything wrong it's not like he's bullying or sexually harrasing you?
Are you sure you're not just suffering from depression or something like that and this Jim guy is on the receiving end of your discontent? he doesn't seem to have done anything wrong it's not like he's bullying or sexually harrasing you?
learn from your mistakes
When asked to attend meeting you should have asked "what exactly is this about?"
IF they were evasive or would not tell you exactly what it is about then decline the inivitation , it is your right.
A manager in the past tried that one on me ,
boss: "would you like to come to the meeting room for a few minutes"
me: sure no problem , what is this about exactly
boss: I cannot tell you that
me: no problem , when you cen tell me what it is about then I can attend , turned round went back to work.
HR .. human remains , dont trust them at all , are you a member of a union ?
if so get some advice from them
When asked to attend meeting you should have asked "what exactly is this about?"
IF they were evasive or would not tell you exactly what it is about then decline the inivitation , it is your right.
A manager in the past tried that one on me ,
boss: "would you like to come to the meeting room for a few minutes"
me: sure no problem , what is this about exactly
boss: I cannot tell you that
me: no problem , when you cen tell me what it is about then I can attend , turned round went back to work.
HR .. human remains , dont trust them at all , are you a member of a union ?
if so get some advice from them
Jim sounds useless, you'd be better of somewhere else with a better boss, or colleagues who can teach you new things. I've always tried to help out, some people appreciate the time, some people turn into insecure nutcases.
You might prefer working in a team rather than being stuck with one guy all the time, especially if the traffic is all one way.
'does your face fit' is half the job unfortunately.
You might prefer working in a team rather than being stuck with one guy all the time, especially if the traffic is all one way.
'does your face fit' is half the job unfortunately.
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You shouldn't have gone home, that makes it look like you are the one having issues, so you are now the target.
HR don't necessarily have your best interests at heart, this is what unions are for.
To echo what others have said, you can't expect to tell your boss to change his attitude because you don't like it. If you want that to change, you need to work hard and become a boss yourself, or get another job. In an ideal world, you could be moved around your current workplace, but it doesn't sound like that is going to be possible?
HR don't necessarily have your best interests at heart, this is what unions are for.
To echo what others have said, you can't expect to tell your boss to change his attitude because you don't like it. If you want that to change, you need to work hard and become a boss yourself, or get another job. In an ideal world, you could be moved around your current workplace, but it doesn't sound like that is going to be possible?