multi-generation housing (living with your mum)

The decider for me is the bills - living at home I only pay to cover costs I incur (and some token "rent") so I get a nice house to live in and a level of disposable income I couldn't have living on my own.

If I had to pay the same amount either way I'd live in a place of my own.
 
Big house, then again my parents are balanced people, they never interfere or impose and we get on great so I'd have no problem living with/near them.
 
QuickLink said:
Where is the option for the extremely nice house of my own?

My Mum wouldn't even have me. They have their own places and stuff. No chance, even if they would allow it, I wouldn't want it. Learn your own way, working your way up through your own levels of achievement. Makes it worth that much more.
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The thread is sort of a real-life question because my siblings have all moved out now so my mum has a big empty house in the middle of nowhere so she wants to sell and buy a small place in central London closer to friends and the like. But to live there she wouldn't really be able to retire.

The other option she hinted about is moving to live with me in the USA and pooling resources, then retiring and using the extra money to travel. Because for about 1/2 of what she would pay for a London house she could buy quite a mansion here for cash.

It's tempting but it would feel a bit like cheating like you said. Plus I love my mum tons of course but she gets a bit annoying.

A few of my neighbours live like this with 3 or 4 generations in a big fancy house, but they are all Indian/Chinese so it's more in their culture already.
 
Rroff said:
The decider for me is the bills - living at home I only pay to cover costs I incur (and some token "rent") so I get a nice house to live in and a level of disposable income I couldn't have living on my own.

If I had to pay the same amount either way I'd live in a place of my own.
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But surely everyone eventually has to pay the bills? That's, you know, life? You end up living in a bubble with nothing of your own.
 
kwerk said:
The thread is sort of a real-life question because my siblings have all moved out now so my mum has a big empty house in the middle of nowhere so she wants to sell and buy a small place in central London closer to friends and the like. But to live there she wouldn't really be able to retire.

The other option she hinted about is moving to live with me in the USA and pooling resources, then retiring and using the extra money to travel. Because for about 1/2 of what she would pay for a London house she could buy quite a mansion here for cash.

It's tempting but it would feel a bit like cheating like you said. Plus I love my mum tons of course but she gets a bit annoying.

A few of my neighbours live like this with 3 or 4 generations in a big fancy house, but they are all Indian/Chinese so it's more in their culture already.
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Yours is a different situation to the one I'm talking about really.
 
Depends on your mum, considering she could cook, clean, babysit etc. it could be a much better situation, specially if you have a proper granny flat to separate yourselves.
May mean no sex in any room of the house....
 
Is your mum a good shot? Can she stick to a rationed diet?

Her moving in could throw all of your apocalypse plans awry
 
Apart from that I would probably go for the big house. I wouldn't want her to move in with me in a small place, but with a big enough place where she has her own wing it wouldn't be a problem
 
Uncle Petey said:
Easily this. My mum's an awesome cook and would go nuts with growing food and getting chickens and milk producing beasts, plus I'd be able to get a few more dogs what with all that land :D
Great environment for kids too.

If your mum's a meddling harpy, then no.
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I read that wrong first time :o :p
 
Big house, but saying that I wouldn't not live with my mum in the average size house either. She's put up with me for all these years, I don't mind returning the favour at all.

So long as der be bacon sandwiches in teh mornin'!! And my washing etc.
 
The OP has forgotten option 3, which is "lolkwerk".

Seriously though, option 2 sounds like a nice compromise. You get to see your mum more often but you and her have your own separate spaces too.
 
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I already am... minus the swimming pool though :(
It got talked about once but the cost of the conservatory to cover it nailed the coffin lid shut on that. :(
 
I love my parents dearly but I couldn't live with them and feel comfortable in a relationship, if I was single then yea I wouldnt have any issue
 
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