Infertility: My Experiences So Far
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yeah some people take years, why stop now? its only been a few months...
We'd been trying for about 18 months before we started investigations to see if there was anything wrong. It's now been three years.
Congratulations for putting a well written and humorous piece of writing together at a time where you clearly must be feeling incredibly low. I really do hope it all comes good for you and your missus, no matter what route you decide to go down.
Oh ok fair enough. Not to be too graphic, were/are you "counting the days" so as to perform when you think you must, or are you having it at least once a day every day? I think a lot of women deem themselves experts on when they are ovulating, when...well...they aren't. Sometimes it's better to just make sure you have it twice daily for weeks upon end. I know...
Haha, yeah there are certain apps available to calculate the best days based on the cycle. There was also monitoring of temperature on a daily basis a a better indicator. But this wasn't at the expense of a regular and frequent... session
Thanks for the kind words, it has certainly been difficult.
It Definatly sounds like you have the right outlook.
Adoption / fostering is something we have been investigating. We have decided to give it a couple of years before taking it further though.
So..........you will give birth?
I'm going through same thing mate, except my wife got pregnant and lost the pregancy at 5 weeks, after a textbook procedure before that and had to go through harsh forced miscarriage at the hospital which didn't happen as quick as it should and took days to work.....
Mine is NHS funded too, but we decided to to have level one blood screen screen done at the cost of £1800 which threw up some interesting results as it turned out my Mrs has a slight clotting disorder which means the small capillaries formed in early pregnancy would get blocked and kill off growth of the fetus...
She could conceived numerous times but failed to form a blood supply according to the doc as everything else was working perfectly. She also has trouble metabolising Folic Acid according to blood tests which is important as well. The good news is a simple daily injection and aspirin solves the blood clotting issue, and pre metabolised Folic Acid supplements solve her other issue so we go into our next attempt in a few weeks with a higher chance of success...
My advice is look into the level 1 blood tests if you can as the NHS doesn't offer them, and the standard tests fertility NHS does do not cover for potential issues after conception... You could be conceiving as normal but losing it very early which would go unnoticed or maybe show up as the mrs being a few days late every now and then, which is the case with my scenario.
IVF is massively intrusive, and time consuming and we lost motivation for it after the first time, but with these new findings hopefully our next attempt which will be a frozen embryo transfer, (Much less hassle than none frozen.) will be more successful.
Mine is NHS funded too, but we decided to to have level one blood screen screen done at the cost of £1800 which threw up some interesting results as it turned out my Mrs has a slight clotting disorder which means the small capillaries formed in early pregnancy would get blocked and kill off growth of the fetus...
She could conceived numerous times but failed to form a blood supply according to the doc as everything else was working perfectly. She also has trouble metabolising Folic Acid according to blood tests which is important as well. The good news is a simple daily injection and aspirin solves the blood clotting issue, and pre metabolised Folic Acid supplements solve her other issue so we go into our next attempt in a few weeks with a higher chance of success...
My advice is look into the level 1 blood tests if you can as the NHS doesn't offer them, and the standard tests fertility NHS does do not cover for potential issues after conception... You could be conceiving as normal but losing it very early which would go unnoticed or maybe show up as the mrs being a few days late every now and then, which is the case with my scenario.
IVF is massively intrusive, and time consuming and we lost motivation for it after the first time, but with these new findings hopefully our next attempt which will be a frozen embryo transfer, (Much less hassle than none frozen.) will be more successful.
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Crank one out in the hospital carpark next time? Save racing across town with your pot of man sauce.
Very well written about a very hard time.
I know a couple going through the same thing
Very well written about a very hard time.
I know a couple going through the same thing
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Going through the same thing at this exact moment.
Due to abdominal surgery several years ago my wifes eggs are unable to travel through the fallopian tubes. Therefore we are going through our first cycle of IVF.
After all the injections she had 19 follicles which produced 8 eggs, 7 of which were mature. She had her egg collection done under sedation so we were back home a couple of hours after the procedure.
She's been through a lot worse surgery so this bit was a lot easier for her than I imagine it being for others.
We went in for embryo transfer on Monday, 5 days after collection. The 4 embryos were doing well so they transferred after 5 days instead of 3 which is the alternative. However we found out yesterday that the remaining embryos didn't do as well as they thought and so couldn't be frozen. This was upsetting as it would have been an extra chance if this one didn't work.
Now have to wait until next Wednesday when she has a blood test to see if she's pregnant. Apparently there is only a 40% chance of a pregnancy at this stage but it's better than no chance at all.
Really hoping it works as I don't want to have to see her going through 5 weeks of injections and the worry that goes with it.
Due to abdominal surgery several years ago my wifes eggs are unable to travel through the fallopian tubes. Therefore we are going through our first cycle of IVF.
After all the injections she had 19 follicles which produced 8 eggs, 7 of which were mature. She had her egg collection done under sedation so we were back home a couple of hours after the procedure.
She's been through a lot worse surgery so this bit was a lot easier for her than I imagine it being for others.
We went in for embryo transfer on Monday, 5 days after collection. The 4 embryos were doing well so they transferred after 5 days instead of 3 which is the alternative. However we found out yesterday that the remaining embryos didn't do as well as they thought and so couldn't be frozen. This was upsetting as it would have been an extra chance if this one didn't work.
Now have to wait until next Wednesday when she has a blood test to see if she's pregnant. Apparently there is only a 40% chance of a pregnancy at this stage but it's better than no chance at all.
Really hoping it works as I don't want to have to see her going through 5 weeks of injections and the worry that goes with it.
Well I hope this never happens to you. If that was all you had to say in this thread then you could have just left without saying a word. Obviously writing about it has made the guy feel very slightly better.
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jaybee was just summarising it for someone else who said tl:dr, don't harsh on him bro
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Took us about 3 years, I was thinking about visiting the doc to start investigations when it happened for us, don't give up hope.
