Infertility: My Experiences So Far

Damn. That truly does sound heartbreaking....

Thank you for sharing, and congrats for having the guts to share.

Good luck with your future attempts... and I guess keep trying naturally anyway? Although I imagine it's quite hard to try when you have quite a big downer on the whole idea :S

Good luck. Seriously.

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Just wanted to say thanks again to everyone who has posted, reading about all your experiences is comforting. I'd also like to say that I know that my position is no way unique, and I genuinely wish all those who might be going through or have gone through similar problems all the very best.

Tonight we're having a glass of wine, gonna try to forget about everything for a bit.

Stoddy, thanks for your frank post, it raises a couple of questions that I'll be asking the consultant in a couple of weeks. And I know what you mean about Facebook; I had to block a significant number of friends for the same reason! Unfortunately we're at an age now where most of our friends are popping babies out left right and centre, and they want to share their joy with the world. ********! :p
 
Total respect to the OP for having the down right balls to post something so open and honest in the mine field of GD. I can't offer any practical advice or help but I wish nothing but good luck to you and your Mrs.
 
Thanks for sharing the experience with us. I don't think anyone really understands what people have to go through in that situation. :( hope you are both ok.

It's strange for a woman... you spend the first third of your life trying not to get pregnant and the next trying to - I think it's every woman's fear and you don't expect it - because that is what we are MEANT to do right?

My friends went through the same 3 times and now have twin girls :) (she only told me because the 12 days were on my 30th party and she couldn't attend - to this day I think the family are still wondering how twins got in the family!).

Sometimes the stress of it all doesn't help - chill for a bit and enjoy each other :)

BB x
 
Hi, I just wanted to add my own story as well to give some hope to the op.

I'm 28, my first son was conceived naturally 7 years ago. We had been trying after he was born. No luck for the next 4 or so years. We went to the doctors many times to figure where the problem was. It turned out that it was in both of us. Low sperm count and low quality (for me obviously) and endometriosis (sp?) for my wife.

It took them quite a long time to figure out the problem with my wife as there is no test that can be done to detect it other than surgery to have a look. Doctors found and removed the troubled areas in surgery. By now we already knew that IVF was our best chance, but because we had a son already, no free goes on the NHS.

Took us a year to save the money for the 1st treatment. So 2 years ago we went through the whole process for IVF (most difficult part for my wife was the daily injections I had to give my wife). During the process 8 eggs were mature bit only survived the process for implantation. At the end the result was negative and of course we were devastated.

It took us another year to save the money, and last year we went through it again. In April my 2nd son was born. One of the best days of my life.

Throughout the 2nd time we talked about trying again if it was unsuccessful. So i just wanted to to say to the op to keep trying if possible and hopefully you'll get what you wish for.
 
Brilliantly written. Wow.

I've always known about IVF and the like, but not being of the age to be even thinking about "family" it's not something that's ever been put into perspective for me. Until now.

The OPs post and the others in the thread really bring it home how difficult it really must be for couples in this situation. It's upsetting for me and I'm just reading it on a bloody computer enthusiasts forum!

I hope it works out for you OP, and others. All the best.
 
Can't really say anything that hasn't already been said really, can just wish you good luck with the future and whatever path you choose to go down :).
 
It seems the people who want and deserve a child the most have the hardest time, Big props to you for sharing bud, i feel for both of you, I have a 3 month old daughter but had lots issues during the pregnancy and I felt completely useless.

If I may ask, your story jumps right into giving samples and going for IVF, was dietary intake or general health ever covered, the reason I ask, during my preconception health studies at uni they ranted and raved about sorting your diet and exercise before discussing further treatment possibilities.
 
Justintime said:
Is adoption not a consideration?
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We did speak about it at the time but it was something we weren't 100% sure about. We haven't spoke about it for years now. Tbh we are used to it being the 2 of us now and as we are both approaching mid 40s I am not sure if the age factor would go against us or not?
 
I do know a 44 and 46yr old couple who have adopted and were successful, this was a few yrs back so not sure if things have changed.
 
Hugs, lots of hugs (got a manly tear in my eye).

As a smile thing I thought your description of jerking the merkin was well written (should write a better version of 50 shades of grey).

But seriously many man hugs for both of you as I couldn't think what else to do
 
didn't read the op tbh but have you heard of coQ10 or ubiquinol? I take this stuff on and off for general health and noticed a lot of fertility related info about it. Might be worth throwing it in the mix, you never know. It's very safe and has been studied a lot and not very expensive.

https://www.medify.com/insights/art...ble-blind-placebo-controlled-randomized-study

RESULTS: At the end of the 26-week treatment period mean ± SD sperm density in the ubiquinol and placebo groups was 28.7 ± 4.6 × 10(6)/ml and 16.8 ± 4.4 × 10(6)/ml (p = 0.005), sperm motility was 35.8% ± 2.7% and 25.4% ± 2.1% (p = 0.008), and sperm strict morphology was 17.6% ± 4.4% and 14.8% ± 4.1% (p = 0.01) of normal sperm, respectively. During the treatment period serum follicle-stimulating hormone levels decreased significantly (p = 0.02) and serum inhibin B concentrations increased significantly (p = 0.01). During the off-drug period semen parameters gradually returned to baseline values but the differences were still significant for sperm density (p = 0.03) and sperm motility (p = 0.03). The correlation coefficients analysis revealed a positive association between the duration of treatment with ubiquinol and sperm density (r = 0.74, p = 0.017), sperm motility (r = 0.66, p = 0.024) and sperm morphology (r = 0.57, p = 0.027).

There's also some studies on it for egg quality during IVF.
 
A very interesting read and brilliantly written. I never appreciated what a drawn out process IVF is.

I hope you and your wife can get some more positive news soon!
 
A lot of people put off having a child until they are "stable" and "things have settled" and and and....
Sometimes you just have to say to yourselves, there is no reason why I could not have one now. I'm saying do not necessarily put it off till say mid 30s because you deem it the right "time". We generally become less and less fertile as we age. Often the time is now. Just think about that.
Bodies change. One year you may conceive by as little as practically looking in your partners direction, a year later it's all changed.
While it works...use it.
 
That was a hard read, sounds a dreadful thing to go through. Hope you and your wife work through it.

Not read all the replies in the thread. But have you thought about adoption? It's a long process, but it could fill your needs and also help out some kids future.
 
Can't imagine what you are going through :( Just puts it into perspective.

All I can say is that you should try IVF again if you can afford to do so. I know one couple who had to try it half a dozen times before they were awarded with twins.
 
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