Ever so slightly angry right now!
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I admire your optimism, though fear it is founded on much naivety
It's probably better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all...
I have some hope that out there a few women aren't just just generically womanly mental.
Thanks guys. I know I need to be more alpha about this, but at least by giving her a few days to think about things I can't be accused of just ditching her as soon as she has doubts. 3 days without contact though is a clear enough sign that she can't commit and it wasn't just a knee-jerk reaction to our argument.
At least she's given me enough reasons to dislike her..that will make it much easier to deal with in my head.
mejinks - nothing like cheating..it was problems in her family having a knock-on effect on our relationship. It made her a very angry person, but she's managed to work through it.
At least she's given me enough reasons to dislike her..that will make it much easier to deal with in my head.
mejinks - nothing like cheating..it was problems in her family having a knock-on effect on our relationship. It made her a very angry person, but she's managed to work through it.
When me and my now wife moved in it was effortless, just felt completely normal. I would probably agree that there's issues within the relationship that are only apparent now its crunch time. All that aside you don't need to hate her if you break up, hate just puts off getting over someone and makes you look petty. Do it with dignity and you'll be a better person in the long run.
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If she has u-turned like that, then she is either playing hard-to-get or she has been cheating for a while. I don't tolerate either. Get rid.
Why wait, put the pressure on and tell her she has 24 hours to decide, if she can't then finish it and move on. These things tend to just happen if they are right, my view is her cold feet are for reasons she isn't sharing with you right now.
Why would she bring her own personal problems into a relationship? Is she still very young or just as emotionally needy as a 6 year old?
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there's possibly something more going here than a simple loyalty test (which they definitely do do despite assertions to the contrary!), sit down and ask her whats really up but don't be surprised if you don;t like the answer.
+1 on every count.
When I moved in with the wife it felt "comfortable" There was nothing rushed or pressured. It didn't feel like "the right thing to do" or any of that. Sure we have our ups and downs, but she knows I won't tolerate childish behaviour unless its by mutual consent
and she knows that if there is anything on our minds, it gets resolved before bed.
Sounds to me like your obsessed about living together. Instead of enjoying your relationship it seems you have only one thing on your mind and she's got bored.
Call it quits now and don't move in together because the rot in your relationship has already set in.
Call it quits now and don't move in together because the rot in your relationship has already set in.
Did you even read the OP? I don't think you did...
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Jesus, what kind of woman have you guys met that perform 'loyalty' tests? I assumed it was a joke to begin with but it's mentioned a few times now. We're not being serious here are we?
Probably just cold feet. She'll get over it
patience is always the key here
this is why you keep a few female friends on standby. Promote one to GF.
Should always have a backup plan (inc financial etc) just for this very situation... you know its about it hit because everything is going swimmingly....
What is it about them that they can happily smile act and lie about love to your face....un ****** real.
Villiany thy name is woman..
Should always have a backup plan (inc financial etc) just for this very situation... you know its about it hit because everything is going swimmingly....
What is it about them that they can happily smile act and lie about love to your face....un ****** real.
Villiany thy name is woman..
Only have a rebound if she is better looking than your ex. Downgrading just makes you look like a man whore.
110% this. When I moved in with my gf, now fiance, it was the easiest and most natural thing to happen to us both. Fast forward a year and it still feels perfect.
3 years to wait untill moving in is a very long time. From the sounds of it (not that im an exeprt), it doesn't seem like this move in is a natural progression of your relationship.
