Child forced to drink own urine

Did I wake up in the Dark ages ?

I think you've done the right thing staying calm even though I would personally find that impossible.
 
Richand said:
he also smacks my children for reasons the children don't know, they are honest kids and would admit to wrong doing, I have never laid a finger on them, they are clever enough to be reasoned with.
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Another man who slaps your child? Even the thought of someone lifting a hand to my daughter gets my blood boiling,

This if true, is well out of order.

I honestly hope you never leave your kids in the company of this man again!
 
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cHk4 said:
You let another man lay his hands on your children with no repercussions?
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No repercussions? do you really think the social services wont refer the matter to the police and him going on some register ****ing up his life?

be giving him a couple of bruises or a life on a child abuse register?
 
Richand said:
No repercussions? do you really think the social services wont refer the matter to the police and him going on some register ****ing up his life?

be giving him a couple of bruises or a life on a child abuse register?
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I don't think the read the whole thread mate.

Good luck, I hope he and your ex get what is coming to them.
 
Richand said:
be giving him a couple of bruises or a life on a child abuse register?
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I wasn't thinking of a couple of bruises, you got to be creative and no I'm not talking about murder neither. I must admit I didn't read the whole thread though but good luck, hope it all works out and justice is served in whatever manor it is dealt.
 
I admire your restraint. As a father of a six year old boy, I know full well that they can be a handful but hitting them is not the answer. My son is pretty smart for his age and can be reasoned with (but I do expect a counter argument from the little tike) to better control his energy and excitement.

Having worked for Social Services, I can also see the can of worms that would be opened up by confronting the 'uncle' so again, well done for thinking it through before acting. I freely admit that if my son was being abused in such a manner, I would have a very hard time not dealing directly with the abuser. Well done you.
 
I really feel for the OP, being a parent myself I applaud you for the calm and collective way you are dealing with this situation. I fully understand not going in guns blazing and ripping him apart because as you say the custody and access to the children are the most important part and doing this correctly will guarantee their safe keeping and more so full custody of the most important things in your life.

I honestly hope this works for you and the children end up in your custody, you seem like a calm person and the best person to look after these children !
 
kokuten said:
I really feel for the OP, being a parent myself I applaud you for the calm and collective way you are dealing with this situation. I fully understand not going in guns blazing and ripping him apart because as you say the custody and access to the children are the most important part and doing this correctly will guarantee their safe keeping and more so full custody of the most important things in your life.

I honestly hope this works for you and the children end up in your custody, you seem like a calm person and the best person to look after these children !
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You applaud him for not going to the police about a child abuse case?
 
So many idiots in this thread implying he's a bad parent for not getting himself locked up for assault (leaving the child with them for the foreseeable future), the immense stupidity & irony involved in beating somebody up for using physical punishment as a tool on another human seems to have been missed by most.

Get the law & the proper people involve, remain calm & go for full custody - but you really do need to get the authorities involved.
 
I'm in agreement with a lot in this thread. Smacking is completely unacceptable as a means of discipline.

How is teaching children that the way to instil respect and obedience in a person is to do it by violence?

I'm not against a short sharp shock in situations where their actions could seriously injure themselves or others (running across a road, etc) because it's preferable to the alternative (and while standard discipline usually takes repetition, repeating something dangerous might go badly) but it should definitely be used as a complete last resort.

In my opinion parents who smack lack the discipline that they themselves are trying to make their children have. It's an easy way out and a way for them to exercise their own frustrations.

And yes, I'm a parent.

On topic though, definitely get the police involved. Any actions directly between you and the mother/her partner would be used against you in court if it came to it. Be the bigger man but do everything in your power to protect your child.
 
Hatter The Mad said:
You applaud him for not going to the police about a child abuse case?
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i applaud him for not following a lot of peoples advice on here and going round and beating this bloke up, he has contacted SS according to his updates and should hopefully be able to take these kids after school by close of play today if all goes well. so yes i do
 
elmarko1234 said:
So many idiots in this thread implying he's a bad parent for not getting himself locked up for assault (leaving the child with them for the foreseeable future), the immense stupidity & irony involved in beating somebody up for using physical punishment as a tool on another human seems to have been missed by most.

Get the law & the proper people involve, remain calm & go for full custody - but you really do need to get the authorities involved.
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What do you expect, it's OCUK, keyboards at the ready... en garde! :D

OP did the right thing by keeping his cool, collecting evidence, and then going through the proper channels. The long term goal of getting custody far outweighs the short term satisfaction of seeing his (bigger and harder from the sounds of it) kids uncle beaten up. When you factor in the risk that could have with getting custody, he would have to be a complete idiot to do it.

Look at it this way though; if the mother loses custody as a result of what the uncle (and her) has done, can you imagine how utterly miserable they are going to make each other with arguments and blame games? Their long-term emotional misery will be immense, and that's more damaging than a few bruises or broken bones. ;)
 
Richand said:
right, as I said in the OP, I wanted to vent on here but seeing as the response has been pretty big I will give you guys an update.

I rang the social services last night, they will do a report today, there is more abuse than the urine issue, which may seem petty when explained but if you saw the video evidence then your opinion would change, I wont post it as it features my children and ex.

I went to the school and spoke to my son's favourite teacher who he thinks is amazing, I didn't get my son to talk to him as that would further his embarrassment, the school have a safe guarding team (basically all the teachers) which works with the social services.

they are going to have a meeting with my ex about the matter, they where disgusted as the children are both amazing kids and the teacher in questions favourite child.

to all the "batter him" people, I take it you don't have children, what good will me being seen as a violent man do for my children? nothing.
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So the teachers are going to have a meeting with the ex? In the mean time they go back into the abusive enviroment.

And you have video evidence of previous abuse and let this go on?
 
kokuten said:
i'm glad you contributed...
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I'm sorry, but there is no way this thread can be true. Why the hell would you come onto a computer forum to tell random folk that your brother-in-law made your 6 year old child drink his own wee?

Seems a tad bit nonsense like a lot of threads that pop up in this section.

If it is indeed true, which i hope it isnt (sorry if it is), i hope the kids uncle gets everything he deserves.

Certainly know what would happen if it was to happen in my family, fortunately enough though, we don't have any sick *******'s in my family.
 
UncleRuckus said:
So the teachers are going to have a meeting with the ex? In the mean time they go back into the abusive enviroment.

And you have video evidence of previous abuse and let this go on?
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From the sounds of things the mavity of the situation hasn't been expressed enough to the teacher or the teacher simply isn't doing their job properly... because if everything Richand says in this thread is true, at least where i work, there would be an immediate phone call to child protection services and they would want to meet with you and maybe the children before getting the mother and uncle involved.

If there's child abuse going on, the worst thing you can do is call one of the abusers to come and meet ffs!
 
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