Problems at work...what do I do now?

[Rroff]

...what can you say about this thread...

Jim might have taken it personally, Jim might have taken it very personally especially when you say you will work with someone but won't look them in the eye but...

Jim is being a professional.

You aren't there to make friends (though it's nice when it happens) you are there to work to the best of your ability and be given money for doing that.

Jim is rising above all the agro and drama and being professional.

What else is he going to do, have a big strop back at you thereby making it an awful atmosphere for you, him and everyone else round you?

Good grief, stop being so dramatic. Put your hours in and go home. It sounds like he's giving you the opportunity to wipe the slate clean, say nothing more about it and get on with the job.

Do it, and keep looking for other employment in the mean time as you've given yourself a hell of a blot on your copy book where you are now!

If you have a real grievance speak to them in the disciplinary you've got coming up, for example "I just don't like him" isn't a real grievance.


I'm usually sympathetic when people have problems but you've come across so badly in just describing what's going on it sounds like you're the problem more than anything else. I hope the situation doesn't have as much drama as you've described.

Yup if his behavior was inappropriate or he had personal hygiene issues I could understand it. Otherwise you've got to remember your there to work not make friends (tho theres no reason why you can't but I absolutely understand not wanting to have anything to do with some people outside of a professional context).

There have been people I just can't stand and tried to avoid as much as possible which sometimes causes the odd issue but at the end of the day hes just doing a job.

 

[me227]

Wow, I wish this was a troll thread!

It was a big mistake to send that e-mail to HR! Complaining about your boss, your pay, your holiday entitlement and saying you'd take the next offer that comes along.

Nice one.

EDIT: After reading the rest of the thread. If you have a problem with your manager taking work, then you need to gather evidence of this. E-mails, work logs, etc. HR aren't going to care about moaning e-mails being sent to them.

 

[guyfawkes5]

Disciplinary tomorrow?

*subscribe*

Try a final confrontation with 'Jim' Fight Club style and beat yourself to a pulp in his presence to frame him of your assault. It seems your only viable option at this point.

 

[TrixiBuG]

There's being professional and there's being passive aggressive by knowing exactly what you're doing and completely allowing the other party to try and fix it with little option other than to call you out, while you just sit there like a complete **** while looking calm all along.

I've worked with loads of people like this, they're complete idiots, they'll do anything to abuse their position in and will argue in the face of logic and facts but when it comes to someone getting tired of them and trying to do something about it, they just stay silent and smug about it because there isn't a tactful way about telling HR "This person is a complete idiot, help".

That's not to say this happened at all here, but it happens.

To bring this thread to a conclusion...the above describes Jim perfectly

Well, to be honest my email that I sent, as a standalone email I 110% agree with all of you in regards to it sounding like I’m a whiny *****...as it is, from the people who have know about the ongoing issues between me and Jim, that email sums everything up.

I had the 'disciplinary' meeting this morning. This was centred on my conduct and nothing else. And in all honesty it was a good meeting. I discussed my personal issues that I had outside of work, and that these impacted on my role inside of the business...the end outcome has basically been a 'Don't do it again and if you ever have any issues you (me) need to raise them and not let them drag on for weeks'

That’s it.

Edit: to add, the whole process, as bad as it sounds and was, has cleared the air.

 

[Lakeland]

To bring this thread to a conclusion...the above describes Jim perfectly

Well, to be honest my email that I sent, as a standalone email I 110% agree with all of you in regards to it sounding like I’m a whiny *****...as it is, from the people who have know about the ongoing issues between me and Jim, that email sums everything up.

I had the 'disciplinary' meeting this morning. This was centred on my conduct and nothing else. And in all honesty it was a good meeting. I discussed my personal issues that I had outside of work, and that these impacted on my role inside of the business...the end outcome has basically been a 'Don't do it again and if you ever have any issues you (me) need to raise them and not let them drag on for weeks'

That’s it.

Edit: to add, the whole process, as bad as it sounds and was, has cleared the air.

You say it's all sorted, but he has done nothing since you complained to stop your skin crawling or making your stomach heave? Shame you had to drag someone through the mud just to get some attention.

 

[-BA-]

You say it's all sorted, but he has done nothing since you complained to stop your skin crawling or making your stomach heave? Shame you had to drag someone through the mud just to get some attention.

Wow you didn't read the thread did you. Passive aggressive is as nasty a trait as aggressive behaviour. There are some people who are extremely adept at making others look loony tunes by making sure they never get seen behaving inappropriately or in a controlling manner; seen it many times.

Some pretty frank responses in this thread which are just fine as everyone has a right to express an opinion but I have to say some pretty nasty responses from keyboard assassins... Nothing changes in GD.

 

[mjd]

However, unless she has committed gross misconduct (unlikely) there is no reason why this situation isn't recoverable. She's been employed 5 years, a disciplinary procedure resulting in dismissal is very unlikely.

Whilst I agree with this and can see no basis for dismissal, any 'disciplinary' proceedings are likely to go on record. Furthermore, said proceedings will naturally draw additonal attention to an employee and affect future judgements in relation to the employees behaviour, standard of work etc...

Keep your head down and suck it up would be the best course of action after the dust has settled.