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You prat, go get your bitch back!
Such a painful day...
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Haha, literally? I see what you did there
Did you read this thread? http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18378953
Maybe you should have saved the money instead of spending it on luxuries you couldn't afford.
I understand it's hard to deal with and everything Castiel, but Jaffa seems to be under the illusion that it's not totally his fault.
Obviously his Dad wasn't paying the mortgage or Jaffa_Far in his youth miscalculated his ability to live within his means, but whatever the reasons, the fella has had to give up his Dog, he doesn't need us lot giving him a lecture and making him feel worse than he already does.
We all make mistakes in life, hell I've made some right **** ups particularly when I was young...you live and learn. All I'm saying is give the kid a break, this isn't the same as his other threads and he must be feeling pretty low right now.
Haha, literally? I see what you did there
Did you read this thread? http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18378953
Maybe you should have saved the money instead of spending it on luxuries you couldn't afford.
I understand it's hard to deal with and everything Castiel, but Jaffa seems to be under the illusion that it's not totally his fault.
Exactly. You didn't care enough about the dog to make sensible financial decisions, and you're not paying for it emotionally.
So if you came into some money, you would put it away, in-case down the line, your work office burns down? Just an example. 90% would spend it as it's a bonus, it wasn't there before and I was doing OK. I went on holiday, oh, wait...that's irresponsible as well I guess. Not going on holiday for around 7 years and finally able to go...oh...wait...I should put that money away as in 6 months Manda's clients may die...if we all lived like that, no-one would spend any money.
It's not like I don't understand how he's feeling, I just feel like he doesn't fully appreciate how irresponsible he's been and that he won't learn from the mistake. Realising that the dog is suffering due to his actions might be a suitable start. Ignorance is no excuse - you should know this better than anyone being ex military.
If I didn't already have some money as a buffer than yes, I absolutely would! I plan for real life, which is unpredictable. Keep the excuses coming, I'm sure you're going to convince yourself that this isn't your fault at all and that you had no choice in the matter.
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I have admitted I have made mistakes. Lessons have been learnt. I will miss my dog more than anything, this has really hurt me. I was a bubbling mess earlier.
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Your Dad made you give up your dog despite the fact you'd be looking after it anyways? My Dad wouldn't have done such a thing (not that i'm comparing Dads) but even if he did i'd tell him to shut it and still have a roof over my head and a bitch to sleep with, haha sorry OP.
I might know it now, but not so much when I was younger, I made my fair share of stupid decisions and paid for them, and unfortunately so have some others......None of us are perfect, and he has done the responsible thing, he has found a good home for his dog, many would not have.
I am sure he knows where he has made mistakes and hopefully he learns from them, but I think you are being a bit harsh on him, give the kid a break...if in 18 months we get another 'I have had to give up my dog' thread then castigate him but for now I think we should give him a break.
He has only done that because he has been forced to do so as it's the only option. What other options could he have taken?
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Told his Dad he would look after his dog and that one extra dog wouldn't hurt. Finance wise dog foods cheap as chips so money couldn't have been the real reason. His Dad just forced him into a pretty crappy situation and he didn't have the balls to tell his Dad to pipe down and let his dog be.
No matter what I told him made no difference, his girlfriend was willing, but truth be told, he never liked the dog when I lived with him and my mum. The dog food I bought was £15 a bag and at 15 Kg it lasted a month or so, chicken and rice, nutritionally balanced etc etc. I offered to keep paying, he had non of it, waaaay to stubborn...
He could have dumped the dog, taken him to a shelter where he might have been put down or gone into a group kennel until an owner was found....
And as you say he was forced into a position whereby he had to give up his Dog, regardless of the financial mistakes you think he has made, that alone is enough to give the kid some slack......it's great that you are financially aware and have the means and ability to plan for every eventuality and act responsibly with your money all the time, but some of us are not so able and we learn from cocking it up a few times first....
While this is true, not everyone has advice thrown at them left right and center, only to selfishly ignore it completely. I can't help but get a little annoyed by people that **** it up despite having absolutely tonnes of advice urging them to be responsible. It just screams hopelessly irresponsible and ignorant.
I had plenty of people telling me, but I knew better...I didn't, but then I was young and did it anyway.
Sometimes it takes experience for it to sink in...with me it took a few times tbh....
Well in that case congratulations Jaffa on making a mistake, ensure you make a lot more mistakes as this is just how some people learn everything in life as opposed to listening to others.
Or, listen to others and stop feeling so sorry for yourself when you make a mistake.
Pfft..or simply feel for guy who has had to give up his Dog today, or as my Gran used to say...if you haven't anything nice to say about someone when they are down on their luck, don't say anything.
There is a time for criticism, for Jaffa_Far today isn't it.
Luck's got nothing to do with it.
It's called a figure of speech, and while I am sure you have every right to be so superior, Jaffa_Far still had to give up his dog and being an arse about it isn't going to change that...sometimes a bit of compassion is more appropriate than a tonne of criticism, no matter how justified you might think it is.
I think everyone, particularly Jaffa_Far now knows how you feel about his misfortune, now might be a time to give it a rest and leave him be.