Always remove them from situation, does not stop them getting in that situation over and over again, comment reeks of not knowing raising a child, you won't know until you have one
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Always remove them from situation, does not stop them getting in that situation over and over again, comment reeks of not knowing raising a child, you won't know until you have one
I, for one, did not say it did.
Smacking and hitting aren't the same. If you hit someone that could be a punch, and a hit is normally not administered to the bottom
A smack traditionally is using the open hand on a child's backside, where is causes moderate stinging but leaves no mark and does no damage.
A smack is a valid form of discipline, and sometime's it's all a child will respond to, if they've gotten themselves into a tantrum.
Tried talking a child down from a tantrum? Yeah, good luck with that. Children aren't always rational, you know.
Morba, I understand your point of view, can you tell me what harm speaking to his teacher in the morning and then referring to police/social services will do? I don't see a bad outcome from that.
unless you do?
Ok so we are both agreeing with the same thing, I have just felt the need as a last resort to do it, I have not had to do it with my youngest though.
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I agree in this situation it's the police who should be contacted.
That said schools are required to report things like this, and if you child had told their teacher instead of you then it should be reported.
so you remove yourself from the situation of hitting your partner but don't remove your children from the situation of a tantrum or danger to stop the need to smack?
guess moving your child to a quite place to tantrum or to reason with is to much hard work.
ooook!
guess moving your child to a quite place to tantrum or to reason with is to much hard work.
ooook!
Those aren't the only two options...
Correction through hitting is still hitting.
Deal with them rather than hitting your child...
Hell yeah. Loves it.
Oh my.
Why the hell are you putting your child in a position where they can enter an 'extremely dangerous' situation?
This is such a pathetic cop out to criticism...
Yeah, you posted while I was still trying to post
Harm - well it's a pointless act that is a waste of time. The teacher was not there, they were not informed by the child first. Telling them now means nothing and adds no weight to support you.
If you are truly concerned enough to ring NSPCC then surely a similar call to social services is no longer and more productive.
What has that got to do with anything?
It's a simple yes or no question... will his child be staying with someone who he knows to be abusing him, whilst he is pussyfooting around the issue?
What power he has doesn't matter in the slightest... he should have phoned the police by now anyway.
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Nah, just give it a hit. That'll learn it, and help you to get your aggression out at the same time!
They will be at school in the morning as normal, depending on the outcome of social services/police the school will withhold access to the children and I will collect them.
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This guy made your kid drink **** and you want him to learn a lesson in parenting?
I feel sorry for your children that you are so spineless.
If you can't have you children at least let the state remove them from the abuse.
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Whenever I was a kid I hated my mum making me go to my room and would have preferred a smack and then get on with my life.
At school we always had a choice of punishment and I never chose detention.
A quick caning, rulering or slippering and I was out of there.
Lets give you a scenario, your young child is very active and loves to run around, he keeps trying to run into a busy road, what would you do to teach your child that a car will kill them?
I think where we differ is you would probably feel it is a more valid method of discipline than I ...the situation would have to be extremely serious for me to even consider it, and if I can reach a child to smack them I should be able to reach a child to remove them from the danger....I have always gone with the raised voice..the louder, the more important or serious the situation. As I never shout as a rule when I do it scares the bejesus out of everyone, let alone my child. Now that he is 13 it only takes a certain look to tell him I am not amused, and he knows that if I shout then he is really in the doodoo.
My wife says she tapped his hand once when he was toddler because he tried to stick it in the fire.....she didn't tell me because she knows how I feel about violence in the home and it wasn't that important at the time. She is right, a tap on the hand or a light smack on the bottom is not important, as others have said smacking is not hitting, although I am always wary of how easily some can justify one as the other....
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Easy. Child leash/harness.
Show them some car-crash gore pictures. Or not let the child play near a road without some form of obstruction to stop them from running into it.